OK OK - Aubrey Dameron, 25, transgender, Grove, 9 Mar 2019

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Thanks for starting a thread for Kasey <3!

Aubrey’s Aunt Pam is much more kind and patient than I could ever be.

RSBM

You're very welcome. ITA about Aubrey's aunt, Pam. Although I can't link it due to WS TOS, I've read that once it was made known that the bill would not pass if named in Aubrey's honor, her family are the ones who suggested the bill be named in honor of Kasey. His case hasn't received near enough attention it deserves, AFAICT. Hopefully that will change soon.
 
  • #42
Human remains have been located in Shawnee, OK. There's been no identification yet that I could find. My prayers are going up to comfort the family and loved ones of the deceased.

Video at link.
Oklahoma authorities investigate after human bones found in Shawnee | KFOR.com Oklahoma City
Shawnee police, investigators from the Oklahoma State Bureau of Investigation and a state medical examiner are investigating the scene near Brangus Road and Independence Street.

Human bones found in Shawnee; investigation ongoing
15 Mar 2021
Shawnee police have confirmed human bones have been found in a wooded area around Brangus Road and Independence Street.

The remains located last month have been ID'd. Rest in peace, John.

Police: Bones discovered in Shawnee identified as missing Oklahoma man | KFOR.com Oklahoma City
Officials say the search for a missing man has come to a tragic end. [snip] Now, officials have identified the victim as John Ayers, who was reported missing in 2015.
 
  • #43
SEP 6, 2021
Aunt of missing Native American transgender woman Aubrey Dameron believes she was victim of hate crime (nbcnews.com)
Aubrey Dameron was a voice for those who weren’t always heard. She opened her home to those who needed shelter. She stood up for those who were bullied. And she forgave those who spewed words of hate toward her because of who she was.

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The 25-year-old citizen of the Cherokee Nation lived on the outskirts of Grove, part of the Cherokee Nation of Oklahoma. According her aunt, PS, Aubrey had returned to her family’s home the previous summer, where she lived with her mother, brother, and stepfather.

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PS told Dateline that Aubrey’s mother reported to police that in the early morning hours of March 9, 2019, she woke up around 3:30 a.m. and saw Aubrey leaving the house. Aubrey told her family members, including her brother, who was in the living room, that she was meeting up with a friend.

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... Aubrey was dependent on medication and she had left behind her medication and her purse. She added that the area is rural and there is nowhere within walking distance where Aubrey would have gone.

PS said she and CF were also concerned because they feared Aubrey, a transgender woman in the process of transitioning, may have been the victim of a hate crime. Pam told Dateline her niece was given a hard time when she told her friends and family in high school.

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Aubrey, also known by her nickname “Shorty” by her loved ones, had returned from having surgery in New Mexico the summer before she vanished. PS said her niece referred to herself as a two-spirit no it’s not- they actually called her shorty so I’ll add that, a Native American term describing people possessing a blend of male and female spirits.

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On March 23, 2019, a team searched near the family home and found a bloody sock about a half mile away, PS said. She added that the sheriff’s office submitted it to the Oklahoma State Bureau Investigation, but said they never received conclusive results.

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More than two years after Aubrey’s disappearance, her family hasn’t given up their search for answers - and for Aubrey. They created a Facebook page called Missing-Aubrey Dameron from Grove, Oklahoma, which is devoted to finding her.

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Aubrey’s last Facebook post, on Feb. 25, 2019, shows a sign that reads: “You’re never too important to be nice to people.”

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Anyone with information about Aubrey’s case is asked to call the FBI at (918) 664-3300 or the Cherokee Nation Marshal Service (918) 207-3800.
 
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SEP 13, 2021
Search for Cherokee Nation citizen Aubrey Dameron continues 2 years later | News | cherokeephoenix.org
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With 2-1/2 years passed, Smith and Fencer still search, tell Dameron’s story and reflect on the “love” she brought to people.

Christian used to tell me all the time that him and her would look up to me,” Smith said. “Then after hearing people’s stories after she went missing I’m like ‘I look up to her.’ She kept going. She didn’t let it define her. She lived how she wanted to live. She dressed how she wanted to dress. She was probably one of the strongest people I know. I can’t wrap my mind around why somebody would want to hurt her. She was just full of love.”

Fencer said since Dameron went missing he has reflected on her “positivity.”

“She was mistreated so much throughout her entire life by people, the outside world, that it’s really crazy to think that looking back all the positivity that she left in this world or that she’s leaving in this world,” he said.

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Anyone with information is asked to call the OSBI at 1-800-522-8017. There is also the Facebook page “Missing-Aubrey-Dameron-from-Grove-Oklahoma.”
 
  • #46
NOV 3, 2021
Transgender Indigenous Woman Aubrey Dameron Vanished from Home in 2019 | PEOPLE.com
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Even though she was treated unkindly in high school as a transitioning transgender woman, she never let it get to her.

"I would find out that people had been mean, and her reply every time was, 'It's okay, Aunt Pam. I'll just keep praying for them,'" her aunt PS tells PEOPLE in this week's issue.

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Authorities said her cell phone pinged the Wi-Fi at a nearby mobile home park but no one reported seeing her.

PS suspects foul play. "She just wouldn't stop all communication with family," she says. "She just wouldn't go and disappear."

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"I have hope that we are going to get answers," says PS. "And I understand that it might not be the answers we want, but we just want to bring her home. We never imagined two years ago that we would be looking for a relative. You don't ever think it's going to be you. And then all of a sudden you just wake up and you're in this nightmare."

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  • #47
Preview of tomorrow nights' show which includes one-on-one interviews with Aubrey's Aunt, Uncle, and Mother.

NOV 16, 2021
Missing Indigenous transgender woman last seen in 2019 | NewsNation Prime
 
  • #48
NOV 16, 2021
Missing Indigenous Oklahoma woman last seen in 2019 (newsnationnow.com)
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Grove’s population is approximately 7,000 and is located about 90 miles outside of Tulsa. Dameron’s family said the search has been a grassroots effort and they haven’t received much help from law enforcement.

“I believe that we will eventually get the answers that we deserve,” said her uncle, Christian Fencer. “I believe that someone’s going to come forward, and the entire thing’s just going to blow open.”

On Wednesday, as part of our series “Missing,” NewsNation will speak with Aubrey’s aunt and uncle. And for the first time ever, her mother will address her daughter’s case publicly on camera.

Missing” airs on “NewsNation Prime” at 9/8CT.

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  • #49
NOV 18, 2021
Missing Indigenous transgender woman last seen in 2019 | WGNO.COM
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A NewsNation crew visited Dameron’s home, the last place she was seen.

Eventually, the crew caught up to her mother in the next town over.

“You’re the first camera crew I’m ever speaking to,” said JB, Dameron’s mother.

Her mother was the last person to see her. She says she has no idea what happened to her daughter, but does believe she’s dead.

“I felt my child pass. A year ago,” JB said. “A mother and a child has a bond. And I felt it. I hit the floor.”

Dameron’s mother also says the family hasn’t received the help from the investigators they were hoping for.

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... her aunt and uncle say they will keep digging for answers.

“She was my keeper. And now I don’t have a keeper,” her uncle said. “I just keep pushing forward.”

“You know, if, if she is alive, you know, I would let her know that we’re not giving up,” her aunt said. “We’re still looking. And I’ll never give up.”

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  • #50
Another year passes...

Eight years of Dateline's Missing in America: 169 still missing

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Aubrey Dameron, a 25-year-old citizen of the Cherokee Nation, was last seen leaving the home where she lived with her family on the outskirts of Grove, Oklahoma, in the early morning hours of March 9, 2019. Aubrey’s mother reported to police that she woke up around 3:30 a.m. and saw Aubrey leaving the house. She was reported missing when she failed to answer calls or return home. Her purse and medication had been left behind. Aubrey’s family fears that as a transgender Native American woman she may have been the victim of a hate crime. The family has found national support from Indigenous groups who have joined them in stepping up to raise awareness of Aubrey’s case. They’ve conducted several searches, many times with the help of the MMIWUSA. On March 23, 2019, a team searched near the family home and found a bloody sock about a half mile away, which was submitted to the Oklahoma State Bureau Investigation, but the family said they never received conclusive results. Aubrey is described as being 5’10” and weighing about 150 lbs. She has two tattoos: a triquetra symbol on her back and the word “Shorty” on her upper left arm. Her DNA profile is in databases for the OSBI, the National Crime Information Center and the National Missing and Unidentified Persons System. Anyone with information about Aubrey’s case is asked to call the FBI at (918) 664-3300 or the Cherokee Nation Marshal Service (918) 207-3800.
 
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Delaware County Sheriff launches cold case unit | KSNF/KODE - FourStatesHomepage.com

“As a person, she had the biggest heart … I mean, she loved people, she loved life,” her aunt, Pam Smith, told Pix11. “First thing she would do is (say) ‘Aunt Pam, I love you! How are you doing?’ And a great big hug and a big sloppy kiss on the cheek.”

“And sometimes I get irritated. But, you know, what I wouldn’t give to have one of those right now,” she added. She faced transphobic bullying in the form of being "mocked" and called slurs.

“But she stayed true to herself. And she never wanted revenge. Instead she would pray for them," she said. “She was finding out who she was.”
https://blavity.com/a-trans-cheroke...ll-pressing-police-for-answers?category1=news
 
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This is the missing person poster for Aubrey Dameron.This image is from the Facebook page Missing Aubrey Dameron from Grove, Oklahoma.

Aubrey Dameron was 25 years old when she was last seen the morning of March 9, 2019. She left her mother’s home in Grove, Oklahoma around 3:30 am. Her family knows that she’d messaged several people to get a ride. However, it is unknown if she ever got a ride. Aubrey's phone's last ping was at 3:42 am close to her home, although it is not known whether it died or was shut off. Aubrey has not been seen or heard from since.

Her family is understandably devastated. Aubrey’s uncle Christian Fencer shared with People Magazine, that Aubrey didn’t know a stranger. He stated that,
If she saw someone who looked like they were maybe an outcast, she would be the person to welcome them in, and really sit down and get to know them. That's just who she was. She just wanted to make sure that everyone felt like they had a place in the world. Kind of like a mother hen, making sure that everyone was good and doing well.
Aubrey’s aunt, Pam Smith, would further confirm this in the same interview by saying Aubrey exhibited this sweet, kind spirit even after facing several challenges that coincided with transitioning in high school. Pam stated,
R forget the way she greeted people. The hug and the kiss on the cheek and, 'How are you? I love you.' She wanted to be accepted, she wanted to be loved, and she was full of love.

 
  • #54
Dateline’s Andrea Canning tells the story of Aubrey Dameron, a 25-year-old citizen of the Cherokee Nation, who was last seen leaving her family’s home on the outskirts of Grove, Oklahoma, in the early morning hours of March 9, 2019. Her family fears that as a transgender Native American woman, she may have been the victim of a hate crime.

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Dateline’s Andrea Canning talks to Aubrey’s uncle Christian Fencer, her aunt Pam Smith and the director of the Cherokee Nation Marshal Service. Aubrey is 5’10”, and weighs 150 lbs. She has two distinguishing tattoos: a triquetra symbol on her back and the word “Shorty” on her upper left arm. Anyone with information about Aubrey’s case is asked to call the FBI at 1-800-CALL-FBI or the Cherokee Nation Marshal Service (918) 207-3800.
 
  • #55
AUG 10, 2022
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Pam Smith: “Jennifer said that she woke up about 3:30 in the morning, walked down the hallway to the restroom and she saw Aubrey walking out the side door which goes out to under the carport. And she said she was wearing a black jacket, a black top, a black skirt and black hose -- like knitted hose or something, and black boots."

Jennifer told Pam that Aubrey said she was going out to meet somebody. She never returned.

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Christian Fencer: “Whenever she left her house, she would walk to the left as she left her driveway. And to the left of her driveway there's other houses, there's people with Ring doorbells -- so they have the cameras on them. So we went over there and we checked those doorbells and Aubrey was nowhere to be found on any of those Ring doorbell video cameras.”

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We were walking down the side of the road where the neighbor who has the Ring doorbell. Across the road from their house was a sock that had what appeared to be blood on it.

The sock was sent off to be tested.

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Andrea Canning: “Did anything come from that?"

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Pam Smith: “Yeah, inconclusive."

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Closer to home, though, there was something else that Pam and Christian found themselves wondering about. Both say that Aubrey's mom, Jennifer, her stepfather and her brother seemed to show little interest in searching for Aubrey.

Andrea Canning: “Do you think her mom knows more than she's letting on?"

Pam Smith: “Absolutely, without a doubt."

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As for Pam's allegation that he blamed Aubrey's disappearance on her "lifestyle," Captain Wells says her case was considerably more difficult to investigate because he says she was known to use drugs.

And that, he says, meant there were an infinite number of possibilities for coming in contact with, quote, "undesirables" who might have caused Aubrey harm.

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Pam and Christian say they're relieved that Marshal Buhl and his team are now in charge.

And the marshal has shared with us a slew of important developments in the investigation.

He tells us that the clothing found near that hole in the ground was not a match for Aubrey and that testing on the bloody sock is incomplete.

He says his team is actively looking at a particular pond, and he confirms they are also investigating whether Aubrey's ex-boyfriend or a hate group could be behind her disappearance.

And he shared with us news about another potential clue.

During a November 2019 search, volunteers discovered something on Aubrey's family's property.

Christian Fencer: “There was a search where we had, again, canine dogs that hit on the shed there at the property. And inside of the shed was a little blue kiddie pool and inside of the kiddie pool was a tarp. Well, we laid the tarp out and the kiddie pool out -- and they hit on the tarp again. So then we looked at the tarp and there was some stains on there that could coincide with blood. We had law enforcement come and pick it up. It took them about over a month to get it 60 miles down the road to get it tested."

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Marshal Buhl: “There's some belief that maybe Aubrey might have been there at the shed. The problem with anything on that property is I have to convince a judge to get me back on that property. We're not getting consent to go back on that property. And so I got to have enough to have a tribal judge look and go, ‘Yes, here. Get on that property and look.’"

In terms of potential suspects, Marshal Buhl says he's looking hardest at those closest to Aubrey.

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Marshal Buhl: “I can tell you, we have not interviewed every family member yet. There's a couple that we’re not interviewing on purpose yet."

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If you know something about Aubrey's disappearance, you can call the FBI at 1-800-CALL-FBI or go online at FBI - Tips

You can also call the Cherokee Nation Marshal Service at 918-207-3800.
 
  • #56
I can see a strong possibility that either Aubrey's ex or a person/persons hating trans people are responsible, and I can't decide which side of the fence I fall on. Her ex sounds like a real 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬, and reading about how threatening and abusive he was, I am extremely concerned. Abusive partners or exes and missing people are never a good combination. Even if they didn't do it (which they very often do - not saying her ex did it or making any claims - just pointing out the obvious) they WILL fall under suspicion. Sounds like he's under suspicion. But, with Aubrey being a trans woman (especially a Native American one), I can sadly see a lot of possibilities for hate crimes and attacks. Especially if this was someone she happened to meet online. So, not ruling anything out, although I think I do lean towards the ex because he sounds like a real piece of work IMO.
 
  • #57
DEC 5, 2022

Aubrey Dameron

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Aubrey Dameron, a 25-year-old citizen of the Cherokee Nation, was last seen leaving the home where she lived with her family on the outskirts of Grove, Oklahoma, in the early morning hours of March 9, 2019. Aubrey’s mother reported to police that she woke up around 3:30 a.m. and saw Aubrey leaving the house. Her purse and medication had been left behind. She was reported missing when she failed to answer calls or return home. Aubrey’s aunt and uncle, Pam Smith and Christian Fencer, told Dateline they found out from a friend on Saturday, March 16, 2019, that Aubrey was missing. They fear that as a transgender Native American woman, their niece may have been the victim of a hate crime. The family has found national support from Indigenous groups who have joined them in raising awareness of Aubrey’s case. Aubrey's case originally belonged to the Delaware County Sheriff's Office, but in July 2020, the Supreme Court issued a ruling regarding Native American reservations which meant the case would now be investigated by tribal police and the FBI. Both agencies have more resources than the sheriff's office. Shannon Buhl, Director of the Cherokee Nation Marshal Service, told Dateline his team has had to make up for lost time in what his office is investigating as a homicide. In 2022, Aubrey's case was featured in season one of the new podcast series “Dateline: Missing in America.” Shannon Buhl, Pam Smith and Christian Fencer spoke with Andrea Canning. Aubrey is described as being 5’10” and weighing about 150 lbs. She has two tattoos: a triquetra symbol on her back and the word “Shorty” on her upper left arm. Anyone with information about Aubrey’s case is asked to call the FBI at (918) 664-3300 or the Cherokee Nation Marshal Service at (918) 207-3800.
 
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NOV 3, 2023
NBC News - 10 YEARS OF MISSING IN AMERICA
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... Aubrey’s mother reported to police that she woke up around 3:30 a.m. and saw Aubrey leaving the house. She was reported missing when she failed to answer calls or return home.

Her purse and medication had been left behind.Aubrey’s aunt and uncle, Pam Smith and Christian Fencer, told Dateline they found out from a friend on Saturday, March 16, 2019, that Aubrey was missing. They fear that as a transgender Native American woman their niece may have been the victim of a hate crime. The family has found national support from Indigenous groups who have joined them in raising awareness of Aubrey’s case.

Aubrey's case originally belonged to the Delaware County Sheriff's Office, but in July 2020, the Supreme Court issued a ruling regarding Native American reservations which meant the case would now be investigated by tribal police and the FBI. Both agencies have more resources than the sheriff's office. Shannon Buhl, Director of the Cherokee Nation Marshal Service, told Dateline his team has had to make up for lost time in what his office is investigating as a homicide. In 2022, Aubrey's case was featured in season one of the podcast series Dateline: Missing in America. Shannon Buhl, Pam Smith and Christian Fencer spoke with Andrea Canning. ...

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  • #60
Bump for Aubrey

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