OH - Robert Holloway for kissing feet of teen boys, Lorain, 2006

[Ang50]

OK - but just to clarify...

You may like a particular part of a person's body, but Don'tPanic - you engage in consensual foot appreciation with another adult. Which is totally cool...

I have actually talked w/ my husband about this particular issue as he has a supreme foot aversion. I have an extreme aversion to his feet, but I love mine. Love to have them touched, massaged, etc. - very sensitive erogenous zone which never gets any attention from him - and never will.

 

[Ang50]

I have a guy friend who has a foot fetish. I really don't get it. Anyone know anything about foot fetishes that they can share? What in the world gets someone started on a foot fetish?

Eve

edited to add: it is really uncomfortable to wear sandals around my friend. He actually leers at my feet. We (hubby and I) like him but it has gotten so weird we really don't get together with him anymore.

This isn't funny b/c it's your friend - but I can't help giggling. I just picture you in a cute low-cut top or something ... and yet your friend is staring at your feet. Can you imagine his dates in high school??

 

[Jeana (DP)]

I've heard of coaches or principals agreeing to kiss a pig and heard of men with foot fetishes for women's feet, but to be attracted to the sweaty tennis shoe feet of young boys is totally perverted.

My son's coach told his class that if they did particularly good on a test could divide into two groups and "cut" his hair anyway they wanted to. Each side was cut (shaved) differently, and the coach had to live with it for the remainder of the week, without seeking salon intervention. I LOVED that!!

This coach, in this story?????? Well he needs a one-way ticket to perv island.

 

[dontpanic38]

OK - but just to clarify...

You may like a particular part of a person's body, but Don'tPanic - you engage in consensual foot appreciation with another adult. Which is totally cool...

I have actually talked w/ my husband about this particular issue as he has a supreme foot aversion. I have an extreme aversion to his feet, but I love mine. Love to have them touched, massaged, etc. - very sensitive erogenous zone which never gets any attention from him - and never will.

You are exactly right. The key is managing your fetish. Unfortunately there are a lot of stories out there about people who do these kind of things. This one is especially bad because the guy was a principal, and he subjected children to his fetish.
When I read the story I knew for a fact that a foot fetish was involved because of how they explained the whole thing. He didn't just kiss the feet, he did it fifty times for each student. Also there was a mention of him laying on the floor and having them put their feet in his face. Now without being too graphic I happen to know that is one of the "positions" that some people of that persuasion like...
But there are too many people who lack the social skills to manage having an attraction to something that a lot of people find taboo and a normal life. I am not justifying for one second the actions of people like this who act out, but I do know from personal experience that it is difficult to balance. A good example is your reply,

You may like a particular part of a person's body, but Don'tPanic - you engage in consensual foot appreciation with another adult. Which is totally cool...

But in Eve's post there is the comment that it must have been hard to get dates in high school, which I take no offense to myself, because personally yes it was difficult for me getting dates in highschool, but it was more due to the fact that I was shy, and not really related to the foot fetish at all. In fact, I think that until I met my wife and really trusted her enough to tell her, I separated the fetish from reality. I left it more to private fantasy because I could not risk being outed as a freaky foot guy.
Does that make any sense???

As for Eve's post, I wanted to comment on that as well. If you value your friendship with the friend, you probably don't want to wear sandals... Unless the guy is generally creepy, he probably is distracted. I know that from experience. If I am in a room full of sandal shod ladies, I am sort of distracted. I don't leer, but there is a thing that all of us foot guys do that people probably don't get, and I can't explain without writing a novel, but if you understand how males are generally visually excitable, and foot guys are hyper aware of the fact that all feet have a different shape, color, and texture. I don't know if that makes sense, but that is why in my earlier post I mentioned wondering if it fell into the autism spectrum. But I know a little about autism from personal experience and the way some autistics (savants) latch onto some sort of bizzare thing and obsess about it, the fetish is sort of the same...
I have done a lot of research and introspection so there is a lot about fetishes that I think is interesting that a lot of people don't really stop to think about. So I would be happy to share any thoughts or answer any questions anyone has on this subject if needed.

 

[Ang50]

I posted about the high school thing - w/ regard to dates. Reason being - I went to prom w/ a shorter guy, and I was wearing a lower cut dress. (still appropriate of course) He spent most of the evening talking with my chest.

Most women have stories like this... and it's amusing to turn the tables and think instead of a guy talking to your feet the entire time. That's all...

As far as most fetishes go or any other activity - as long as the other person is an adult and consenting - it really doesn't matter what it is. It's the suppression of such fantasies and urges that isn't healthy.

This principal, though, didn't just cross a line b/c of suppression. He is a criminal b/c he used his position for his own gratification and exploited boys to do it.

 

[southcitymom]

Oh boy... Where to start???

I have had this discussion here before regarding some other idiot with a foot fetish who acted out.
I suppose I am probably the resident expert in this area. Yes, I am one of those foot fetish guys. Not one of those guys who gets themselves in trouble, or freaks people out with it, but I was born with a thing for women's pretty feet...
There are tons of theories regarding where it comes from, but no simple answer. I tend to believe that it is a little bit of a lot of things.
The experts say that it is something that is conditioned from an important event in life where the foot became a symbol of comfort. I have never bought that completely, because I also think that it is not 100% environmental.
A real fetish (and there is a difference between a fetish and a preference, which is called partialism) is an obsession and I have wondered almost if there could possibly be some sort of link to something on the autism spectrum, maybe Asperger's or something like that. It is hard to explain, but it is something that if you talk to someone like myself, you will always hear that they liked feet in a way that they understood was different than liking anything else, even at the earliest of ages.

I have a hard time articulating a lot about it, especially with people who don't have inside experience with someone like myself other than hearing about some jerk on the news who gives the rest of us a bad name.
I would be happy to answer any questions anyone has though.

Just for the record, I am happily married going on seven years, and have a lovely four year old daughter. I am only saying that because there is sort of a myth that people who have a sexual preference for feet can not have a stable relationship. I know several other people like myself who have been able to live a happy fulfilling life with out having to act out in the way that some of these guys who hit the news do.

Ask away and I will answer everything the best I can.

Howdy, Don'tPanic. I just wanted to pop in and say you have no idea how delighted I am that Websleuths has a foot fetish guy! I don't buy into any crazy myths about it and don't have any real questions, just wanted to thank you for your openess and candor. That's how we all learn!

 

[kahskye]

I have a neighbor who has a foot aversion. She makes everyone in her home ALWAYS keep their feet covered with shoes and/or socks...

Our neighboorhood got together and had planned to tease her at her open house, by placing paper cut-out 'hang ten' footprints throughout her home. Then we realized her phobia was serious and our humorous act would not be taken as 'funny' to her...

There are some odd issues inside people's heads...

It really makes you want to quit reading and watching the news and just pretend that everything is rosey... but that's equally nutzo...

That's exactly how my BIL is. He can't stand the thought of bare feet on his hardwood floor. Before the new house he just built, he couldn't stand anyone w/ bare feet on his carpet. He says it's something about the oils in feet that he doesn't want touching floor/carpet.

 

[kahskye]

Oh boy... Where to start???

I have had this discussion here before regarding some other idiot with a foot fetish who acted out.
I suppose I am probably the resident expert in this area. Yes, I am one of those foot fetish guys. Not one of those guys who gets themselves in trouble, or freaks people out with it, but I was born with a thing for women's pretty feet...
There are tons of theories regarding where it comes from, but no simple answer. I tend to believe that it is a little bit of a lot of things.
The experts say that it is something that is conditioned from an important event in life where the foot became a symbol of comfort. I have never bought that completely, because I also think that it is not 100% environmental.
A real fetish (and there is a difference between a fetish and a preference, which is called partialism) is an obsession and I have wondered almost if there could possibly be some sort of link to something on the autism spectrum, maybe Asperger's or something like that. It is hard to explain, but it is something that if you talk to someone like myself, you will always hear that they liked feet in a way that they understood was different than liking anything else, even at the earliest of ages.

I have a hard time articulating a lot about it, especially with people who don't have inside experience with someone like myself other than hearing about some jerk on the news who gives the rest of us a bad name.
I would be happy to answer any questions anyone has though.

Just for the record, I am happily married going on seven years, and have a lovely four year old daughter. I am only saying that because there is sort of a myth that people who have a sexual preference for feet can not have a stable relationship. I know several other people like myself who have been able to live a happy fulfilling life with out having to act out in the way that some of these guys who hit the news do.

Ask away and I will answer everything the best I can.

Welcome Don'tPanic! Thank you for educating us w/ what it's like to have a foot fetish. Just curious, is your fetish only for adult women's feet, or any age of feet? I'm sure it's not the same, but I think baby feet are so adorable and use to love grabbing and playing w/ my dd's feet and saying to her, "I got your feet!" To this day, I love little baby feet, but don't have a fetish for them. Please don't misunderstand me asking, but do you view your daughter's feet differently?

Thanks for your openess and honesty.

 

[AlwaysShocked]

I too have some questions but don't want to seem too intrusive so if you don't want to answer that's fine. My question: Do foot fetishists want to "do things" to the woman's foot - as in rub up against them in a sexual manner, etc.? Also, is it only women's feet? What about men's feet? I guess what I am asking is if the fetish is gender specific or not?

 

[Jaded]

I too have some questions but don't want to seem too intrusive so if you don't want to answer that's fine. My question: Do foot fetishists want to "do things" to the woman's foot - as in rub up against them in a sexual manner, etc.? Also, is it only women's feet? What about men's feet? I guess what I am asking is if the fetish is gender specific or not?

I have a friend who has a foot fetish. He's married for 20 years and has a beautiful family. Your average, professional man. His attraction is the soles. And, there have been times I was in a meeting with him that he was visibly distracted by feet. I find nothing "abnormal" about him though. He's not harming anyone, and honestly I don't think people can really help the fetishes that they develop. Good theory that it may be autism related. I never thought about it like that.

Thank you for posting dontpanic. I appreciate your candor.

 

[Ang50]

That's exactly how my BIL is. He can't stand the thought of bare feet on his hardwood floor. Before the new house he just built, he couldn't stand anyone w/ bare feet on his carpet. He says it's something about the oils in feet that he doesn't want touching floor/carpet.

Ugh - I'm just the opposite. I get so annoyed w/ shoes on carpeting. All that inside dirt/germs/etc tracked onto the area where my kids are rolling around. Maybe it's b/c I don't like shoes in general and often wear sandals until there's snow on the ground. But the first thing I do in my house is take off all foot coverings.

 

[dontpanic38]

Thanks for all the welcomes and kind words. It is nice to have a place where intelligent people come together and share thoughts and accept people who may have a different view of things.

Ok, to answer the questions that were asked.
For me, the attraction is for adult women. It is hard to explain but like I pointed out in a previous post, someone with a foot fetish is hyper aware of all the subtle differences in types of feet. A child's feet are not developed and have differences than an adults. I couldn't tell you what it is other than size but a child who has the same size foot as an adult will still be different...
There is also the attraction to the person that is part of it. So that also would answer the question about other men. Personally I get nothing out of seeing a man's foot.
I actually was not aware that there were gay foot fetishists until just a few years ago. But that it is exactly that. Gay men who like other men's feet.

So to sum it up, no it is not just a foot that turns us on, there is a lot more to it...

As for what sort of things a foot fetishist likes to do, with out getting graphic, it varies. You would be shocked at the various "subcultures" in the foot fetish community... Some people like to be stepped on, that is called trampling.
Some people like to kiss and lick them, some merely like to look at them.
And then without going into detail, you can use your imagination, there are "footjobs"... :blushing:

Anyway, I hope that answers the questions that were asked. I apologize
for not having better answers, I am still in search of a lot of them myself.

And thank you all again for being so warm and welcoming!

 

[eve]

Thanks for all the welcomes and kind words. It is nice to have a place where intelligent people come together and share thoughts and accept people who may have a different view of things.

Ok, to answer the questions that were asked.
For me, the attraction is for adult women. It is hard to explain but like I pointed out in a previous post, someone with a foot fetish is hyper aware of all the subtle differences in types of feet. A child's feet are not developed and have differences than an adults. I couldn't tell you what it is other than size but a child who has the same size foot as an adult will still be different...
There is also the attraction to the person that is part of it. So that also would answer the question about other men. Personally I get nothing out of seeing a man's foot.
I actually was not aware that there were gay foot fetishists until just a few years ago. But that it is exactly that. Gay men who like other men's feet.

So to sum it up, no it is not just a foot that turns us on, there is a lot more to it...

As for what sort of things a foot fetishist likes to do, with out getting graphic, it varies. You would be shocked at the various "subcultures" in the foot fetish community... Some people like to be stepped on, that is called trampling.
Some people like to kiss and lick them, some merely like to look at them.
And then without going into detail, you can use your imagination, there are "footjobs"... :blushing:

Anyway, I hope that answers the questions that were asked. I apologize
for not having better answers, I am still in search of a lot of them myself.

And thank you all again for being so warm and welcoming!

Thanks dontpanic. It was great of you to come forward. I appreciate it. Let me tell you, my ff friend is the greatest, most fun guy, and I like him very much and so does my husband. He is married, but often his wife is traveling or just not with him. I knew about the foot fetish because he confided in me. Unfortunately shortly after that he would find ways to be near my feet. Staring at them, and sometimes even asking if he could give me a foot rub, or if he could touch them, etc. This was in the summer - I never wear socks and shoes in the summer, so...

My husband knew and took it with a grain of salt but it started getting uncomfortable. For one thing, he likes me a lot too, not just my feet. But he only does obvious things in regard to my feet. We are not the ones who cut off contact. He did. He doesn't call anymore and is acting like a hermit, in general. I consider him a friend and couldn't care less if he has a ff. I would be glad to try and help, i.e. not wearing sandals, etc. Don't know why I never thought of that (how dumb of me). My hubby now thinks it is more than the ff that is making him act this way but I don't know. I think it would be very hard to deal with it, I feel for him.

Eve

 

[dontpanic38]

Obviously I can't comment on your friend's motives, but if it is a thing where he likes you more than as a friend, he may have cut off contact to spare bad feelings.
As far as offering foot rubs etc... Everyone reacts differently with something like that. Personally I give a lot of foot rubs because everyone knows that I am great at it. Not everyone knows that I have a foot fetish, but most everyone knows that I have more than a passing interest. In my circle of friends and family, I have sort of become the resident reflexologist and style consultant. I actually went with all the girls to shop for shoes for my sister in law's wedding.
So depending on the situation, your friend's actions could be innocent, and by him offering you a foot rub, you may be treated to a massage like no other. But on the other end, it may not be innocent.
Also, if you don't mind me asking, Have you ever let him touch your feet? Also when he confided to you, what was the context?

 

[eve]

Obviously I can't comment on your friend's motives, but if it is a thing where he likes you more than as a friend, he may have cut off contact to spare bad feelings.
As far as offering foot rubs etc... Everyone reacts differently with something like that. Personally I give a lot of foot rubs because everyone knows that I am great at it. Not everyone knows that I have a foot fetish, but most everyone knows that I have more than a passing interest. In my circle of friends and family, I have sort of become the resident reflexologist and style consultant. I actually went with all the girls to shop for shoes for my sister in law's wedding.
So depending on the situation, your friend's actions could be innocent, and by him offering you a foot rub, you may be treated to a massage like no other. But on the other end, it may not be innocent.
Also, if you don't mind me asking, Have you ever let him touch your feet? Also when he confided to you, what was the context?

Sending you a pm.

Eve

Edited: I guess you don't receive pm's! Let me know if that changes, I'm getting the thread off topic and wanted to talk to you individually. Thanks!

 

[dontpanic38]

Sending you a pm.

Eve

Never used them before, but I will keep an eye open for it.

Thanks!

 

[eve]

Never used them before, but I will keep an eye open for it.

Thanks!

I tried to send you one but it says you don't receive them. I would check and see if you can change that. If so, I'll send you my story on this, I would love your advice. Don't want to derail the thread with a personal problem!

Thanks! Eve

 

[AlwaysShocked]

"Foot-job"! Oh, dontpanic, that is kind of cute, and yes, I get the drift.

I think there may be more than one gal here who has perhaps at some time in her life been sitting across from a man at a table when her unshod foot might "wander" over to the man's lower leg, then up to his thigh, then....
I've heard it referred to hereabouts as "playing footsie".

 

[dontpanic38]

Eve,
I was playing around with my options, you can try again. It looks like I am able to receive them now. Or you can send me an email. The one in my profile is an old one that is most likely disabled by now, but my current one is [email protected]

 

[dontpanic38]

"Foot-job"! Oh, dontpanic, that is kind of cute, and yes, I get the drift.

I think there may be more than one gal here who has perhaps at some time in her life been sitting across from a man at a table when her unshod foot might "wander" over to the man's lower leg, then up to his thigh, then....
I've heard it referred to hereabouts as "playing footsie".

Yes, but (again without being graphic,) a footjob goes a whole lot further than playing footsie.... :innocent: