One in four women will end up in an abusive relationship at some point in their lives (in the UK) .. so I think that points to one heck of a lot of abusive men out there ... it is basically just the luck of the draw whether you end up in one or not, or whether you end up in further abusive relationships. I never in a million years thought that I would end up in one .. I've never been one to stand any nonsense from anyone, and yet it still happened to me at the age of 46.
BBM
I think it can be the luck of the draw whether or not someone encounters/meets an abusive person/potential date.
But I disagree that it's the luck of the draw if someone enters into an abusive relationship. Awareness & perception of abuse is crucial, in order to avoid entering into an abusive relationship.
By relationship I mean a monogamous, exclusive partnership, rather than an uncommitted, dating arrangement.
It's important to be able to recognize the warning signs of an abusive personality, so that one does not enter into a relationship with that person. All too often, nonphysical abuse is dismissed, ignored, minimized, excused, or justified.
One of the problems has been the lack of education and awareness pertaining to the warning signs of abusive characteristics, which leads to dismissal or denial of the early warning signs. Thankfully, awareness of emotional/psychological/verbal abuse is growing due to the increase in outreach programs. Defining abuse has been one of the primary objectives in changing the perception of abuse. As the definition of abuse has broadened to include more than physical violence, awareness of abuse has grown.
Emotional/psychological/verbal abuse can be (but not always) a precursor to potential physical violence if other factors are also present. In my experience, if the perpetrator of emotional/psychological/verbal abuse is prone to extreme jealousy/possessiveness, rage, temper tantrums, destruction of property (their own or the victim's), has threatened violence against the victim or against others, the likelihood of physical aggression in an intimate relationship increases, as the emotional/psychological/verbal abuse escalates.
The following link to the Mayo Clinic has some good information:
http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-living/adult-health/in-depth/domestic-violence/art-20048397?p=1
This UK link also has useful information:
http://www.hiddenhurt.co.uk/domestic_violence.html