I am wondering if there had been a death when he was 12. Reactions to death can come looming back at you years later. I suffered terribly from family deaths and didn't understand what was happening to me at all.
I kept feeling like I shouldn't be taking it so hard, but I will outline it for you.
A sister in law had one child die of crib death back in the sixties, then one son had a serious brain tumor age 12, while he survived, his older brother 16 had a heart attack at a boyscout meeting at the church, he died, then the brain tumor kept coming back, years of operations, until he was 21, he died after the last operation, three months later these boys father died from the stress age 45, then three months later, the grandfather died. I was absolutely lost for the reasoning. Other family members went on with life like nothing ever happened. Me I just couldn't deal with it. The stress with a death does strange and unusual things to people. Oh and then my x husband, the uncle to these boys, decided it should have been him that died, more stress, and shot himself, he died too.
I just wonder about this guy and what triggered this.