Support & Tips to help Cindy Anthony

[Linda7NJ]

My best advice, ignore the circus of idiots outside of your home. If you belong to a church please seek guidance and support there. you really need someone that you trust to unload on, someone outside of the situation. Don't give a second thought as to what others think they know or say about you.

my wish for you is that you can somehow find the strength to find the truth regardless of what that truth is and accept it. that's the only way you and George will ever find any sort of peace.

 

[hpvdr]

My first tip for Cindy would be that she needs to re-voke the bond she is responsible for. Casey needs to be back in jail where she may be more inclined to help the investigation in a truthful way. By posting bond for Casey, Cindy continues to enable her daughter. The enabling has to stop in order for Casey to cooperate.
Once Casey is back in jail I would highly recommend psychiatric help for both George and Cindy. Even programs such as Al-Anon are free and can help Cindy and George understand why continuing to enable Casey will not allow them to begin to heal.

 

[doogiesgirl]

My tip for Cindy is to PRAY for guidance. And to take a polygraph ASAP and to encourage GA and LA and KC to do the same.

 

[karenz]

My tip to Cindy would be allow Casey to hit bottom. Only then, may she know the truth.

I have had my share of problems several years ago with alcoholism and I have to tell you that until everyone stopped enabling me and let me feel the consequences of my actions I was absolutely not going to stop drinking.

I work with other addicts today and I see this principal in action. People do not get better unless they feel the full effects of their actions. It is SO HARD TO WATCH SOMEONE FALL! Very painful and difficult especially since I am the one who has to help pick up the pieces (like CA). But it is really the only way. No one could "nicely" help me get sober.



My prayers are with CA and GA. They did not sign up for this. I think we all say we would have handled it differently but honestly, how many of us have ever been in this situation?

Part of my recovery is not judging someone unless you have walked a mile in their shoes. I most certainly cannot even fathom a day in CA/GA's life right now.

(Clean and Sober 3 1/2 years!:clap

 

[tttterri]

Deal with the anger and frustrations you feel by using the energy to search for Caylee. Use the internet to search out leads byway of Caseys online posts, from herself and from friends, or read online blogs for the information. There are lots of clues in those posts of trouble ahead although it may or may not be relevant to the disappearance. Better to rule out than disregard. Don't point fingers, just ask questions of friends. Remember, noone knows what Ca has told her friends about her family situations so you should keep that in mind and not expect full cooperation from all of the friends. You are ALLOWED to talk to your daughter. It is not normal for a lawyer to insinuate that a family or friends are not allowed to ask questions about Caylee. Be kind to the public and deal with the ones you cannot by going thru LE or ignoring them. Let the public know what you are doing to assist with searching for the truth and they will help you. Do not be offended by the request for lie detector testing, it is a common request for families of missing persons and would take a load of the problems you are having right now off of you if you would test. I think Casey would be safer in jail and would free your family up to search for answers. Dealing with her daily ins and outs and the protesters could all be avoided if she stayed elsewhere.

Ask her lawyer if you can have copies of Caseys facebook and myspace postings before the date of arrest.
Trouble was brewing as far back as April 08 according to facebook, househunts,considering leaving town, sickness, all signs of a change of her state of mind. Certain friends disappeared from those postings after March but before the arrest. You can also have your daughter taken in for evaluation, regardless of age, and if anything is found, you can assume her guardianship. That might work to help you get the information you are not being entitled to at this time. Just a thought.

 

[karenmamo]

Deal with the anger and frustrations you feel by using the energy to search for Caylee. Use the internet to search out leads byway of Caseys online posts, from herself and from friends, or read online blogs for the information. There are lots of clues in those posts of trouble ahead although it may or may not be relevant to the disappearance. Better to rule out than disregard. Don't point fingers, just ask questions of friends. Remember, noone knows what Ca has told her friends about her family situations so you should keep that in mind and not expect full cooperation from all of the friends. You are ALLOWED to talk to your daughter. It is not normal for a lawyer to insinuate that a family or friends are not allowed to ask questions about Caylee. Be kind to the public and deal with the ones you cannot by going thru LE or ignoring them. Let the public know what you are doing to assist with searching for the truth and they will help you. Do not be offended by the request for lie detector testing, it is a common request for families of missing persons and would take a load of the problems you are having right now off of you if you would test. I think Casey would be safer in jail and would free your family up to search for answers. Dealing with her daily ins and outs and the protesters could all be avoided if she stayed elsewhere.

Ask her lawyer if you can have copies of Caseys facebook and myspace postings before the date of arrest.

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[tttterri]

Fplks, there are things that Cindy can access that we cannot. That is why this board should be able to offer her some helpful tips on how to,where to, access and search for information. Please use it for offering such, along with support. Asking Cindy questions is of no help, let's just offer her ideas on how to find answers. Thanks.

 

[momof6]

i'd like to ask Cindy if Laura R. is known to Casey?/
Also if casey attended a babyshower in June/july.. for a lindsay ?

 

[amasleuth]

First, I want to say how sorry I am. I look at pictures of your beautiful grand-daughter, and feel like smiling and like crying all at the same time.sadness...how must her pictures make you feel?
She is flesh from your flesh.

You practically raised that precious angel-baby. IMO, I thinks she looks a lot like you.
I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through.
My baby girl is 20, and my son is 16...I'd like to think there's nothing they could do to ever make me not love them.
It's true. There truly is nothing they could do to make me not love them.
Especially true with my daughter...mostly because I haven't always been the best mom to her.
She was always tougher to deal with than my son, who hardly ever gives me trouble, and is just a joy.
I feel guilty for feeling that way...I give into things with my daughter, because I feel she senses how I feel...
But I love them both fiercely.

So...I get loving and supporting your children no matter what.
Do you feel the same way for Caylee?
Do you love her no matter what? i know you do. It's easier too, because she is just a baby....a fresh slate. A fresh chance.
I'm sure you adore her...how could you not?
She is your baby too.
You took care of her, protected her...loved her, comforted her...when she was hurt or afraid, I bet it was you she cried for as much as, if not more than Casey.

I feel like you would do anything for your children. But isn't Caylee your child too?

I feel so weird writhing this, and don't want to Add to your pain, but I've got to say this.
If Caylee is alive and with kidnappers, do you ever wonder how SHE feels?
How much she must be wondering why you've abandoned her...wondering if she did something bad to make you go away.?
How much she must miss her bed, her toys, her dogs?
YOU?

Casey is your daughter, but what about Caylee? She looks to you when she needs help.
Make Casey tell you where Caylee is, so you can go to her!
Tell Casey enough is enough! You've supported Casey, believed her, WAITED on her to lead you to Caylee, but she's not budging.
I know how important it must be to you that Casey bond with Caylee, and be the mother to Caylee that you would be if you could, but you have to be realistic for Caylee's sake...
It's been three month's that Caylee has been crying for her family to come and get her.

Make Casey tell you! Shake the truth out of her! It's NOT about Casey anymore, all this drama, and media attention will go away once Caylee is home safe.

In the 911 tape, I heard the fear in your voice and believe it was real.
You said "I have to find her!"

Please Cindy...Be brave for Caylee!
Confront Casey and go get your baby girl!
You'd be doing what's best for both of them...Casey probably wants this over as much as you do....
You have the power to end this nightmare for both your baby girls.

Do the right thing.

Thanks for listening,
--Daun

 

[JBean]

Okay let's try it this way. Go ahead and offer supportive tips and advice..but no case discussion in here. This really isn't a debate type thread. Either you can offer support and tips or you can't. This should end up looking like a list of tips and advice.
Let's see how it goes.

 

[tbthow]

I'm bumping this, Some good things here.:clap:

 

[Ocean Lover]

Cindy,
First you need to stop going outside when the protesters are there as that just adds fuel to the fire. We all know that KC loves the attention that this brings. Then you need to take a lie dectector test along with GA, and LA. This is the first step in cleaing the family withthe exception of KC and we know JB won't let her take one. Before KC gets arrested again you need to ask her questions and insist that she tell you what really happend and where your beautiful Caylee is even though her attorney tells you that you can't. It'snot his child that is missing. If she gives you information turn it over to LE. When KC gets arrested again for the other charges don't bail her out of jail this time. Practice tough love and maybe she will crack. Don't visit her in jail so she feels alone. Oh and tell your family not to visit her either.

 

[txsvicki]

My support to Cindy would be to say that I consider you an abused and bullied woman who has had everything taken away. My advice would be to move away, start a new life, get counseling, and perhaps someday think of writing a book to give other parents advice about symptoms in children who go on to be sociopaths. I don't buy that Cindy caused Casey to be this way. She should just walk away and leave George to handle it while she still can.

 

[newuser]

To Cindy,

Advice is cheap, and I'm sure you've have enough to choke on. My only advice would be stop talking to, reading, or even watching the media coverage. You and you only know what is in your heart, and the media is never going to get it right. Listening to all the noise-makers is just going to make you angry and want to respond, when really most of it doesn't deserve your response. Turn off the TV, cancel the paper, and (after you read this!) turn off the computers! We have nothing to say that is going to fix this for you!

You should listen to LE. You should not depend solely on your defense attorney, because he is going to tell you what you want to hear. You need to listen to LE and understand everything they have. Don't look and listen with your grandmother eyes and ears, but try to learn the facts.

I strongly advise that you talk to your attorney and have HIM set up a polygraph for you and your husband and son. Once all three of you pass it, then let your attorney put those results out and it should quieten down most of the detractors.

About your daughter, you cannot change anything that has happened. She needs to know you love her and you can, in fact, forgive her for whatever she's put you through. She clearly did not feel that way to start with. I gather there has been some problems for a long time. So what? Everyone has problems, and it really isn't anyone's business. Your's have come out for the world to see, but the reality is that most of the issues your family has faced, someone right down the street has probably faced, too. As Solomon said, There is nothing new under the sun! Nothing that you face is uniquely yours.

Having said that, your daughter has clearly made some mistakes. You are not doing her any favor by ignoring that fact. She lied to police in the single most important event in your lives. She steals from her friends and family. She must be made to stand up and take the consequences. Once she does that, it will be much easier for her to face the rest of her life. She is going to have to be completely truthful with you and your family at some point and it will be easier if she knows you have already forgiven her.

As to Caylee, you are 100% correct that it is not wrong to have hope. We all join you in constant hope and prayer that she will be returned unharmed. Until we have definitive proof otherwise, we must assume she is OK. To believe otherwise would be a great injustice to her. However, you should also be receptive to facts that the evidence has shown. Something very dark happened around Caylee; human decomposition in a car trunk is not natural. As a nurse, you know that.

You should also know as a grandmother that you love Caylee with every beat of your heart and you have always done everything possible for her. Her happiness and joy is evident in all the pictures we've seen. As a bystander, I thank you for allowing us to share the beauty of the child with you. She is a precious little girl.

Finally, God and God alone is the giver and taker of life. Wherever Caylee is, she is SAFE in the arms of God.

 

[Betty Boop]

Focus on one thing -- finding the truth.

 

[poco]

It's time to let go Cindy.
Take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth.
Find a life coach and follow their direction. Give up trying to control what you cannot control.
Accept reality.
Quit enabling Casey - if she won't level with you and get honest, then kick her out on the street.

 

[poco]

. As Solomon said, There is nothing new under the sun! Nothing that you face is uniquely yours.

Every once in a while a poster will say something that really hits home with me. I keep a list of these on my bulletin board. I will be adding this one - thank you newuser!

 

[SharetheLight]

Allow your daughter to experience consequences.
Let her know you love her no matter what.
Casey needs to experience the consequences.

 

[passin_through]

1) Cindy don't go outside or bother at all with the protesters.

2) Cindy, follow the counselor's advice--throw Casey out, tell her she isn't welcome at the home (she can sit in jail) and take legal steps to get custody of Caylee.

 

[Pedrosmom]

Cindy should not allow her daughter to live under her roof while out on bail. Unless she chooses to disclose the location of her daughter, throw her to the protesters and see how they can knock the truth out of her. Throw her on the street, with no where to go, no one that will take her in. That's precisely what Casey did with her own daughter. She needs to feel vulnerable, fear, pain. JMO