. bbm
Yes, I was surprised that 3 offspring were in their twenties, and so much ChSup $ was still owed.
IIUC, $ amt of ChSup is ct ordered, to be paid, usu. monthly, until children are a certain age.
If father fails to pay, IDK if or how he can 'negotiate it down' in a legally binding sense.
IDK why a mother would agree(unless she had $ to burn, and even then, ?).
If a father had no job or low paying-jobfor yrs, she could hope he'd win the lottery and she'd collect arrearages.
Maybe could let enough time pass that the statute of limitations run,
so she w/not legally be able to collect by filing suit against father.
But if a mother receives certain govt or state welfare benefits for the kids, and
a father has been ct-ordered to pay ChSup, IIUC, then father makes payments to state or thru ct-controlled a/c.
IIUC, then mother would not legally be able to 'negotiate' or let it pass,
as the father is obligated to pay $ to state, not her.
JM2cts and I hope someone knowledgeable in family law will weigh in to correct, clarify, or confirm.