NY NY - Robert Mayer, 46, Dix Hills, 14 Jun 2013 - # 7

[cluciano63]

Sounds like once LE uncovered the video,showing the red car, and the money etc. had been found, they determined he left on his own for whatever reason IMO.

 

[McSpy]

If someone did harm him, why take the risk of bringing the car to the train station? Or did he possibly meet someone at the train station for some reason and go with them, never to return?

To make it look like he left or he actually did leave.

 

[Island gurl]

Thank you azpistonsgirl. I was a lil nervous.

Oh and ps, one thing I've learned following these type of stories is only an owner locks their car. (Remember on rte 135 on li, when the guy got caught dumping his murdered wife's car because he went back to lock it).

 

[McSpy]

First time posting. Thank you to everyone for providing such good reading!

IMO, what if there was an argument in the home (over anything, drug use, $, life, trips to italy, felonies), they continued the argument on the phone while RM was at work-for 45 minutes, a rather long time to be away from the job to talk about shellfish. He hangs up on her (dropped call), she keeps trying to call him back (cell going right to voice mail). He comes home, "someone" else is also home, waiting for him. He says "I'm leaving." She grabs his wallet, phone and money and says you can't leave now. He says, watch me. Then she gets in his car and leaves because then she thinks he can't leave. He gets on his bike and leaves anyway. The car is parked at a train station, because if you don't want your car towed, it's the perfect place. Hence, the seat is moved forward. She jets back home and finds him gone, now she's pissed/upset, maybe genuinely worried=missing persons report.

I know it's a bit of a reach with the car. But IMO, something about this scenario feels right to me. Maybe I have too many crazy girlfriends/wife friends who would have no problem doing this.

Also, wasn't the young girl who said she saw RM on a train from the Warwick area? And RMs family has not posted anything on FB.

I can see this. There could have been emotional drama for sure, which is not unusual. It may not have happened exactly that way, but you make the story sound believable. The only thing is that his car was seen leaving the driveway before she arrived home a few minutes later.

 

[xheraldina]

IIRC, I believe she did have a friend in LE. I could have sworn I read it somewhere, but can't recall where. Does anyone recall??

I also agree that the secrecy is possibly because of the skeletons in the closet. I also believe it colors our thinking on the matter too. It is hard to put aside. Although, maybe there are private issues IM and family do not want to advertise to the public. I don't know how I would respond exactly if someone in my family disappeared. I guess it depends on the circumstances and how the back story relates to the disappearance. JMO

I remeber reading that. She called a friend or a family member working for LE, at 4 pm. I will find the link.

 

[VeryCleverGirl]

First time posting. Thank you to everyone for providing such good reading!

IMO, what if there was an argument in the home (over anything, drug use, $, life, trips to italy, felonies), they continued the argument on the phone while RM was at work-for 45 minutes, a rather long time to be away from the job to talk about shellfish. He hangs up on her (dropped call), she keeps trying to call him back (cell going right to voice mail). He comes home, "someone" else is also home, waiting for him. He says "I'm leaving." She grabs his wallet, phone and money and says you can't leave now. He says, watch me. Then she gets in his car and leaves because then she thinks he can't leave. He gets on his bike and leaves anyway. The car is parked at a train station, because if you don't want your car towed, it's the perfect place. Hence, the seat is moved forward. She jets back home and finds him gone, now she's pissed/upset, maybe genuinely worried=missing persons report.

I know it's a bit of a reach with the car. But IMO, something about this scenario feels right to me. Maybe I have too many crazy girlfriends/wife friends who would have no problem doing this.

Also, wasn't the young girl who said she saw RM on a train from the Warwick area? And RMs family has not posted anything on FB.

:goodpost: :wagon: couple of things.... his car or some red car is seen coming and going in a ten minute time frame from his house.... and then her car drives in a few minutes later or so they say...never seen ANY video of RM

 

[VeryCleverGirl]

I remeber reading that. She called a friend or a family member working for LE, at 4 pm. I will find the link.

I believe it is family IM has in LE

 

[VeryCleverGirl]

The car may have been brought to the station much later when traffic and prying eyes were not in abundance. This would also explain the seat being moved.

and the cherry spot up front...but I still think he took off

 

[my3kids]

Excellent post.
Thank you.
:rockon:

wasn't it mentioned that his brother is a police officer and that is who she called in?

 

[xheraldina]

I believe it is family IM has in LE

something like brother in law i remember...

 

[McSpy]

I'm sorry I'm not buying the rehab story

It is on the bottom of my list too. If he was addicted to pain killers, I'm more inclined to think he went looking for them and something bad happened to him, than him being in rehab.

He could have taken off, but it looks like foul play to me. I swing back and forth with these theories. I hope he's on a boat somewhere enjoying a cold one.

 

[McSpy]

The car may have been brought to the station much later when traffic and prying eyes were not in abundance. This would also explain the seat being moved.

It makes more sense to me that the car was parked after rush hour. Yet, maybe someone, who works odd hours, got that perfect parking space in front of the station and they left around 3:15 pm.

 

[cluciano63]

Probably on a Friday after 3pm, most of the people who had those good parking spots would be gone, so he or whoever could have driven straight there.

 

[Eileen730]

"About a week after her husband’s disappearance, Suffolk police detectives informed Ida that a neighbor’s camera had recorded what appeared to be her husband’s car by her driveway at approximately 2:41 p.m., June 14, and then showed it pulling out of the driveway 10 minutes later. Only the top of the car was spotted; the driver and/or passengers weren’t. The camera caught Ida’s car pulling into the driveway at about 3 p.m."

http://www.longislandpress.com/2013/08/31/vanished-dix-hills-father-still-missing-after-2-months/

If you watch the interviews at all and look at their house....their driveway is not close to the neighbors...had to be his own

As I read it the neighbor says she saw her husbands car byHER driveway not their driveway.

 

[Codger]

I remeber reading that. She called a friend or a family member working for LE, at 4 pm. I will find the link.

I tried to find the link, mission failed. I remember it as - she started to worry, couldn't reach him by phone, went straight to voice mail, bit later when she still couldn't reach him she contacted a "I think" brother in law + friend, both in LE, they came to her home, started contacting hospitals + so forth, when all that failed, she then reported him officially missing at 1am. That is just my questionable memory, so I wanted the actual quote, but I sure as ()*#@($ can't find the right one. :banghead:

 

[Eileen730]

I remeber reading that. She called a friend or a family member working for LE, at 4 pm. I will find the link.

Why call so soon?

That to me is a red flag. Did he tell her he couldn't do this anymore he has no money they are broke he will kill himself?

To me that is the only reason to alert police so quick.

 

[Codger]

As I read it the neighbor says she saw her husbands car byHER driveway not their driveway.

I sure wish they would think about how WS is going to pick apart every word before they submit these articles, drop the pronouns + make things specific. :floorlaugh:

All along I had thought this neighbor's camera was on another block, RM often took that route to his home + when they checked the tape it showed a red car going in the direction of his home + then returning 10 minutes later. This quote above can be read differently, making it sound like the cam showed IM's vehicle pulling into the driveway (not just driving by in the direction toward home). Which I assume is the Mayer's driveway, because why would they be pulling into someone else's driveway?

Is it happy hour yet? I need a :martini:

 

[Drib]

Sounds like once LE uncovered the video,showing the red car, and the money etc. had been found, they determined he left on his own for whatever reason IMO.

I don't think LE discovered it, my "guess" would be the neighbor looked at it himself after finding out RM was missing and reported it.

 

[Eileen730]

I sure wish they would think about how WS is going to pick apart every word before they submit these articles, drop the pronouns + make things specific. :floorlaugh:

All along I had thought this neighbor's camera was on another block, RM often took that route to his home + when they checked the tape it showed a red car going in the direction of his home + then returning 10 minutes later. This quote above can be read differently, making it sound like the cam showed IM's vehicle pulling into the driveway (not just driving by in the direction toward home). Which I assume is the Mayer's driveway, because why would they be pulling into someone else's driveway?

Is it happy hour yet? I need a :martini:

Lol because it says she sees her husband's car by HER driveway not IN.

I do not think he was in his drive but pulled in front of neighbors

 

[Eileen730]

I sure wish they would think about how WS is going to pick apart every word before they submit these articles, drop the pronouns + make things specific. :floorlaugh:

All along I had thought this neighbor's camera was on another block, RM often took that route to his home + when they checked the tape it showed a red car going in the direction of his home + then returning 10 minutes later. This quote above can be read differently, making it sound like the cam showed IM's vehicle pulling into the driveway (not just driving by in the direction toward home). Which I assume is the Mayer's driveway, because why would they be pulling into someone else's driveway?

Is it happy hour yet? I need a :martini:

I read it as it was written!