If you have never lost a child then it is difficult to understand the feelings, thoughts, and emotions that a parent who has lost a child has. There are those of us who have been there and one thing we would never do is make a joke out of a parent feeling the need to spend time with their loved one whether it be just to be alone and feel their spirit close to you, just talk to them in your mind, what ever the parents/parent feel the need to do in order to keep themself together mentally and emotionally on the hardest holiday of the year without your child.