OK OK - Stephen “Steve” Lee Murphy, last seen in Claremore sometime in 1976, not reported missing until July 2022

[Snoangel26]

He looks Native American, have you ever looked into that angle? Do they have a registry?

It didn't show up on my DNA test.

 

[FromGermany1]

O/T but may be give you some hope:

My cousin is 82 yo now, and some days ago he found out, who his illegitimate father has been.

When I once looong time ago wrote to my cousin, his mother would want to disclose the secret to him (she opened up to me with only one sentence, not naming the person) and he should please ask her, he didn't do it. Later on, he never touched the theme with me in conversation, so I remained silent also. (Family habit, you know.)

When my cousin's mother died, she left documents and pics in a cardboard, but her only son (my cousin) didn't open it, even when he moved from one home to another and even back. When he was old enough, my cousin's own sole son also wanted to learn about his unknown grandfather, but he didn't do anything except asking his father, who didn't know it.

Now in July 2024, when my cousin had his son for a visit, they both found the cardboard, which hadn't been opened since the death of my aunt. They both opened this box, and there it was: the secret of my cousin's life! Since that day he knows, who his father was, and his son knows, who his grandpa was. Of course, much too late.

 

[Snoangel26]

O/T but may be give you some hope:

My cousin is 82 yo now, and some days ago he found out, who his illegitimate father has been.

When I once looong time ago wrote to my cousin, his mother would want to disclose the secret to him (she opened up to me with only one sentence, not naming the person) and he should please ask her, he didn't do it. Later on, he never touched the theme with me in conversation, so I remained silent also. (Family habit, you know.)

When my cousin's mother died, she left documents and pics in a cardboard, but her only son (my cousin) didn't open it, even when he moved from one home to another and even back. When he was old enough, my cousin's own sole son also wanted to learn about his unknown grandfather, but he didn't do anything except asking his father, who didn't know it.

Now in July 2024, when my cousin had his son for a visit, they both found the cardboard, which hadn't been opened since the death of my aunt. They both opened this box, and there it was: the secret of my cousin's life! Since that day he knows, who his father was, and his son knows, who his grandpa was. Of course, much too late.

That makes me happy to know they got to learn about him. I'm happy your aunt kept pictures and documents

 

[FromGermany1]

That makes me happy to know they got to learn about him. I'm happy your aunt kept pictures and documents

Who knows, who is keeping a cardboard in your wider family and doesn't look into it, because of fear to find something unpleasant. Or the person has forgotten the one cardboard in the attic or in the basement.

Maybe, you have pushed one or the other in that direction already: to at least think of the matter or to search for a lost container with interesting content.

ETA: I know, your father was alive, when he disappeared. That makes a big difference of course.

 

[Snoangel26]

Who knows, who is keeping a cardboard in your wider family and doesn't look into it, because of fear to find something unpleasant. Or the person has forgotten the one cardboard in the attic or in the basement.

Maybe, you have pushed one or the other in that direction already: to at least think of the matter or to search for a lost container with interesting content.

ETA: I know, your father was alive, when he disappeared. That makes a big difference of course.

And my grandmother kept a picture of me and parents. My aunt sent it to me. Maybe one day something will pop up.

 

[DoctorRose]

And my grandmother kept a picture of me and parents. My aunt sent it to me. Maybe one day something will pop up.

Oh that’s so sweet. I agree, I hope you’ve nudged them in the direction to open up some more.

 

[doublestop]

Do you have a copy of their marriage license? Who were the witnesses?

 

[Snoangel26]

Do you have a copy of their marriage license? Who were the witnesses?

I do have a copy of it. The witnesses are deceased.

 

[Snoangel26]

This is Stephen and me at 6 months old.

 

[MamaSleuth5]

This is Stephen and me at 6 months old.

This is so beautiful.

@Snoangel26 you are inspiring.

 

[killarney rose]

This is Stephen and me at 6 months old.

I can’t help but wonder…..he appeared to be a caring dad. Is it possible that he didn’t run away and go AWOL, but rather someone murdered him? But all these years he’s been considered a runaway and that has protected his killer?

 

[Snoangel26]

I can’t help but wonder…..he appeared to be a caring dad. Is it possible that he didn’t run away and go AWOL, but rather someone murdered him? But all these years he’s been considered a runaway and that has protected his killer?

I have wondered if he was killed. The only way I would know is if a body shows up. I have actually wondered about every scenario. Even if he was a victim of Randy Kraft.

 

[Snoangel26]

My mother has passed away. So far I have not been able to find anything about Stephen, but I still have a lot to go thru. With any luck she has kept something concerning him.

 

[lisette]

So sorry to hear that your mother has passed. Praying that you find peace and comfort in the days to come

 

[doublestop]

I'm sorry for your loss. Many answers no doubt died with her.

Do you know how/where your parents met?

 

[MamaSleuth5]

My mother has passed away. So far I have not been able to find anything about Stephen, but I still have a lot to go thru. With any luck she has kept something concerning him.

I am so sorry for your loss, @Snoangel26

 

[nhmemorymaker]

My mother has passed away. So far I have not been able to find anything about Stephen, but I still have a lot to go thru. With any luck she has kept something concerning him.

Sorry @Snoangel26 for you, and what you are having to go through...
Are you going to prepare an obituary? I know some people prepare one, and provide a way for people to add any comments or memories of when she was young....... maybe, maybe someone would see and and reach out. Not sure if she is even living near where they might have once been together, ....

but we all do hope you might find something.....

 

[Snoangel26]

Sorry @Snoangel26 for you, and what you are having to go through...
Are you going to prepare an obituary? I know some people prepare one, and provide a way for people to add any comments or memories of when she was young....... maybe, maybe someone would see and and reach out. Not sure if she is even living near where they might have once been together, ....

but we all do hope you might find something.....

I did do an obituary. I also posted it.

 

[Snoangel26]

I'm sorry for your loss. Many answers no doubt died with her.

Do you know how/where your parents met?

They met in Oklahoma. Family was close

 

[nhmemorymaker]

I did do an obituary. I also posted it.

Did you post it where they were originally together...