*REVISIT* Does Anyone Feel Sad for Casey? Or Family Members?

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wow you are brave..ha...I do feel compassion for her, as a Christian it's not my place to judge but it is my place to forgive, I also feel very sad for her that she is so sick that she doesn't and maybe never did know the love of that little girl, never knew the joy of being a mother, never understood that sweet Caylee was given to her as a gift, there is so much about this case that makes me sad and feel compassion, but I also have a lot of anger, it just seem so senseless, I just ask WHY all the time.
 
Thanks Bessie.

Missmybaby, I find that very sad, that you can't find any compassion and pity for these broken human beings. The argument has been offered on this thread that Casey didn't feel compassion and empathy for anyone else so why should we feel for her. Well, to me that's the point - we should because we can. How can we ask others to demonstrate these emotions, if we can't do it ourselves? If we don't show it and feel it, others won't learn it.

It shouldn't matter if she chose to do this, it doesn't make her any less sick and mentally ill. I don't think she was "born this way" (although that would make me think she deserves our compassion even more) I believe that we are as science has proven, the result of nature and nurture, the sum of all our experiences, which is why some people who have horrible childhoods and survive them don't commit crimes - they have other experiences both naturally and nurturing which makes them respond differently.

Until we stop looking at these people as "monsters" which is really the ultimate excuse for them, and start recognizing that these people are human beings and all human beings are capable of the most terrible behavior, we will never break this cycle of abusing and hurting each other.

Bev

Please don't feel bad for me. I don't think she has a true mental illness, if she did she would have my sympathy for the fact that she was truly a broken being. She is a breaker of other human beings. Those are the people who have my undying sympathy.

I am one of the most caring and compassionate people you could meet. I have three (grown) kids of my own but six more that I helped raise and still call me mom. I have worked (volunteered) for a child abuse organization doing court ordered counseling for people convicted of child abuse. I don't consider these people to be monsters.

KC has committed a a horrible crime. She was cruel and calculating, I want to
to see he punished to the full extent of the law. I don't know what else to say.
 
Welcome David,

Well, at least you know your feelings of compassion are weird. (jk) wink.
I for one do not feel compassion for a cold blooded killer of a sweet, precious child. May she rot in prison.

No one made Casey do any of the things she is being charged with. It's called responsibility. She made her choices; now she needs to face the consequences.
 
Nope.....she reminds me of the little girl in the movie "The Bad Seed"
 
I think that justice will be served if she is made to pay for her crime. I am definitely angry at the injustice of a child who has lost her life to a parent who never should have been one - at least not at that time in her life.

And in a way, I do feel bad for all of the Anthony's. I can't really feel bad for Casey because she has not once owned up to anything. But I will certainly not trash her or say things like "I hope she rots" etc. because that kind of judement is between her and her maker.

There certainly has been a lot of evil spewed at the Anthonys, Casey included during this case (I'm not talking about the WS folks, more the people in front of her house, some of the horrible youtube videos, etc.) I believe in Heaven and I certainly don't want to hang out with folks like that when it's my time.

I believe that Caylee is in heaven. Her mother and most likely her grandmother will never make it to heaven so I have faith they will never see Caylee again. Caylee deserves better than the mother and grandmother she was given to.
 
Maedchen, I pity those school shooters as well. Pity and compassion for others, though, doesn't preclude societal retribution and justice. The reason we have laws and rules in society is so we can all live together in relative peace. If someone breaks their societal covenant, then depending on their crime, they must be removed from society for a length of time comeasurate with their crime. Until we find a way to "fix" broken people, for the sake of all, they cannot be trusted to live peacefully in society and must be removed from the freedoms that we all enjoy.

Bev you are obviously a very caring and compassionate person. If there were more people like you in this world, it would be a better place for all.:blowkiss:
 
I havent said a whole lot , but have read tons. I suppose this has just left me speechless over and over again. I have children and have had troubles with them, being rebellious, drinking, drugs etc. Daughter in law running off several times with my granddaughter who was 3 at the time, and again when she was 4, and again at 6. Weeks and months of crying not knowing where to turn for help, or what to do. Believing every word my son told me.. at any time something could have happened to my granddaughter. (and every time I found out something I did call DDS to go check on the baby) When all was said and done I found out my son was just as guilty and had lied to me..my youngest son is smart, he will have his colledge paid for and go into the Army as an officer.. all where raised the same. So that is no excuse for this. I do know a little of what the A`s are going thru.
I in no way feel sorry for her , just as I do not feel sorry for my own son and daughter in law. I feel sorry for George and Cindy. Yes I believe they are in denial, but I have been there too. You dont want to believe a child that you gave everything would lie, steal, and do unmentionable things to you, your family, and your grandchild. I think a lot of it is the crowd they hook up with. I pity Casey for getting herself in this mess. She could have made something out of her life even with her beautiful baby. G and C would have helped her. I will never understand Why..Why do these children think this party thing is it. Like I told my children, when you reach the age when you have a child it is time to put away the childish things. It seems like being the center of attention, how many friends you are surrounded by, who can drink the most, how much you can get away with without getting caught, but when the money runs out so do your friends..I do believe that what ever happen to beautiful Caylee was an accident, due to such foolishness as this. When she found Caylee, she freaked out, and this has been all about trying to save her tail...trying not to act guilty...
Prime example, I confronted my daughter in law about drugs, and a half a dollar chunk of hair that was gone out of my granddaughters hair... This was her reply:
Now mom (in the sweetest voice she could muster up) you cant believe everything you hear, you know I would never harm my child or put anything like that in front of her. Well I dont even smoke in the house, I go out side. And the doctor said when she stuck that pencil in the lamp socket that is what made her hair come out in that spot..
She was guilty of pulling her hair out, doing drugs in the home, putting drugs in my sons dinner to knock him out after dinner so he would stay home with her..and this girl reminds me so much of Casey it isnt funny..
Sorry for the Anthonys yes, because of what Casey has taken from them time after time, and they still try to believe in her because she is their child.
Pity, anger, is what I feel for Casey. Pity that she can not come clean and give her daughter a place to lay to rest. Pity that she has no respect for herself, for her parents, for people that have tryed to help her. Anger that she took away gods most precious gift. Sorry so long, maybe I just needed to air as well, thanks for being good friends and taking time to listen.
 
David, while I respect your opinion, I just cannot feel sorry for anyone other than little Caylee.
How does a murderer look? Like Susan Smith, Scott Peterson, Eileen Wournos, Bobby Cutts, or any of the thousands of others? You cannot look at a person and see the evil inside them. You can, however, look at little Caylee and see the innocence.
Casey could have had a decent life had she wanted it. She chose to work harder at the wrong things than just doing the right things.
A little child is no longer alive because of her mother. So feel sorry for the mother? No, I cannot.

:clap::clap::clap::clap: Caylee had a lot to live for. Playing with her little friends, going to school, choosing a career, growing up to become a mom and have kids of her own. And KC robbed her of all that.
 
PLEASE dont give excuses for kc Anthony. I dont care what happened to her.
For all WE know, nothing happened to her. She might just be a spoiled, selfish person. From te way her Mum has coddled her all the while knowing 1. her car smelled like dead human
2. the way KC talked so nastily to her from prison *mine would've hung up on me* if I wouldve talked to her like that.
3. SO much evidence that she did something BAD to Caylee, even it were an accident, she worried more about her selfish self than getting any help
Id say shes spoiled, has always had her Mother/Father defend her.
Even the ay George was with the things in the trunk. She told him to stay away from the trunk. hmmmm and that didnt make him SUSPICIOUS?
No, there are people who are born and raised in ghettos and endure much more than her but never act like she did so I dont buy this "because something happened to her" excuse.
Funny thing is, these people that always take up for their kids no matter what they do instead of making them own up to it, I know a couple of parents like this and their kids ended up in jail for all sorts of stuff as they got to their 20's and just like KC, the parents STILL bail them out.
The only one I feel sorry for is Caylee, she shouldve been put up for adoption, she'd still be alive.
 
Probably only because Im a psych major and I know something probably went wrong in her life so badly and never straightened itself out, all to be enabled by her mother and possibly ignored by her father.

I have seen family units like this in my internship where there is always some element that is way out of control. The problem does not get fixed or the parents either dont care enough to fix the problem or they want to hide it and never admit their at fault. Their denial only propogates the issue and causes a systemic reaction in their family. (haha spoken like a true shrink which I am not lol).
This is basically why I think casey got away with her maladaptive behavior for all those years, because she could. Cindy basically took over where casey could not. (classical enabling). She never intended on being a mother and all the stress of raising a child, not being able to do whatever she wants, having to drag the child along etc etc probably got to her plus something that Padilla said really struck me, the fact that the blowup had occured and that ca strangled casey that night could have been the catalytic icing on the cake! Maybe there really is something we dont know within that family that is really going on, that could have been what Baez meant when he said something like 'in the end we will all understand'.
Although I definately do not condone casey's behavior in anyway, I can somewhat kind of understand it. I am willing to bet a million dollars that her going out and partying that she did during the time her child was missing was not because she didnt care or because she was a cruel heartless cold person, I beleive it was her own defense mechanism, that that is what she did to maintain her sanity the best way she knew how. I am not saying it was right in any means, I am saying that she did those things to try not to think about caylee and what awful thing had happened. She pushed it way down inside to be able to function and go about her denial.
Another thing is her behavior during the interviews, it struck me as her being cold hearted but when I thought about it, she was protecting her own life and tried to maintain her composure so that she would not end up in jail.
Im not sure she murdered her daughter on purpose, although it does seem highly suspicious with the amount of chloroform found and the fact that her mother and her had that huge blowup. The only other explanation is that she chloroformed caylee so that she could party while caylee was 'knocked out' and caylee died from an overdose, either way you look at it its murder. However I cant understand how she kept up that composure for so long and didnt even mutter a word to one person about it, that is pretty amazing to me, and makes me think she definately has some psychiatric issues going on.
Sorry I wrote a book, I get carried away with my thoughts, I have adhd so I am excused and confused lol...:confused:
 
To answer your question... I DO NOT feel bad for Casey at all! Her actions are what brought her where she is and belongs.

I DO feel bad for Caylee. She was an innocent CHILD and did not deserve to die.

I also feel a "pinch" of compassion for George at the moment, not much, just a pinch. I feel he and CA spoiled Casey from the beginning and turned her into the selfish lying thief she grew up to be. I think he realizes that he played a part in KC's outcome and stepped up to the plate.

JUST MY OPINION OF COURSE...
 
I do not and will not (ever) feel sad or bad for her. It was completely her choice...even to make it worse. I also don't care about her possible excuses...I've had a pretty rough life and a few traumatic experiences myself. I feel for victims, especially the helpless and defenseless...not those who 'misplace or murder' children. Not to mention, party and lie about it. I wish her the worst...
 
I really wish I could be that bigger person and have some compassion for this woman but I just can't muster any up. Maybe if I had not heard the videotaped discussions of her in jail. Perhaps if I had not seen her partying with wild abandon whilst she searched for her missing daughter. If only I didn't know that she stole from her family and friends and purchased a new wardrobe courtesy of her best friend. There is just so much more I'm sure I haven't mentioned. All I seem to feel is relief. I'm thankful that she has been charged at last and she will face judgement. That the smug little face is now pensive and worried and scared and sad. This is how it should be. Now we will wait for trial. I'm not happy about any of this. Too many lives have been forever scarred. I only feel relief.
 
No...never for any reason...I may feel bad if something had happened in her childhood...but one thing we all have is free will.

Thats why I never shed a tear for the guilty who vicitmize others and blame it on their own misfortunes. Free will. I know too many victims who are leading productive and socially responsible lives.
 
I was reading the original poster and was waiting for the punch line. I look at Casey and I see a self centered shell of a person. No matter what hurt happened to her in her life there is no excuse for hurting another. It's like how they say molesters have to molest because they were molested, absolutely ridiculous. I have a close male relative who confided in me that he was raped as a child and blackmailed about it into his teens. He had an unexplainable urge to do the same to others, but never once did he because he knew how much it negatively affected his life and so he put his unhealthy desires aside out of compassion for others. I strongly believe in "do unto others as you want done to yourself" and feel that if Casey shows no compassion, why should we show it for her? Casey has commited a crime against nature IMO and I'd feel more compassion for a rabid pitbull being put to sleep than I will for her.
 
Sometimes there are defendants I actually do feel sorry for -- generally because of things that have happened in their lives that have shaped them to be the person they are, especially children who commit crimes and those who have obvious mental defects (even if they don't always rise to the level of legal insanity).

Sometimes you can see how a person got where they are, and it's sad. Doesn't excuse criminal behavior, but I definitely have felt badly for certain defendants. It's just such a shame to see anyone waste the potential God gives us to be good and kind to others, to lead a decent and fulfilling life, especially when they hurt others in the process.

As far as Casey specifically, something may come out that will make me feel badly for things that have happened in her life; however, I can imagine absolutely nothing that would ever make me feel sorry for her in regards to whatever she did to (or didn't do for) Caylee. Nothing.
 
I am a compassionate person but this takes the cake in more ways than one. I can't even believe that it was an accident anymore. The way she acted and the things she was doing in the 30 days Caylee was missing disgusts me beyond disgust.

Her family means about as much to her as Caylee imo and anyone can see how that's going. In my mind she is the female equivalent of Scott Peterson. The lowest form of life there is. I would gladly beat her face in if given the chance.
 
Feel free to flame away, but I actually don't hate her and almost feel some kind of sorrow for her. Usually I have no sympathy for baby killers and am pro DP, but something about the fact that she has no apparent
ability for empathy, love, compassion, or common sense makes me feel
sad for her. I do want Caylee found and given a proper burial. I do want
KC punished and think she should receive either LWOP or the DP but I
can't help but feel for her. Maybe it's her crazy a$$ mother that makes me feel badly for her. You can talk about free will all you want but
when you've been raised by the Wicked Witch then what morality develops to guide your "free will"? Not a healthy one, that I know.
 
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