NY NY - Robert Mayer, 46, Dix Hills, 14 Jun 2013 - # 7

[hot cawfeee]

let's face it. this case is cold

until we get another out of state "possible sighting" or another crumb is tossed to us.

Hey--- what ever happened to the "candy store video"????
Thread one--post 159

 

[McSpy]

Technically, I believe it was SOMETHING RED BY the driveway, cant even confirm it was his car.

I assume it moved. For example, the camera captured the top of the red vehicle moving into the driveway, then 10 minutes later, it captured it moving out backwards. I'm pretty sure the camera caught the top of the car or what they thought was the top of the car, but I need to find a link on it to be sure.

 

[McSpy]

I have heard it questioned more than once that one or more people are perplexed as to why a private investigator was not called in and why the home wasn't searched. How does anyone know if or if not either or both of these things were done?

We don't know, so if you find out anything let us know. It could have been done (searched home or brought in a PI). I hope IM brought in a PI, because I think LE is not going to be much help at this point. They need leads or tips. I think they are on hold until something breaks.

 

[hot cawfeee]

Maybe she did. But all this Lobster and Oyster talk today is giving me a bad headache. He said/She Said.

Even if she is a control freak, perhaps since it is Father's Day Weekend, she would choose to pick up the seafood for him. She was being nice because it was HIS WEEKEND. What do you think? :what:

Maybe it makes it more of a "family" thing if he does it---He mans the BBQ, cooks the burgers, etc------IMO and from my own experience alot of couples/families are like that--each spouse/partner does part of the party prep---makes it appear that "we are a team"------I am speaking of a family member and am shuddering slightly.

 

[Jerry516]

Maybe it makes it more of a "family" thing if he does it---He mans the BBQ, cooks the burgers, etc------IMO and from my own experience alot of couples/families are like that--each spouse/partner does part of the party prep---makes it appear that "we are a team"------I am speaking of a family member and am shuddering slightly.

Agreed....my only point was perhaps she would actually do the shopping. Since everyone was so worked up over who was running errands.

 

[Momoffourboys]

IIRC the only verified insider in this case on WS is NCNY, correct?
While he may not know anything with certainty, i would think he knows RM and the family.
No, we still dont know what happened or where he is and i truly hope and pray that he is somewhere and is safe...
My money is on NCNY.

 

[hot cawfeee]

And perhaps it was the dealer that NCNY mentioned as someone they looked for on RM's phone?

would he be dumb enough to have a drug dealer as a contact on a company issued phone????????

 

[Jerry516]

would he be dumb enough to have a drug dealer as a contact on a company issued phone????????

When people are under the influence of drugs/alcohol, they arent thinking clearly. So who knows.

It's like these politicians (Weiner, Spitzer, etc....) they get a power trip and think they are untouchable. Do the dumbest things and throw their whole career away. Shockingly stupid...but who knows what they were thinking.

 

[Treelights]

would he be dumb enough to have a drug dealer as a contact on a company issued phone????????

Hypothetically speaking of course....if they worked together, yes....
IMOO.

 

[Codger]

would he be dumb enough to have a drug dealer as a contact on a company issued phone????????

I remember reading along when our verified insider was posting, then I went back + reviewed the thread. I'm not convinced this was a drug contact. I'm not convinced that's what was being hinted at. It was a guy that IM didn't want RM in contact with, supposedly RM lied about being in contact with him + IM found out he had been in text contact with him (some time ago). That was my understanding anyway.

"Problem facing many Long Islanders" = My first thought was living beyond one's means. I wondered if this was someone from his past, maybe someone he hadn't been in contact with since he used to park at the train station 6 or so years ago. I keep thinking this is about $$$$ not drugs. JMO
Way back there was speculation that maybe this person was someone needy that RM had helped too much previously + IM wanted no more of it. What if it was the other way around?

Just thinking out loud + in need of much more :cup:

 

[VeryCleverGirl]

I doubt this is RM after all this time (and the location doesn't seem logical) but have you guys seen this yet?

http://northport.patch.com/groups/police-and-fire/p/man-dies-at-lipa-boat-ramp

did you catch the last statement..."suicide and crisis hotlines are available for the town of Huntington" isn't that close to DH?

 

[Codger]

did you catch the last statement..."suicide and crisis hotlines are available for the town of Huntington" isn't that close to DH?

IIRC - Its near the 1:45 last ping on RM's cell phone. Which some locals say is about 15 minutes from Arrow scrap + 30 minutes from RM's home in DH (I think). They have not identified the victim. I assume that will take a bit of time + contact the family, so it won't be released as public information until ?

 

[Treelights]

I remember reading along when our verified insider was posting, then I went back + reviewed the thread. I'm not convinced this was a drug contact. I'm not convinced that's what was being hinted at. It was a guy that IM didn't want RM in contact with, supposedly RM lied about being in contact with him + IM found out he had been in text contact with him (some time ago). That was my understanding anyway.

"Problem facing many Long Islanders" = My first thought was living beyond one's means. I wondered if this was someone from his past, maybe someone he hadn't been in contact with since he used to park at the train station 6 or so years ago. I keep thinking this is about $$$$ not drugs. JMO
Way back there was speculation that maybe this person was someone needy that RM had helped too much previously + IM wanted no more of it. What if it was the other way around?

Just thinking out loud + in need of much more :cup:

I am glad that you brought this up, because in My mind I was thinking that IM asked someone from RM's past if he had been in contact with RM, and this person from RM's past lied, in the fact that yes they were texting....

So, when somebody writes something, it really is Individualistic on how the reader interprets what that person means, especially using pronouns in the context of that sentence...he, and him....Is the He RM or the someone from RM's past....

Websleuths Crime Sleuthing Community - View Single Post - NY NY - Robert Mayer, 46, Dix Hills, 14 Jun 2013 - #1


QUOTE FROM NCNY FROM THE LINK ABOVE AND SNIPPED FOR SPACE............

"All the information regarding calls and texts were combed through and all leads go nowhere with the phone"
"there was at one point early on that we thought of someone Rob associated with as he lied about being in touch with him when asked by IM only to find out they were in touch through texts..."

IMOO.

 

[VeryCleverGirl]

He could be in a facility - a scared, fed up, depressed, stressed out, confused man getting help, maybe in Warwick, RI, where he lived once. He is an adult and does not need to notify anyone that he is there, even if a manhunt was coordinated to try to find him. The news is big around here in New York, but not in Rhode Island I am sure. That woman from Carmel who went missing from Brooklyn was in a hospital and just came home one day. Her mother had no idea where she was until she got back.

Do you know for sure he lived in RI??? One of the interviews says he is a lifelong resident of LI. Grew up in Old Bethpage and then has lived in DH for almost 20. Search sites that bring up names and have immediate family listed along with residences are not always accurate :coffeews:

 

[Jerry516]

I am glad that you brought this up, because in My mind I was thinking that IM asked someone from RM's past if he had been in contact with RM, and this person from RM's past lied, in the fact that yes they were texting....

So, when somebody writes something, it really is Individualistic on how the reader interprets what that person means, especially using pronouns in the context of that sentence...he, and him....Is the He RM or the someone from RM's past....

Websleuths Crime Sleuthing Community - View Single Post - NY NY - Robert Mayer, 46, Dix Hills, 14 Jun 2013 - #1


QUOTE FROM NCNY FROM THE LINK ABOVE AND SNIPPED FOR SPACE............

"All the information regarding calls and texts were combed through and all leads go nowhere with the phone"
"there was at one point early on that we thought of someone Rob associated with as he lied about being in touch with him when asked by IM only to find out they were in touch through texts..."

IMOO.

The perfect husband married to the perfect wife in the perfect marriage lied??? Are you kidding? :boohoo:

 

[VeryCleverGirl]

I would respectfully submit that everyone here is well meaning and caring, that's why they are here. A lot of theories are (for lack of a better word) spitball'd up on the wall to see if anything seems to fit the timeline and what information is verifiable. There are also a fair number of professionals here with years of experience who take time from their lives to assist with these cases, to the point that even LE takes a look on occasion for ideas. WS members have even solved cases. That's not a bad track record for a website.

Theories are what drive cases to be solved, and you can bet a paycheck that LE has white boarded most if not all the same theories themselves, just not in a public venue such as this.

Most of us do think when we post. The theories are not always popular, but necessary none-the-less to get from point A to point B.

Thank You Trackergd!!! Very Well said!!! :websleuther::yourock:

 

[VeryCleverGirl]

I know you weren't addressing me . . But RM's vehicle (or a red vehicle with unknown driver) was seen leaving the driveway, so presumably he left the home--no need to search there. Something could have happened to him there, since the camera didn't capture the driver. So, maybe there isn't enough evidence of a crime committed to get a warrant to search the property. Just a thought---no facts.

I thought I read when the neighbor told them about the sec cam the police then searched the garage ...finding the phone and cash

 

[hot cawfeee]

I can't think of rehab as being like witness protection, in that you are expected to drop out of your family life altogether. That does not sound right. Usually they want to meet your support system, have a plan in place for afterward, etc.

I guess one could do it that way...but why? Why make your family, kids, mom and all, think you are missing, maybe even dead?

We have a nephew who has been in and out of various rehab programs for the the past 3 years---one was like Witness Protection----no outside contact for # months after a 30 day detox--then it was letters only and expect them to be opened. If nephew was in not good graces/good standing then the letters were held. His parents were due to visit and they were told to not come the day before---nephew was not ready for a visit--I know make of that what you will. He has been in 30 day out patient (epic fail), 30 day in-patient and away for a few months at a time----My point that took a long waaaaaaaaaaay to get to is--a) it may depend on the substance/substances and or b) it may depend on other mitigating psychological issues

 

[Treelights]

The perfect husband married to the perfect wife in the perfect marriage lied??? Are you kidding? :boohoo:

No, Jerry, I am not kidding......My perception of that statement was that IM talked to the friend of RM and that friend lied.
My perception never took me to the thought process that it was RM that lied.
Who knows? It could have been RM that lied......that is why I brought it up about it being an individualistic interpretation of what somebody writes.
I am glad it was brought up, because it did not occur to me otherwise! That's why I like Websleuths because differing opinions are helpful. It's not like I have tunnel vision, sometimes I think of things a certain way, not meaning Not to look at things another way.

IMOO.

 

[Codger]

Respectfully snipped + bolded by me.

I am glad that you brought this up, because in My mind I was thinking that IM asked someone from RM's past if he had been in contact with RM, and this person from RM's past lied, in the fact that yes they were texting....

So, when somebody writes something, it really is Individualistic on how the reader interprets what that person means, especially using pronouns in the context of that sentence...he, and him....Is the He RM or the someone from RM's past....

Very good point! I would assume this is someone LE talked to soon after learning of the contact + "he who is not named" being dishonest about the contact. Then I assume it was a dead end or is being investigated quietly. JMO
Reader interpretation - I see this A LOT here + always makes me think when we all have very different takes on the same sentence / paragraph / statement.