I have to agree. I am not certain why the mother is still eliciting information from her daughter. I do understand that sometimes LE revictimizes the victim by not taking them seriously, however, I think a mother would fight for the right treatment and help, rather then try to get a book deal out of it.
The problems I see with this is:
1)The mother is further violating her daughter by posting something so painful and private on the web. Most abuse victims craze privacy.
2) The more the mother tries to pry information out of the child, the greater the stories become. A child will continue to fabricate and create bigger and bigger stories, trying to figure out what the adult wants. In a child's mind if the same questions are asked over and over, obviously the first answer wasn't "right". Legitimate cases get thrown out of court for leading...
3) The mother may have some sort of conversion disorder and feel a need to create greater and greater drama about the abuse to avoid looking at where she may have missed red-flags with her child.
4) Something most likely did happen to the little girl and the actual abuse is being lost in the drama. In fact, by not listening to the original story and getting help from there, the mother is revictimizing the daughter just as police did, because apparently the story wasn't believable or enough the first time.
5) I think what is the worst part is as the mother continues to elicit information and the story gets more violent, the girl is left with the sense that the original abuse she suffered was not significant enough to get attention. She is not being validated for the actual trauma of the abuse, only getting the message that abuse has to consist of "satanic rituals" or high profile serial killers to get attention or be worth anything.
6) It is a me, me, me blog...Justice, healing and recovery come from therapy and time, not book deals and blogging about system failure.
The only thing I can think with this is maybe the perpetrator or potential perpetrator has some sort of assets the mother would like to be rewarded with. I see nothing on that blog that shows the mother is doing this out of true concern or the well being of her child. In fact, the mother is doing further harm and destroying any possible case for justice. :-( IMOO
I just came across your post and I am the mother that you are referring to. You obviously have no idea who I really am, or what I went through with my daughter. I did not prompt my daughter to tell me these stories. She kept disclosing more and more abuse and I didn't even buy a tape recorder for 9 months after her initial disclosure because I was going through so much it just didin't occur to me until several months later that I should get a tape recorder and tape all this stuff she was telling me. I never at any time prompted my daugher to tell me the murder stories and the knowledge she had was way beyond anything a child her age could conceive of and that was told to me by professionals including a psychiatrist from Chiildren's Hospital who said her depictions of murder and cannibalism were not from deceptive or delusional content.
I started the blog because I was desperately trying to get the police to listen to me because I really do believe that my daughter's abuser was responsible for many missing and murdered women in BC, Camada. My fight for justice has not just been for my daughter but for other families of missing and murdered loved ones here in BC as well. My daughter asked me to write her story and told me that it really messed her up that the police didn't believe her. She is not an 8 year old child anymore, she is nearly 35 now and said that she witnessed murders at the Pickton Pig Farm, which was only 2.6 miles from the Pickton Pig Farm.
Just like with the Brobeck's whose daughter was molested by a family friend who was a pedophile, it may be too much to believe that something so crazy as their story could ever happen, but crazy stories like their's and mine do exist. And getting a book deal is the only way that I could ever dream of paying for drug rehabilitation for my daughter and putting money into trust for her so she doesn't have to prostitute herself to survive and put herself in further danger. My daughter has been an addict since the age of 12 because of this stuff and it was while she was in the care of social services because they said she needed a special home with people experienced caring for a sexually abused child. And my daughter had injuries consistant with her torture like the needle marks on her, but it's not like I would think to myself, oh my God you must be tying up my child and sticking pins in her. I asked her what the marks were and she just said she didn't know.
I am well aware that leading a witness could be destructive, but I did not lead my daughter to just randomly say the stuff she was saying and then she would draw pictures that were pretty horrifying too. I called in a tip to America's Most Wanted when they did a show on all our missing women and two detectives came the following day to my house to interview me. They hired a play therapist who was court qualified to work with children and she was trained in how to deal with children in non cognitive therapy. My daughter displayed exposure to extreme violence and dismemberments. That came straight from the therapist and she went there for 9 months before the therapist said "I don't know what that guy did to your daughter, but she has been severely traumatized and I am not qualified to help her." You don't know how hard I worked at getting funding for her therapy and the waitlist I was on at various places in order to get her therapy. i paid $160 per hour for a psychologist for her, but couldn't afford the final report because I couldn't keep up on the payments and the social worker working on my daughter's file said there was no funding for therapy for my daughter. When you actually live through all this, it is amazing how much one goes through and how desperate you get to find answers.
And as I have said I didn't start all this fight for justice without recognizing that there were other victims and families here that were suffering because of the systemic breakdown for justice and all the injustice that families were facing. My bringing this out in public was to hopefully bring answers to some of these families. And no my daughter's abuser, Henning Lagies, didn't have any assets at all for me to go after. How dare you judge me in such a way when you know nothing about my character, or all that my child and I have suffered. You are not aware of the systemic breakdown by our policing agencies and they had a full on missing women inquiry after the DNA of 33 women was found on the Pickton pig farm, only 2.6 miles from my child's abuser's home. And for the record the Vancouver Police didn't have any jurisdiction over my child's case regarding her abuse and the RCMP didn't bother to work with the VPD regarding this when the cop said he would contact them, but never did.
I didn't even find out until 2012 that the RCMP closed the file on my daughter after only 2 months. He didn't follow Children's Hospital's recommendation that my daughter needed a full psychiatric examination to possibly prove her case. Crown Counsel said that the burden of proof in child sexual assaults is really high and because my daughter was so young they didn't find it appropriate to bring the case to trial. The cop working on my daughter's case didn't even ask for medical records or contact any of the 30 contacts I gave him regarding the schools observations of my child's sexaul agressiveness in school, daycare workers, teachers, principals, community members who had all experienced this type of thing with my daughter. In the end my child did a one month residential psychiatric assessment where it was proven her abuse was "Likely"
I started a blog to try to educate people like you about our missing women and girls and what a travesty of justice it has been regarding these females. Still to this day, all these years later, I am still left wondering what all happened to my daughter and what all she was exposed to. It's possible that she was pschologically tortured into believing she saw murder, but it wouldn't explain her use of colors, smells and textures, which experts have said cannot be immagined. I also had two forensic examiners and profilers from the US step up in the name of justice for my child and offered their services pro bono to work on my case. The linguistics of the miurder tape has been annalyzed and it has been noted that a great deal of my daughter's disclosures are from long term memory. We have already been down the road many times in the pursuit of justice, but for many families here, not just mine, we will never see any justice. The only way I was able to give my daughter her voice in what happened to her was to start the blog and to write a book which should be published by 2027 as I am currently in litigation for my gang rape as a teenager and my lawher has asked me not to publish the book yet. PTSD took me away from my work for over a decade, but I am back on the case in hopes that I can get a book deal and be able to set my daughter up to take care of herself instead of being homeless. I always have an open door for her, but I rarely talk to her and never know where she is due to her transient lifestyle and drug addiction. Everyday I worry that today will be the day that the cops knock on my door and tell me my daughter is dead. Can you even begin to imagine what my daughter and I have actually gone though instead of making up assumptions that are extremely offensive and so far off the mark it's not even funny.
And how is my blog "me, me, me?" A writer from Crime Watch Canada Magazine advised me to write about my story to get it out there so that I could force the RCMP to take a better look at who this guy was doing this crazy, sick stuff and whether he was a viable suspect for our missing and murdered women and girls. Like I said my daughter asked me to fight for her, and I have done as much as I could despite that fact that I was left on my own to deal with all of this. I was actually angry at my daughter's school for phoning in suspected child sexual abuse of my daughter because he said my daughter had overt sexual behavior and knowledge beyond her years, but the cop didn't bother to talk to the teacher or principal who called in the report. I was still blind to who Henning really was so I couldn't imagine who would have abused her. Also I never started my blog until 2011, over a decade after my daughter first disclosed her abuse; she was already an adult by then.
And the writer who recommended to me to write a book to force the RCMP to listen, did a 17 page spread on my story in the Crime Watch Canada Magazine. I was constantly reaching out to others to listen and to help me with what was going on, and it was horrible going through all the stuff we were going through which is in the book too. There is a history of my background and where my daughter ended up that needs to be taken into account as well. So please if you have any questions, don't just assume stuff about a person you know nothing about or the battles they have been through trying to get attention re our missing women. I even do the Women's Memorial Walk yearly which is a 4 hour walk and I am disabled. We sing the women's warrior song as we march in memory of all our missing. To the families of our missing, if you see this, I am still fightine for your daughter too.
