Yes,I have a silver heart "locket " with a minute amount of my son's ashes in it. For me ,his death was so sudden and unexpected, I felt it was symbolic of keeping him with me ,still a part of my everyday life.
Consider that ,beyond the grief when a child dies,you still want to "mother" them,make sure they are okay,that they are happy and not afraid. It's hard to turn them over,even if it's to God. Heaven is so hard to conceptualize when that's where your child is,the one that was just jumping on the trampoline and asking you to make pizza for dinner.What are they up to in Heaven ? Who are they with ? what are they doing? How will they be able to do anything without you?
It takes time to wrap your brain around it,and since we chose cremation,I chose to also have the locket. The funeral home does everything,and you can't see the ashes. My 3 daughters each wanted one .
After 6 years,I'll admit,it doesn't do that much for me. I've worked through a lot,but I do remember why it seemed so important to get it at the time. We ordered them at the funeral home the day after he died. It just seemed like the thing to do at the time.
That's the best explanation I can give.
You see,nothing about my son gives me the creeps . Nothing. I cherish everything about him,even his ashes.