Support & Tips to help Cindy Anthony

[jon_burrows]

The weeds can wait, Caylee can't. Please spend every waking minute that Casey is in your home demanding answers from her. Giver her 24 hours to tell you the truth or revoke her bond.

 

[Spangle]

Cindy,
Time for tough love. Many parents have been in your shoes. The possibility that their child did something ... Tell her that you will love her no matter what. That doesn't mean you have to prove your love by enabling her.

At this point you should have heard the tape LE interviews. Everything she told the police, they checked out. It was all lies. She hung on to each lie, until proven 100% it was a lie. Yet, the Nanny part is suppose to be truth?

Talk to Casey. Jose isn't the boss in your home. Your house, your rules. Your helping her, giving her a home, dealing with all the protestors.. You are doing all you can to help her. Part of that is talking to her and having her tell you the truth. And give that truth to the police and the rest of the world, so we can find Caylee. And continue to help Casey live with the truth and with what ever consequences of what happened.

The reality is, the world is asking YOU for help. Cause only you can help us find Caylee. And it would be the best way to help your daughter Casey.

 

[Darlene733510]

Cindy - I know you must be putting a lot of blame on youself, because Casey left with Caylee after the argument on the 15th. I know that is why you probably feel that you have to protect Casey.

I wish you would reflect on how much you love Caylee, and think of all the love she has for you. Remember, you were the first one to hold her, and see that precious face when she was born.

I know you want to believe that Caylee is alive, but all indications do not point in that direction. Therefore,
Cindy, would you rather have this precious child out there in an unknown grave, or would you rather have a burial for her with the dignity she deserves, and a place you can visit in her honor?

Caylee needs to be found if she is deceased - the only way that will happen is if Casey is persuaded to tell where her body is. It is time to stop coddling Casey,
and to use all the love you have for Caylee to bring her back to you. I know you love Casey, but if she killed
Caylee, do you think it is right to make excuses for her, to lie for her? You called her a sociopath, a mooch and a leech - therefore, I am sure you know that she must not continue with her web of deception. You owe it to Caylee to protect her and to put Casey back in jail, and concentrate on finding Caylee.

 

[dkitty]

It's time to let go Cindy.
Take the cotton out of your ears and put it in your mouth.
Find a life coach and follow their direction. Give up trying to control what you cannot control.
Accept reality.
Quit enabling Casey - if she won't level with you and get honest, then kick her out on the street.

I'm with you!!!!! :clap::clap:

 

[PinkyPoo]

It's hard not to feel some empathy for George and Cindy right now. They have a hell of a life living in a fish bowl like that.
I see the best way out for them is to come clean with investigators. Either make KC talk or go back to Jail. You cannot keep enabling this behavior.
As long as Cindy and George enable KC, life will be a living hell for them.

 

[Gin]

It's hard not to feel some empathy for George and Cindy right now. They have a hell of a life living in a fish bowl like that.
I see the best way out for them is to come clean with investigators. Either make KC talk or go back to Jail. You cannot keep enabling this behavior.
As long as Cindy and George enable KC, life will be a living hell for them.

I kind of wonder how safe anyone is in that house. I want the justice system to work. Casey needs to have her many days in court. I really, really think for the safety of all, Casey should be back in jail, or heck, maybe she could have her lawyer set her up a little suite someplace.

 

[Can't Sleep]

Snipped.

Part of my recovery is not judging someone unless you have walked a mile in their shoes. I most certainly cannot even fathom a day in CA/GA's life right now.

(Clean and Sober 3 1/2 years!:clap

Way to go Karenz! Great advice and so proud of your sobriety! Toughest thing in the world...but you're doing it and helping others! God bless you and also God bless the Anthony family. Families are victims too.

 

[CitizenKim]

If you truly believe someone has Caylee then help us look for them!! We all want to find her alive. Tell us what you think has happened to her.

Who has her? Release a sketch. What kind of car? Tell us everything that would help identify the person or people you believe Caylee is with. If you want people to (get off our azz and) look for her then give us more information.

Acknowledge some facts about this case publicly. People want to believe that you are dealing w/reality- so tell us where you are coming from. Just release a statement saying that you (along w/the rest of the world) are extremely disappointed in the way Casey has behaved- just admit that, and tell us how you moved on from there. What makes you believe her now?

 

[GreenEyes727]

Cindy, George and Lee,

I don't think that you could have ever known that anything like this would ever happen. I am sure that you weren't 100% fine with Casey having Caylee by herself at times, but you could have never known that she would ever have more than a broken arm from falling off of a swing set or seeing something that she shouldn't see - like young people partying . . . but I am positive that you would have acted much sooner on getting custody if you had the tiniest inkling that anything could ever happen to Caylee like this. It is very apparent how loved Caylee is by your family. She is always smiling in her pictures, dressed so cute and looking like a ham! I don't know if she is still here with us. I really, really wish that that could be true. If it is not, and I know that makes your heart sink to your toes to even think of such a thing, then she needs your support from Heaven. She needs to know that you will be okay. Let me tell you a story that Dr. Phil told on the Oprah show in 1999 (I was recooperating from back surgery). There was a mother on Oprah whose daughter had been murdered. She was devastated beyond belief. She was unable to move forward with her life or to give the proper care to her other daughter. Dr. Phil's story goes like this:

Every day in Heaven, the angels would walk through the gardens, holding their lit candles. One little angel would always sit on the bench. One day, one of the angels asked the little angel why she didn't join them in their walk through the gardens. The little angel replied that she would, but everytime she lit her candle, her mother's tears would put it out. The message is to let our loved ones in Heaven go to a degree.

I hope you read this and I hope it helps.

Brenda from NJ

 

[SleuthyGal]

Tips for Cindy:

1. Start some therapy/counseling STAT.
2. Stop making public proclamations about this case.
3. If you feel Caylee is alive then go look for her in the places that you feel she may be (Beth Holloway went to Aruba at least 20 times looking for Natalie).
4. Get to a safe house or somewhere that is outside the media glare at your front door and take George w/you.
5. Resolve to follow the 'tough love' approach that the earlier therapist suggested, in dealing with your daughter. Get more help and support to follow this if the techniques are not clear.
6. Allow Casey to be held responsible for her actions, her inactions, her lies, or whatever else is uncovered in this case.
7. Stop bailing Casey out of additional/future charges.
8. Take 20 min ea day to be in absolute quiet with no one around (if possible) and just breathe.
9. Find something/anything to do that is positive or helps someone. Make a point of doing 1 thing each day..whether that's a kind word, send a card to someone, a cup of coffee for a friend or neighbor...something/anything. Something that is not about this case or about your family.
10. Ignore the protesters and don't engage in fights.

Those are my suggestions. One has to find some way through the madness or else they risk losing themselves altogether.

 

[Pink Panther]

Cindy - Time to see that you made your daughter but that you are no longer responsible for who she became or who she chooses to be and what she chooses to do.

Nothing else to suggest here. Sounds so simple, doesn't it? It's one of the most monumental and important things that a mature and centered parent comes to terms with...and I sincerely hope that with (or without) help, that she will be able to come to terms with this.

 

[Brini]

My tip to Cindy would be allow Casey to hit bottom. Only then, may she know the truth.

Cindy doesn't want KC to hit bottom. She wants to enable KC.

 

[Jolynna]

If you are like most parents you wish you'd done some things differently. You feel responsible for whatever your child has done. You feel guilty especially with the world judging.

The truth is, Casey is an adult. Casey's actions are Casey's responsibility.

I have no doubt you are grieving for Caylee and miss her desperately.

I am so sorry.

 

[leandjl]

Cindy, I would request that you go back and read the 400 pages. Read about the call you made to RP, read what Amy had to say about the conversation you two had. Go back to that time. I feel that you were angry when you told them things, but I also believe they were your true feelings and that your main focus then was Caylee. You can love Casey, she is your daughter, but go back to that time when you weren't defending and search your heart for the love you felt for Caylee, and bring justice for that little defenseless child. I can't imagine what you're going through and hope I never have to experience any thing like it first hand. Show the world and Casey that you are a grieving grandmother who desperately misses her granddaughter. Stop making excuses for Casey - she's safe - it's Caylee who needs defending.

 

[suspicious mind]

take some of her own advice.

 

[JulieR]

READ YOUR OWN WORDS ABOUT YOUR DAUGHTER............THEN ASK YOURSELF, HAS SHE CHANGED!!!!!!!!
July 3 Cindy posted this on Myspace
Thursday, July 03, 2008
my caylee is missing
She came into my life unexspectedly, just as she has left me. This precious little angel from above gave me strength and unconditional love. Now she is gone and I don't know why. All I am guilty of is loving her and providing her a safe home. Jealousy has taken her away. Jealousy from the one person that should be thankfull for all of the love and support given to her. A mother's love is deep, however there are limits when one is betrayed by the one she loved and trusted the most. A daughter comes to her mother for support when she is pregnant, the mother says without hesitation it will be ok. And it was. But then the lies and betrayal began. First it seemed harmless, ah, love is blind. A mother will look for the good in her child and give them a chance to change. This mother gave chance after chance for her daughter to change, but instead more lies more betrayal. What does the mother get for giving her daughter all of these chances? A broken heart. The daughter who stole money, lots of money, leaves without warning and does not let her mother now speak to the baby that her mother raised, fed, clothed, sheltered, paid her medical bills, etc. Instead tells her friends that her mother is controlling her life and she needs her space. No money, no future. Where did she go? Who is now watching out for the little angel?

 

[Katie526]

I have had my share of problems several years ago with alcoholism and I have to tell you that until everyone stopped enabling me and let me feel the consequences of my actions I was absolutely not going to stop drinking.

I work with other addicts today and I see this principal in action. People do not get better unless they feel the full effects of their actions. It is SO HARD TO WATCH SOMEONE FALL! Very painful and difficult especially since I am the one who has to help pick up the pieces (like CA). But it is really the only way. No one could "nicely" help me get sober.



My prayers are with CA and GA. They did not sign up for this. I think we all say we would have handled it differently but honestly, how many of us have ever been in this situation?

Part of my recovery is not judging someone unless you have walked a mile in their shoes. I most certainly cannot even fathom a day in CA/GA's life right now.

(Clean and Sober 3 1/2 years!:clap

Congratulations to you. I wish you the best. I was 6 months pregnant when my best friend was a serious alcholic. Her 5 brothers wanted to do an intervention and wanted me to be part of it as I was the only other "girl" besides her mom in her life; we were like sisters. I did it and it was very hard. She went through all the rehab and I supported her fully. She called me many times scared and frantic from the places she had to stay. I give you a lot of credit.

After all of that, I took her to get her hair, her nails. We shopped for the baby together and I let her pick out all of my daughters clothes. She didn't evere feel important before. She looked so healthy and wonderful when she finished the hard reahab; I was so proud of her. About 2 days before my c-section, she called me so drunk and my heart sunk. The only thing I could do was cut her off. 1 for the sake of her health and 2 - for the sake of my baby. She was going to be my baby's godmother but I could no longer support her after doing so for so long.

I give you a lot of credit and I wish you the best.

 

[Katie526]

Sorry for the typos, very tired tonight Another note. I miss my friend dearly. My heart breaks for our relationship as I loved her very much and still do. My daughter is now 6 and my friend still is drinking.

 

[Gray's Mom]

READ YOUR OWN WORDS ABOUT YOUR DAUGHTER............THEN ASK YOURSELF, HAS SHE CHANGED!!!!!!!!
July 3 Cindy posted this on Myspace
Thursday, July 03, 2008
my caylee is missing
She came into my life unexspectedly, just as she has left me. This precious little angel from above gave me strength and unconditional love. Now she is gone and I don't know why. All I am guilty of is loving her and providing her a safe home. Jealousy has taken her away. Jealousy from the one person that should be thankfull for all of the love and support given to her. A mother's love is deep, however there are limits when one is betrayed by the one she loved and trusted the most. A daughter comes to her mother for support when she is pregnant, the mother says without hesitation it will be ok. And it was. But then the lies and betrayal began. First it seemed harmless, ah, love is blind. A mother will look for the good in her child and give them a chance to change. This mother gave chance after chance for her daughter to change, but instead more lies more betrayal. What does the mother get for giving her daughter all of these chances? A broken heart. The daughter who stole money, lots of money, leaves without warning and does not let her mother now speak to the baby that her mother raised, fed, clothed, sheltered, paid her medical bills, etc. Instead tells her friends that her mother is controlling her life and she needs her space. No money, no future. Where did she go? Who is now watching out for the little angel?

With total respect to JulieR......I attached because I did not want to type the above in........

After you read this, reflect, and PLEASE do the following:
1. Seek counseling with either a therapist or clergy member.
2. Let a someone other than your family talk to the press.
3. If you still need to search, please do so and let the public know through a different channel other than you or your immediate family.
4. Know that the nation has heard the pain in your voice and read the heartbreaking dialogue above to know that there is someone else that set this path in motion. This is not your fault!

 

[PaulaF513]

As a woman who has raised 2 granddaughters, I cannot begin to imagine the pain you and your family are suffering. I pray for you to find some solace. It is hard enough to lose someone that you dearly love, but your pain has to be intensified to an unbearable degree knowing that someone else that you love may be responsible.

The poster Devorah gave you some very good advice. Seek help NOW from a good therapist. Ignore the intrusive and stomach-churning "protestors". Stop talking to the news media, Cindy, particularly the TV reporters and talk show hosts. You are only a bump in ratings for them. Remember, "tragedy sells" for those people.

As hard as it may be for you to do, try to go back to work. It will remove you for at least 8 hours from the constant daily turmoil.

I do not think you should subject yourself or your husband or son to a lie detector test. They are highly manipulable and not extremely reliable. You have cooperated with LE and with the searchers. I understand why you stopped being cooperative...you wanted them to search for a living Caylee, not a dead body.

Above all else....stop blaming yourself. You did what you thought best when raising your children. I am positive that you never did anything to intentionally cause them harm. You most likely made it a bit too easy for them....we moms seem always to give our kids what we never had, be it clothes or cars or liberty. Whatever happened here is Casey's doing, not yours, regardless of the original circumstances that led to this unhappy situation.

I don't know you or your family, only that you need help and prayers. Some of us truly wish to help you, so be assured, I will pray for your Caylee to be found alive and well.