The two sides of this argument are actually not incompatible, as long as you separate the long-term welfare of the child from the short-term. In the long-term, it may very well be that the parents are unfit and the child is better off in foster care or wherever (I don't pretend to know enough about this family specfiically to make that call), but in the short-term while all that gets sorted out through CPS and the court system, it may be beneficial for the child to see her parents and let them give her a hug and tell her she is alright and nothing bad is going to happen any more.
Yes, it would be beneficial... IF her parents did that to begin with.
I have not "wanted" my mother in any situation, ever that I recall.
First child? I didn't want my mother there (she was, but I didn't "need" her there.)
Surgery? No desire for my mother to be there.
When you don't grow up with a loving mother, it doesn't help to have her show up once you make the news.
I don't know which kind of mother M had.
I am just presenting the possibility that she may not even WANT her mother there.
I just know with that many arrests she certainly couldn't have been around a lot.
Most people don't get arrested every single time. So there is also the times she didn't get arrested.
Right now what this little girl needs is consistency, safety and security.
Parents who have been arrested 130+ times can NOT offer that without a completely change in lifestyle.
Maybe that will happen and if it does that's great!
This little girl needs to know that she is SAFE. I'd be surprised if she felt she was with her parents. :twocents: