NY NY - Robert Mayer, 46, Dix Hills, 14 Jun 2013 - # 7

[Curious Cathy]

Usually, though, in a case like this, with the patient reported missing, the facility will counsel the patient about letting his family or LE know that he is safe. Not necessarily his location, but safe. The Patient Advocacy, the Facility Legal Department, and the Ethics Committee, get involved in a heartbeat to determine the best thing to do. HIPPA is involved definitely, and it's the patients' choice, to tell or not, but with LE involved, pressure will be put on him to at least let LE tell his family he is safe.

He could be in a facility - a scared, fed up, depressed, stressed out, confused man getting help, maybe in Warwick, RI, where he lived once. He is an adult and does not need to notify anyone that he is there, even if a manhunt was coordinated to try to find him. The news is big around here in New York, but not in Rhode Island I am sure. That woman from Carmel who went missing from Brooklyn was in a hospital and just came home one day. Her mother had no idea where she was until she got back.

 

[Momoffourboys]

He could be in a facility - a scared, fed up, depressed, stressed out, confused man getting help, maybe in Warwick, RI, where he lived once. He is an adult and does not need to notify anyone that he is there, even if a manhunt was coordinated to try to find him. The news is big around here in New York, but not in Rhode Island I am sure. That woman from Carmel who went missing from Brooklyn was in a hospital and just came home one day. Her mother had no idea where she was until she got back.

Actually, the news is not big here in ny, long island or even dix hills.
You would be surprised at how many locals have not heard about this.

 

[windstorm]

Been on the back of a motorcycle for 500 miles today & find myself looking in vehicles, rest areas, fuel stops, etc.

Not sure what to do at this point except just look everywhere I go. Was hoping for a break in this case by the time I could check in here tonight


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[Curious Cathy]

:scared::scared::scared::scared::scared:

Actually, the news is not big here in ny, long island or even dix hills.
You would be surprised at how many locals have not heard about this.

Yes, he can be in a place where the people who work there know absolutely nothing about him missing.

 

[Sweetnspicy]

Thank you Cat for clarifying some things for me earlier. It makes sense and I agree. I am glad that rule is in place.

 

[Philigumbo]

He could be in a facility - a scared, fed up, depressed, stressed out, confused man getting help, maybe in Warwick, RI, where he lived once. He is an adult and does not need to notify anyone that he is there, even if a manhunt was coordinated to try to find him. The news is big around here in New York, but not in Rhode Island I am sure. That woman from Carmel who went missing from Brooklyn was in a hospital and just came home one day. Her mother had no idea where she was until she got back.

Yep, he doesn't have to tell, and, like you stated, he could be in a location in which his status of missing is not known. :banghead: However, I'm just not drinking the Rehab Koolaid... I just don't "feel" it. I'm just thinking he got fed up and left.

 

[Curious Cathy]

Yep, he doesn't have to tell, and, like you stated, he could be in a location in which his status of missing is not known. :banghead: However, I'm just not drinking the Rehab Koolaid... I just don't "feel" it. I'm just thinking he got fed up and left.

He is 46 - old enough to look like hell if he was abusing. I do not see that in him. I feel he got fed up and left and may be detoxing himself of Dix Hills. :toast:

 

[Philigumbo]

He is 46 - old enough to look like hell if he was abusing. I do not see that in him. I feel he got fed up and left and may be detoxing himself of Dix Hills. :toast:

Yeah, I think he wanted to separate for a bit and IM, with her LE family members, decided to report him missing. He could be on a beach somewhere chilling out with a rum and coke not even AWARE of what's going on at home. It's so odd to me, though, that no one has stood up to say anything about him, or to lament on his missing....no coworkers, no other family members, no friends, no one at all....just IM. Maybe they knew about the separation and don't feel it's their place to spill the beans, airing the M's "dirty laundry," and are just in awe that IM reported him missing. Maybe they know where he is and don't want to rat him out. :moo:

 

[Momoffourboys]

He is 46 - old enough to look like hell if he was abusing. I do not see that in him. I feel he got fed up and left and may be detoxing himself of Dix Hills. :toast:

Why would he detox from Dix Hills?
:escape::escape::escape:

 

[Momoffourboys]

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[cluciano63]

JMO but I can't imagine that RM is missing voluntarily and does not think he would be reported missing. A husband and father and son doesn't just vanish and no one says a word about it. IMO either IM knows why he left, and reported him missing for the sake of appearances, or something happened to him, either accident, suicide or otherwise.

 

[Philigumbo]

JMO but I can't imagine that RM is missing voluntarily and does not think he would be reported missing. A husband and father and son doesn't just vanish and no one says a word about it. IMO either IM knows why he left, and reported him missing for the sake of appearances, or something happened to him, either accident, suicide or otherwise.

Yep, I think she knows and reported it for appearances, "save face," look better in divorce court, you name it. I think that or suicide...in that case, got on the train and went away from Long Island, with no ID on him, and harmed himself...I hope not...I SO hope not!!! :candle:

 

[Force Ten]

He was very vague. What he said or didn't say could have been interpreted in a zillion ways.

Yes, true for the most part. Sadly most, if not all interpretations will fall short. I've seen a lot of theories here, all of them pretty wild and way off base (Heroin? GF? Running away from controlling wife?). I guess it is easy to get swept up into gossip and carry it through as fact. I just cant do that. I stick to the facts. I have made a few enemies in the past here and there because of it but hearsay doesn't solve and prove criminality. Nor does it solve cases. It only spurs more gossip.

I don't follow the line of unaccredited BS.
I have to rely on physical evidence, not what some woman in the Bronx experienced in her cousins friend's coworker's brother's experience.

For the record, Rob requested oysters and lobsters for that night (friday).

If anyone doubts IM's 'story', I employ them to call the Suffolk County police. Ask them if IM has filed a missing persons report or is working with police. Honestly all this rhetoric talk about reports only coming from Ida is pretty stupid. Has anyone cared to vet it? No. Because they know the answer.

 

[Force Ten]

Again, the silence speaks volumes. We are thrown crumbs and Painted a portrait. Look between the lines. And as Bunny states, the truth shall prevail.

NCNY stated that RM was the life of the party, some I am thinking he has a million friends. But not 1 has come forward. Or coworker. So is he the life of the party, or a homebody, quiet and reserved as Ida states? My money is on NCNY. So then, why are is party friends so quiet???? :violin:

I think you're looking through ash colored glasses. There have been friends and family commenting. Also family at the tapings and searches. That has been pointed out by more than one person. Either you missed or chose to.

But spare me the 'well are all the other friends and family?' BS. MOST of his family could care less about FB or WS. It's not like a cell phone where 'everyone has to have one'. My take is this a very simple family and don't know things about cell phones, twitter, fb, texting and YES, even WS. THIS FAMILY, They Mayer Family, is missing their father and husband. Most people forget....this man is also a father that most HERE are stating unscrupulous things about him AND his wife. How becoming.

THINK before you POST.

 

[xheraldina]

Even FIND Robert Mayer page is now gone!!!!!!!!!

:gasp:

 

[ElizaAvalon]

Yes, true for the most part. Sadly most, if not all interpretations will fall short. I've seen a lot of theories here, all of them pretty wild and way off base (Heroin? GF? Running away from controlling wife?). I guess it is easy to get swept up into gossip and carry it through as fact.

Fact: a theory is not gossip.

I just cant do that. I stick to the facts. I have made a few enemies in the past here and there because of it but hearsay doesn't solve and prove criminality.

Just for the record, it's the tone of the message and not the message. When people treat others with disdain, they can't expect to make friends.

For the record, Rob requested oysters and lobsters for that night (friday).

Can you please provide a link to this fact?

 

[Eileen730]

Why has the house not been searched?

This makes no sense to me at all.

 

[Trackergd]

BBM - I always appreciate your posts Tracker. I have much more faith in canines than humans. Immediately I got the gut feeling this was a suicide + then felt horribly for his family, all of them. As I followed along I thought there was a good possibility that it could also be foul play. I now :fence: between the two. For whatever unknown reason wasn't the preserve where IM wanted searched? IIRC

Thank you for the kind words! I think there was a limited search of the preserve. Looking at it from Google Maps, it appears to be rather large and a hasty search, even with air scent dogs can leave a lot of territory unchecked.

Keep in mind that if the wind is not blowing from the subject towards the air scent dogs, there is not much for them to detect.

 

[Trackergd]

Why has the house not been searched?

This makes no sense to me at all.

If the family is not suspected and declines a search, it would require a warrant. If there is no compelling evidence of foul play, I doubt a judge would sign one.

I would not read too much into the family declining a search either. Some folks are very private. Perhaps in their grief of a missing family member, they may feel they are being targeted. There may also be particular things about their private life that may be completely legal, yet not something they wish to become public knowledge.

Were something come to light that would suggest foul play, that situation would most likely change.

 

[Trackergd]

I think you're looking through ash colored glasses. There have been friends and family commenting. Also family at the tapings and searches. That has been pointed out by more than one person. Either you missed or chose to.

But spare me the 'well are all the other friends and family?' BS. MOST of his family could care less about FB or WS. It's not like a cell phone where 'everyone has to have one'. My take is this a very simple family and don't know things about cell phones, twitter, fb, texting and YES, even WS. THIS FAMILY, They Mayer Family, is missing their father and husband. Most people forget....this man is also a father that most HERE are stating unscrupulous things about him AND his wife. How becoming.

THINK before you POST.

I would respectfully submit that everyone here is well meaning and caring, that's why they are here. A lot of theories are (for lack of a better word) spitball'd up on the wall to see if anything seems to fit the timeline and what information is verifiable. There are also a fair number of professionals here with years of experience who take time from their lives to assist with these cases, to the point that even LE takes a look on occasion for ideas. WS members have even solved cases. That's not a bad track record for a website.

Theories are what drive cases to be solved, and you can bet a paycheck that LE has white boarded most if not all the same theories themselves, just not in a public venue such as this.

Most of us do think when we post. The theories are not always popular, but necessary none-the-less to get from point A to point B.