The Chill Thread

[Justiceforever]

I came upon this picture online. I realize that this is REALLY NOT the thread for it but, I HAD TO SHARE. IT hit REALLY CLOSE TO HOME for me.



The caption to the pic. said that the driver was texing. The phone was found in his hands, and his head was found in the back seat.

Seriously folks...when you are driving take it seriously!

I was in an accident in 1987 and the little chevette we were driving in, looked almost like this!

I was blessed/lucky/cursed to have survived!

After impact, after regaining conscienceness.

I survived.

My boyfriend did not.

He had to be removed using the jaws of life.

He was decapitated, leaving only the skin of his neck intact.

It was my first upclose experience with death, and it WAS NOT pretty.

He wasn't texting, but he had been drinking.

Heed my words!

DON'T text and drive,

DON'T drink and drive and DON'T in anyway be distracted while driving!

Me? I am alive but NEVER the same! RIP Gilbert William Luther!

It's REALLY ironic that I ended up in a truck after that! IMHO, It was God's way of healing me.

 

[Theforeigner]

If you forgot to smile today...here is some medicin;

 

[Mountain_Kat]

ROTFLMAO! :floorlaugh: This explains why I can't veiw certain links!!!
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The atheist excuse? The link can't possibly exist. :floorlaugh:

 

[deedee21]

Sorry for your lose. That is exactly what happen to a Bx cop I knew. He worked overtime and hit the back of a flatbed truck. His name was Johnny.

 

[Justiceforever]

Sorry for your lose. That is exactly what happen to a Bx cop I knew. He worked overtime and hit the back of a flatbed truck. His name was Johnny.

Thank you Deedee. I didn't post it for sympathy, however, I do appreciate your empathy! I am very sorry that you too lost a friend in such a horrible way. I see cars and trucks tangled up on the highway way too often. The hardest part is knowing that most of the times these accidents could be avoided. RIP Johnny : (

 

[Justiceforever]

If you forgot to smile today...here is some medicin;

That's hilarious TF! Thanks for the smile! I needed it and my whole mood just changed for the better! : )))

 

[Justiceforever]

The atheist excuse? The link can't possibly exist. :floorlaugh:

IKR! I liked the Baptist explaination. "You must have sin in your life, everyone else opened it with no problem."
:floorlaugh:

 

[Samantha Spade]

@Justice,
How traumatic for you. And especially at such a young age. Im so sorry.
Your shared experience can save others lives. sometimes it seems teens don't hear our warnings, but keep at it and it eventually sinks in. even if they don't admit it.
Im glad you survived Justice. And i am glad you are here.

 

[Justiceforever]

@Justice,
How traumatic for you. And especially at such a young age. Im so sorry.
Your shared experience can save others lives. sometimes it seems teens don't hear our warnings, but keep at it and it eventually sinks in. even if they don't admit it.
Im glad you survived Justice. And i am glad you are here.

How VERY kind of you Samantha! : ) Thank you! I hope someone, somewhere heeds my words. I have three grown boys who barely listened to mama when they were teenagers and still don't. Tragically, some lessions can't be taught they must be learned the hard way, through experience. : ( I am just beginning to share alot of my hardest learned lessons with others, hoping to save someone from the grief I went through.

 

[Justiceforever]

Now on a lighter note

:floorlaugh:

 

[Justiceforever]

Just wanted too see if I could upload an animated avitar of Stuart Little brushing his teeth.


ETA: Aww...it's not animated : ( Still cute, though you should see him in action!

 

[Seajay]

Just wanted too see if I could upload an animated avitar of Stuart Little brushing his teeth. View attachment 29291


ETA: Aww...it's not animated : ( Still cute, though you should see him in action!

You did it, I can see him in action, bushing his little fangs.

 

[LINative13]

events in our younger years shape us. Ever since an event when I was younger, I am keen on peoples depression. I will always ask "are you thinking of hurting yourself?" Even if I HATE that person. Maybe its the guilt I live with for not picking up on the clues he gave me, maybe its becuse I saw the aftermath of what my friend did that sent shockwaves through hundreds of lives. Ruining several. My friend shot himself. Always keep an open ear, you never know whose screaming for help. You might even save someone, possibly yourself.

 

[Justiceforever]

events in our younger years shape us. Ever since an event when I was younger, I am keen on peoples depression. I will always ask "are you thinking of hurting yourself?" Even if I HATE that person. Maybe its the guilt I live with for not picking up on the clues he gave me, maybe its becuse I saw the aftermath of what my friend did that sent shockwaves through hundreds of lives. Ruining several. My friend shot himself. Always keep an open ear, you never know whose screaming for help. You might even save someone, possibly yourself.

LInative there were times in my life when I've been so depressed that I no longer wanted to live. I didn't want to die, but I just didn't want to live. I may have resorted to suicide if I didn't know first hand how devistating and selfish an act it is. Instead I became a cutter. (after years of therapy and a relationship with God, I have found new positive coping skill. Humor is one. ; ))

I too, had a friend, Hyyat, who killed herself. She was an escort who got addicted to cocaine first and crack later. She dropped those same clues, only they weren't so subtle. She would say things like "I'm tired. I raised my daughter and my job here is done." I would get angry with her when she talked like this. Normally, she was the life of the party. I would try to distract her from her depression. Try to talk her out of her addiction. I thought I was helping her. One morning I got a phone call, "Hyyat killed herself!" Her daughter took her ashes to Hawaii and sprinkled them in the ocean.

It's a terrible guilt to carry around Native and I pray that you can let it go. You are NOT at fault. You couldn't have done a thing to change the outcome. If someone REALLY want's to kill themselves, they will. As I said, it's a selfish thing to do. Suicidal people can't get past their own pain to realize what killing themselves does to other people.

My father shot himself in the head, in front of my sister and my mother, when she was 8 months pregnant with me. It changed the course of my life, even before it began. LInative,

God Bless you for picking up on people's inner suffering and for being astute enough to recognize depression when you see it. I AM so sorry that you had to go thru that. My deepest condolences to you and your friends family.

 

[Justiceforever]

I think WSs have some pretty awesome smileys! I found this site that has some REALLY adorables ones that you can upload (or is it download?) to use free. Like this one.
...Anyways, I can't possibly use them all so I thought I'd share the wealth. Enjoy!

http://www.worldwidereaction.com/smileys/index.html

 

[Justiceforever]

"Look at our society. We’re hateful, we judge, we make others feel terrible about their own self image, and we create this idea of what’s “normal” so no one feels good enough. Now ….take a look at a child with down syndrome. Always smiling, laughing and encouraging. It makes me wonder if, in actuality, they don’t have one too many chromosomes, but if we’re actually one short of a full set needed to be beautiful human beings."
~S.R~

 

[Seajay]

events in our younger years shape us. Ever since an event when I was younger, I am keen on peoples depression. I will always ask "are you thinking of hurting yourself?" Even if I HATE that person. Maybe its the guilt I live with for not picking up on the clues he gave me, maybe its becuse I saw the aftermath of what my friend did that sent shockwaves through hundreds of lives. Ruining several. My friend shot himself. Always keep an open ear, you never know whose screaming for help. You might even save someone, possibly yourself.

I know the feeling. My SIL committed suicide in front of her 10 year old daughter. The aftermath ruined my neice's life. She had abandonment issues, made some really bad decisions based on that. My brother remarried almost immediately to someone unsuitable for him and changed him for the worst.

My brother told me two weeks before she shot herself that he thought she was going to do it. I live with the guilt of not taking that seriously. I thought it was a cry for attention because she had destroyed their marriage. I told him to worry about his girls, not their mother. I should have talked to her. She and I had been very close.

I dreamt about her for years, I would see her at family get together and no one else could in those dreams. I would start talking to her and everyone else thought I was nuts. I kept asking her why she did it in those dreams and she could not answer me. Everyone at the family get together would get mad at me for ruining the event by bringing her up.

I know. I have regrets about how I handled this.

 

[Justiceforever]

Seajay my heart goes out to you and your brother!
Most of all my heart goes out to your niece! I am SO VERY VERY sorry that you and your family have suffered this kind of pain!
Sometimes it helps to know that you are not alone in your grief. I suspect most WSers have similar tragedies in their lives. Maybe this is why we all give so much of our time and energy into finding answers that may in the most miniscule way alieviate someone (even a strangers) suffering, because in doing so, it alliviates (in a miniscule way) our own suffering! Thank you for sharing Seajay. Let it be cathargic for you.

I want to thank everyone for sharing your stories. It has helped me by knowing that I am not alone in grief. That grief didn't hand pick me because of something I DID WRONG! Grief doesn't discriminated and I am learning that it doesn't JUST have it's sites on me.
This forum has taken me OUT of my own pain and showed me that EVERYBODY grieves. As unnatural and abnormal as it feels, it's normal.
That knowledge doesn't make it all feel better, but it does make it a little more barable.


God bless eve

 

[Justiceforever]

Well I am having a heck of a time trying to edit my last post, DUMB smatphone! ; )
What I was trying to say at the end was, God bless EVERYBODY suffering the pain of grief.

Good night. Sweet dreams and don't let the bedbugs bite!

That used to freak me OUT as a kid! BEDBUGS? WHAT? I'M SUPOSSED TO SLEEP NOW?

 

[Seajay]

Seajay my heart goes out to you and your brother!
Most of all my heart goes out to your niece! I am SO VERY VERY sorry that you and your family have suffered this kind of pain!
Sometimes it helps to know that you are not alone in your grief. I suspect most WSers have similar tragedies in their lives. Maybe this is why we all give so much of our time and energy into finding answers that may in the most miniscule way alieviate someone (even a strangers) suffering, because in doing so, it alliviates (in a miniscule way) our own suffering! Thank you for sharing Seajay. Let it be cathargic for you.

I want to thank everyone for sharing your stories. It has helped me by knowing that I am not alone in grief. That grief didn't hand pick me because of something I DID WRONG! Grief doesn't discriminated and I am learning that it doesn't JUST have it's sites on me.
This forum has taken me OUT of my own pain and showed me that EVERYBODY grieves. As unnatural and abnormal as it feels, it's normal.
That knowledge doesn't make it all feel better, but it does make it a little more barable.


God bless eve

What I did learn is that suicide is the final F-U to everyone they left behind. There are no do-overs. It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem. The sad part is that most of these people could have gotten help and lived.

I thought my SIL thought too much of herself to do something like that. She was always primping and was vain about her looks. It never occurred to me she would harm herself.

Yes, I think all of us have had experiences like this. I think the worst part about it is it's a selfish act and we who are left behind feel guilt that we didn't see it, we couldn't do anything to make it different. I guess what we have to realize is that if they were hell bent on it, there wasn't anything we could have said or done to change it. They were in so much emotional pain, they couldn't see past it and felt that was the only way out. Some people just can't cope with life on life's terms. They missed out on the coping skills "normal" people get.

We have survived what life has thrown our way. I think for whatever reason it's important to us WSers to be there for others, to help in any way we can. It takes a certain type of person to join a group just to try to help others and not get anything out of it. JMO