Thank you for posting this. I have seen a lot of posts calling TC sister dumb, etc. I think it maybe was not a great idea for her to relay his 'take' that he has given her as to why he did what he did, because now many people seem to be taking that as though she agrees. I didn't think it seemed like that at all. She said what he did is a horrible thing, and that he has to understand his family won't take him back, etc (paraphrasing), and implied that even though he did horrible things he's still her brother and she loves him. Maybe she could have also left the latter out, but sometimes it is hard to see family for what they really are.
My uncle had an inappropriate relationship with his stepdaughter. No one realized it until years after he and her mother divorced. A switch flipped and step daughter called police on him (she was about 26 at the time, but claimed that their sexual relationship started when she was 17). We were never close with my uncle because he led a different lifestyle than the rest of the family, but it was still shocking to hear some of the details unfold. My mom was so disgusted with him, but still accepted his phone calls for about a year because she said well he's still my brother what can I do (both of their parents were dead). After about a year, probably less but I can't remember, my mom decided to stop taking his phone calls because she realized that even though biologically he was still her brother, he still had no remorse, and that's the amount of time it took for her to fully realize he was not the same person anymore that he once was; that he never would be; it was in a way like grieving a loss. Maybe he's not dead physically, but the decent person he once was sure is.
Maybe it will just take TC sister time to grieve that loss. Maybe she too is in shock that he turned out to do such horrible things. It sure does seem like he led a 'double life' before he left TN. I just feel like at this time she, too, is a victim in the situation, and we should tread lightly as far as calling her dumb etc. I don't think she supports what TC has done in the least bit. All JMO
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