I have a difficult time believing any person would continue to go to – according to the affidavit – ten parties over a two-year period where women were routinely gang raped and not report it.
— Lindsey Graham (@LindseyGrahamSC) September 26, 2018
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Yeah What about that!
Why did she continue to see this and not report it.?
I can't speak for any of the victim/survivors in this matter. They can speak for themselves when/if they are all given the opportunity.
For myself, I will offer this: As a completely naïve young teenager in the early 70s, our family moved from a sheltered suburb to a big city. When I was 14, 15 years old, I desperately wanted to 'fit in' with the 'popular' crowd at my new school, so I attended parties where shady s**t was going on.
Teen peer pressure is a very real, compelling force. Teen peer pressure can, IMO, cause someone to ignore any number of red flags. Besides which, I must challenge anyone who declares that a young teen is sophisticated enough and emotionally/psychologically developed enough to not only fully recognize red flags (even when those red flags might be fully unfurled to an informed adult in this age of #metoo), but to also possess the psychological maturity to know that what they had witnessed might be a potential crime that must be reported.
After all, the prevailing mythos has been: If a girl/woman gets sexually assaulted/raped, it's because "she was asking for it". Ergo, if a young teen naively believes that she isn't "asking for it", then she's assured (in her own innocent mind) that she will not be sexually assaulted and/or raped, even while attending a party where other girls are being sexually assaulted/raped.
This is the very foundation of what is known as '




-shaming' - the shaming of sexual assault/rape survivors and the labeling of them as '





' or otherwise not credible.
I'm a survivor of a brutal gang-rape sexual assault. As a young teen, I naively believed that I could attend parties where other girls were sexually assaulted and raped. At the time, as an ignorant, naïve young teen in the early 70s, I mistakenly believed the patriarchal mythos that only "





" were sexually assaulted/raped.
I learned then and have known since that the mythos was and is a lie, promoted by those with the most to lose.
And, no, I didn't tell my parents that I was gang-raped. I didn't even tell my younger sister (with whom I was close). I didn't report it to the police. I didn't tell anyone, until recently, when I finally - after all these long years - disclosed it to my therapist and my long-time life partner. And now, here on this forum.
Why didn't I tell someone all those years ago when I was a young teen?
Because I felt such a soul-shattering sense of shame that I was incapable of uttering the words "I was gang-raped by I don't know how many", let alone describe the despicable, filthy acts that I had been forced to endure.
Because I told myself that it was my fault (for being at the party).
I'm sick and tired of sexual assault/rape victims being blamed for not reporting.
Anyone who doesn't 'get it' needs to get with the damn program.