I didn't take his money or things either. I prefered to go it on my own and leave him with some sense of worth. I never wanted my children to say I wasn't fair to their father and I never wanted their father to say I had in any way led to his downfall.
Men need their money and things to go on being a man that children can respect because some men ARE their "stuff". My kids didn't need a father who had nothing and was scraping by because some Judge or Attorney said I should and could have it all. I only took what was mine going in and we divided equally what was ours coming out. The child support I asked for didn't pay for anything besides a few extra candy bars a month.
I have been told I am the BEST EXWIFE EVER! (This came from my divorce attorney...who was being serious...because his exwife was not so kind or giving. Altho..he never heard what I told that SOB. LOL Actions can speak louder than words...unless you are like me and it takes few well spoken words to cut them to the quick. Being able to use words wisely and swiftly is a wonderful thing.)
I never wanted diddley squat from my Ex.Judge told me if I never took child support he'd not grant me a divorce. Like you SS actions speak much louder then words / but my ex always said, that I said what I meant &
he wasn't a fool!