I've been talking with a girlfriend of mine in her fifties about the sexual molestation that occurred at the hands of her father as both a child and teen, and the sexual issues she now experiences (promiscuity, etc.). We were talking about Bill Cosby and she started rationalizing his behavior and blaming the victims. Just as she says the rapes she later endured by others as an adult were her fault and she invited it, etc.
She says she loves her father, doesn't blame him, but hates and blames her mother for letting it happen. She seems to direct all blame to her mother, not her father.
I don't know where I'm going with this but to say, re: the subject of our discussion, this adult's actions are inexcusable, and the Daily Mail article reminds of the discussion I've been having with my friend, referenced above. In my friend's case it seems to be a blend of stockholm-type syndrome mixed with guilt, rationalization and selfblame, and justification towards her molestor. I've been working with her on this. She asks howcome I'm so "opiniated" yet strong and confidant in my victim-friendly views, and I just tell her "if you only knew..." (referring to being a WS member and seeing thousands of cases here...I always keep that tidbit confidential btw with everyone in "real life"...).
(Eta: I hate to say this but I might as well get some support and free therapy while I'm here, lol...I was promiscuous as a teen with older persons, and thinking about it makes me sooooooo disgusted I can't stand it. I bury it from my mind, but then it comes up in situations like this. In my case, I just wanted to be older, feel older, attractive...I know I am going to come back to this post and want to delete it, but you know what Margarita, it's good to get it out and purge that shame. Might as well tell the world! :wave: )