Melissa Marshall said:
Melissa M. Thank you for posting. No one here means to hurt your cousin. You have an advantage over us in that you know your cousin and we do not. And unfortunately we read too much about what too many other parents have done to/allowed to be done to their child. So when a tragic event occurs- sometimes hurtful questions and comments arise. Thank you for your defense of your cousin.
I live in the general area, and never did I hear one bad word about Marrigrace. Nothing except how loving and caring a mother she was. And how supportive her family is being. Marrigrace didn't do anything wrong. The f'ing astard who hurt little Kaylee did!
Please express my sympathies to Marrigrace. She is so young, and to lose a child is something that no parent of any age should have to endur. I don't blame her for taking his first call. I probably would have too! He had a lot of nerve to call her in the first place. But at least it gave her the chance to tell him how she felt!
Marrigrace has a lot to go through in the next year. Not only is she coping with the grief, she will also have to get through the trial. I am glad she has such a caring and supportive family. That will be a big help, to have people to cry with her, and vent with her. She will be having a lot of bewildering emotions for the next few months and will often feel that she cannot cope with anymore. It will be very difficult, and she will be a changed person, but she can cope with it, with help. There are a couple of support groups in the Cincy area where there are other people who have gone through some similiar things. I was helped by one of them briefly, and can attest to how helpful they were in helping me to understand my feelings and in understanding that there is hope for the future, even though it didn't feel that way at the time. The big thing they helped me to understand is that people grieve in different ways, and that they can be guided, but have to find their own ways to live with the tragedy.
I would be glad to give you the names and help you to find the phone numbers, just PM me. (click on my nicname at the top of this post and choose send a private message).
Again, please offer not only Marrigrace but your whole family my condolences.
You will live though this, you will never forget this, you will always remember Kaylee, but it will be hard.
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