Found Deceased OH - Cheryl Coker, 46, Riverside, 2 Oct 2018 *husband suspect* #2

[wyome]

I'm just saying that she's a teen. Teens think differently than us adults. When I think of how naive and gullible I was back then- I could see this being the case with their daughter. None of us know if they fought in front of her- there could have been a lot of arguments and anger going back and forth, and Cheryl may have in this case came out the bad person in her daughter's eyes, just because most teen girls love their Daddies and have issues with Mom. Dads tend to let the little girls get away with more, where as Mom steps in and says "oh no, you're not!". I had my Dad wrapped around my little finger. Boys do with their Moms.

Denial is also blissful in some things in life. It could be, too, that she would rather believe that her mother took off on her own and is alive and ok, then the alternative. At least she would still have a living Mom.

We see it differently and believe something bad happened to Cheryl. There have been rare cases where missing people have shown up months or a year or so later, alive and ok. I don't believe that is the case here, but it would be nice if Cheryl did come home alive.

Great points. I've got a daughter that thinks Dad walks on water (eye roll) lol. No changing that...even if I end up missing.

 

[tooltimetim]

I have been researching and according to psychology today they estimate between the ages of 40-64 , 38% of individuals are going through some mid life crisis, in which they run away, disappear, and reinvent themselves, they normally exhibit strange behavior abnormal to them in the preceding period prior to disappearing, this ratio is higher in women due to menopause also..
So in theory Cheryl could have been going through some internal strife that caused her to leave and start over,
So in theory it is very possible they planned her disappearance , there were a lot of signals , remember William wanted her gone before he returned from Florida.

I could be way out in left field on this but statistically it is possible, since this case has been weird leading up to her disappearance...

I mean no disrespect but what else do we have....

 

[wary]

I have been researching and according to psychology today they estimate between the ages of 40-64 , 38% of individuals are going through some mid life crisis, in which they run away, disappear, and reinvent themselves, they normally exhibit strange behavior abnormal to them in the preceding period prior to disappearing, this ratio is higher in women due to menopause also..

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I find the statistics above unbelievable. I assume it was a typo of some sort. 38% of people of that age going through some mid-life crisis, sure. But the percentage of those who “run away, disappear, and reinvent themselves” is infinitesimal, I’d bet.

MOO

 

[tooltimetim]

Well the statistics are believable, Our society today is not the post WW2 era or the 1950s where a family was a unit that stayed together until death do you part......today’s society , couples don’t view the family unit as important, they bore very easily and think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, in majority of the cases it’s not ,
If you look at today’s family either the male or female puts there friends ahead of family or work is consuming their time because they don’t want to go home, or that feel of importance..

In Cheryl’s case, I have been researching every site I can view and review and I get the feeling , even though William and her were married almost 19 years, she was bored and her behavior in postings, texts, and this open marriage thing , she was showing the classic signs of putting her parachute on and looking for the exit door..

So at this point of my reviews and investigation of this case I think her disappearance was planned and executed, and she took off and restarted her new life somewhere in this large country...

To me that one text message to a coworker stating in not so many words about being dead if I don’t come in almost sounds like a diversion.....

 

[MissMalowe]

I agree, that statistic has to be inflated or the instance of reinvent and disappear are separate in nature. Reinvent: get divorced, start a new family, Change your appearance, change careers, get new hobbies, get new friends, move; perhaps 30% do that and 8% disappear themselves and that's the reported 38%? Thirty-eight percent is incredibly high. That would mean well OVER 1/3 of adults run away/disappear......

Bill, upset that something Cheryl did was the nail in the coffin for him at work & his future income, but he would help her disappear and cast suspicion on him while supporting/parenting their daughter on his own?
Wouldn't he be more inclined to tell LE what actually occured (if that were the case) and ask for privacy in the matter, so as to not hurt her daughter's, mother, other family members with the knowledge that Cheryl willingly ran off to start a new life and wished to cut ties with everyone?

Stranger things have happened on WS though, so I'm not ruling it out; still trying to be open somewhat to all possibilities.

 

[wyome]

Well the statistics are believable, Our society today is not the post WW2 era or the 1950s where a family was a unit that stayed together until death do you part......today’s society , couples don’t view the family unit as important, they bore very easily and think the grass is greener on the other side of the fence, in majority of the cases it’s not ,
If you look at today’s family either the male or female puts there friends ahead of family or work is consuming their time because they don’t want to go home, or that feel of importance..

In Cheryl’s case, I have been researching every site I can view and review and I get the feeling , even though William and her were married almost 19 years, she was bored and her behavior in postings, texts, and this open marriage thing , she was showing the classic signs of putting her parachute on and looking for the exit door..

So at this point of my reviews and investigation of this case I think her disappearance was planned and executed, and she took off and restarted her new life somewhere in this large country...

To me that one text message to a coworker stating in not so many words about being dead if I don’t come in almost sounds like a diversion.....

No we're not post WW2era or the 1950s. And couples don't value the family unit. They do bore very easily and are easily distracted. You are right.

I don't question the stats, because I generally believe most people between 40-64 yrs old to be going through a severe change. Reinventing oneself can include downsizing, empty-nesting, retiring, divorcing, becoming a grandparent...a whole host of possibilities, let alone the negative ones of possible medical treatment/decisions, aging parent concerns/responsibilities, menopause pain and the like. Do I think 38% of people in the age group are disappearing, no. Do I think 38% are vulnerable and a bit messed up, yes...I think that number may be very valid. Antidepressant scripts are given out like candy and people blindly take it thinking it will make things better, but it often makes the mind/mood worse.

Wish any of us knew Cheryl's real state of mind/emotions leading up to the week she disappeared. The joking text message to a coworker may have been a diversion, but then who was the hoodie dude walking towards their residence after her car was abandoned? I don't see her staging this.

 

[tooltimetim]

Well let’s look at a few things, prior to her disappearance, ..
I understand from previous posts, that the GF and her were friends, .....then what married woman, mother would encourage the GF to have a relationship with her husband of 19 years ???

It also looks like Cheryl herself was meeting up with various men at locations, as per indicated in our posts...

That weird text that she sent , if I don’t show up I am probably dead....

William wanting her moved out of the home by the time they return from a Florida....

And as per the divorce papers, I think that was attempt by Cheryl to start over, but she realized after serving the papers it wasn’t going to be “clean”...

And my theory is that if Cheryl left , William would have been happy getting control of the house on Cristy Lane....

Now the black hoodie incident, is it possible it was Cheryl under the black hoodie, and the white gloves were used to disguise her female hands...

And that day where William was caught on surveillance camera, could he be just checking to see where she parked the SUV....

And that interview with William and WHIO , when the reporter asked his theory , he stated he couldn’t say because he did not want to hurt his daughter.......in theory was he holding back from the daughter, yeah your mom just left to restart...

Plus my opinion William and the GF know Cheryl left on her own , or the GF would have been long gone by now, to protect her two daughters.

 

[tb24oh]

You're forgetting a major piece of the puzzle: Police have proof she is dead. We don't know what this is, but they have evidence of a homicide. They don't put that out there lightly. They don't notify loved ones without something very solid and they have notified her loved ones. Cheryl did NOT walk away. She never left the house alive after dropping her daughter off to school and then returning home at 7:45 am. She absolutely didn't hide in the work vehicle for over 24 hours and sneak out after it was towed. She wasn't the man in black. Height can't be faked. Cheryl was short. There were no gloves on the hands either, not sure where that rumor got started.

 

[Steelslady]

You're forgetting a major piece of the puzzle: Police have proof she is dead. We don't know what this is, but they have evidence of a homicide. They don't put that out there lightly. They don't notify loved ones without something very solid and they have notified her loved ones. Cheryl did NOT walk away. She never left the house alive after dropping her daughter off to school and then returning home at 7:45 am. She absolutely didn't hide in the work vehicle for over 24 hours and sneak out after it was towed. She wasn't the man in black. Height can't be faked. Cheryl was short. There were no gloves on the hands either, not sure where that rumor got started.

The police have actual proof she is dead?

 

[tooltimetim]

I do not believe the police have proof that Cheryl is dead, or this case would look different today,
To me it sounds like a good smoke screen to divert attention until they locate her alive.......or this case would have been before a grand jury..

And unless someone can can up with a better theory, on this very strange case,
Cheryl was acting weird prior to her disappearance, take the time to look at all the postings referencing weird behavior going back to Sept 2018....

I thought she was dead in the beginning, until I spent mega hours reading, studying, and driving the neighborhoods, did I come up with my theory which I will stand by...

 

[tb24oh]

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Steelslady, yes. They said this in the press conferences they gave in February. They won't say what the evidence is, but they know she is dead and switched the case from a missing person to a homicide. They don't do that lightly.

 

[tooltimetim]

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but I am basing my theories on postings made by Cheryl in the months preceding her disappearance, and as per the police news conference in February, I think their statements were a rue....

I will by the th

 

[tooltimetim]

I will stick by the theory she left on her own, and yes the police bumbled this in the beginning .....

And if the police have evidence and are watering it everyday hoping it grows into something big, they are living in the Land of Oz.....

 

[MissMalowe]

If Cheryl staged her own disappearance (with or without Bill's help) why wouldn't she have waited until after the divorce was finalized? Monetarily speaking, it would have made more sense....

Bill wanted her out of the house by the time he and his gf got back from their Florida vacation. But they are both owners of the home. If they went through with the divorce, they would either have to sell the house and split the proceeds or he would have to buy out her half....either option would provide Cheryl with money.
Something one would be in need of if starting their life over.

That sounds more like an additional motive for Bill vs an explanation for Cheryl, imo.

As for what type of woman lets her friend sleep with her husband of 19 years, I'm not sure how to answer that. As you said, it's not 1950 anymore, so people ARE less inclined to "fake it until you make it" in their marriages since there is less stigma in divorce. It certainly wouldn't be the first time both parties in a marriage were seeing other people, even knowingly. Their marriage seemed to be an open one.

I think the question is what type of woman moves into a missing woman's house with the husband and daughter and what type of husband and father feels that is a good/healthy option for his family so soon after his child's world has already been turned upside down.

I can't say that those are the actions of a murderer, but they are, without a doubt, the actions of adults who are being selfish in thinking mostly of their own wants & needs.

 

[tooltimetim]

The one thing that everyone needs to understand , until Cheryl’s cold corpse is found, there are two options, either murder or she walked away.....and if you take the time and review, read and step back and read again, ask questions , you can clearly see the Cheryl was going through some serious mid life crisis mode, yeah sure she filed for divorce and yes the courts would divide the assets, but ..

What if William had some “dirt” on Cheryl’s character that he threatened to use in court to ensure he won the majority, or maybe Cheryl just plain wanted to get away, and say the hell with everything, I am theorizing she was frustrated on the inside , and she felt the world was caving in.....

And if you look at the picture from psychology side, the GF moving in and taking over where Cheryl left off was a “monster” Cheryl created herself, and the comfort level the GF and William have residing at Cristy Lane are screaming they don’t have a care in the world..

And with case I speak with my sister who is a paralegal in another state, her opinion in this case a private detective needs to be hired to investigate this case from the time frame of a month before the disappearance until the present...

Since Cheryl had a love for Florida, a hundred mile circle of places she was familiar with needs to be thoroughly investigated for anyone who has seen her or blended into the public...

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... in other missing persons cases has anyone ever seen the immediate family to include the GF living life without a care, and no interest in looking for her.....

 

[Tillicum]

You're forgetting a major piece of the puzzle: Police have proof she is dead. We don't know what this is, but they have evidence of a homicide. They don't put that out there lightly. They don't notify loved ones without something very solid and they have notified her loved ones. Cheryl did NOT walk away. She never left the house alive after dropping her daughter off to school and then returning home at 7:45 am. She absolutely didn't hide in the work vehicle for over 24 hours and sneak out after it was towed. She wasn't the man in black. Height can't be faked. Cheryl was short. There were no gloves on the hands either, not sure where that rumor got started.

I agree with everything except the gloves. They're mentioned here. Cheryl Coker case now homicide investigation, husband named suspect
Surveillance video from Spinning Hills Middle School shows a male, who police say is suspected of being the same man who exited the vehicle, walking on school property and toward the back of the Coker residence. The man is wearing all black and white gloves.

 

[Tillicum]

Since LE has said this is a homicide investigation back in February I wonder if the thread should be changed to 'Deceased, not found'? Not sure how that's determined. Will alert my post so mods can decide.

Police: Husband is ‘only suspect’ in Coker homicide investigation

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Riverside Police spoke with media Tuesday saying the disappearance of Cheryl Coker is now a homicide investigation.

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Investigators also said Tuesday newly discovered evidence led them to the conclusion that this is a homicide investigation but would not specify what that evidence is.

 

[Elliot_Alderson]

The one thing that everyone needs to understand , until Cheryl’s cold corpse is found, there are two options, either murder or she walked away.....and if you take the time and review, read and step back and read again, ask questions , you can clearly see the Cheryl was going through some serious mid life crisis mode, yeah sure she filed for divorce and yes the courts would divide the assets, but ..

What if William had some “dirt” on Cheryl’s character that he threatened to use in court to ensure he won the majority, or maybe Cheryl just plain wanted to get away, and say the hell with everything, I am theorizing she was frustrated on the inside , and she felt the world was caving in.....

And if you look at the picture from psychology side, the GF moving in and taking over where Cheryl left off was a “monster” Cheryl created herself, and the comfort level the GF and William have residing at Cristy Lane are screaming they don’t have a care in the world..

And with case I speak with my sister who is a paralegal in another state, her opinion in this case a private detective needs to be hired to investigate this case from the time frame of a month before the disappearance until the present...

Since Cheryl had a love for Florida, a hundred mile circle of places she was familiar with needs to be thoroughly investigated for anyone who has seen her or blended into the public...

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... in other missing persons cases has anyone ever seen the immediate family to include the GF living life without a care, and no interest in looking for her.....

But you just made an insinuation that the police information released in February was a RUSE. That's pretty sarcastic sounding, and if not, then it's completely ill-informed. Did the police read Cheryl's "weird" online postings when they decided to pull a ruse on the entire area for whatever motive you have for that.

 

[Sillybilly]

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[tooltimetim]

The reason for my post was that I highly did not appreciate the verbage of ( aliens) or ( Russians) , it angered me very much.....

My postings about my theory’s of Cheryl voluntarily walking away, comes from reviewing our posts until my eyes bled, reviewing others sites, living in Riverside and within a one mile circle of the Coker residence.....

This case has weird from day one, and YES I believe the police would do a ruse or fake story out there to draw out the truth, I believe they would that to make someone’s comfort zone , uncomfortable, and more apt shoot their mouth off .....

So before anyone wants to discount this theory, take the time to really review this case, ....and don’t believe everything as gospel...