Twitney Spears enters rehab! Threads Merged

[shopper]

I don't really have any negative thoughts about Britney's mother (as I do about, say, Lohan's) and I certainly don't think she views her daughters as cash cows. One of the things Britney reportedly said in the salon when she shaved off her hair was "Oh no - my Mom's going to kill me", so obviously she and her Mom are still tight.

Britney's an adult woman and I wouldn't expect to see her mother in the public eye as much as I would when she was younger. I'd bet that her Mom is trying her best to get her obviously troubled dauhter some help.

True that Britney is an adult but she's still her mother's child and needs her. Needs someone, anyone to step in and help her.

I've always heard that Lynn was the ultimate, pushy stage-mother. No link, so I'll leave it as my opinion but I've heard that for years. I'm sure she cares about her children, but maybe she doesn't always have their best interests at heart.

 

[southcitymom]

It's difficult to assess - I think parents of stars take all sorts of blows for their children's behaviors and choices. I've just never been moved by anything I read or saw to think Brit's mother was/is awful. But I could be wrong - it's just my opinion.

I do believe she loves her daughter and doesn't want her to go the ANS route. I'd bet she's doing all she can to get Brit help.

 

[Cassata11]

I 100% agree Floh. Her mother Lynn forced her to perform, even when she didn't want to. Lynn left her 6 week old baby Jamie Lynn to take Britney to NY to pursue an agent. Lynn wanted it more than Britney, and now I hope Lynn is wishing she would've done things a little differently...

Where is Lynn now? Enjoying the early M-I-C-K-E-Y money, I assume. I don't care how old I am, my parents would be kicking my butt if I behaved that way! How about some parental intervention! :bang:

 

[shopper]

It's difficult to assess - I think parents of stars take all sorts of blows for their children's behaviors and choices. I've just never been moved by anything I read or saw to think Brit's mother was/is awful. But I could be wrong - it's just my opinion.

I do believe she loves her daughter and doesn't want her to go the ANS route. I'd bet she's doing all she can to get Brit help.

I'm not saying Lynn is an awful person or mother either. I think she just may have gotten her priorities mixed up along the way. She has had a cushy lifestyle for many years now, thanks to Britney and now JL. But I admit, she doesn't appear to be as flaky and superficial as Dina Lohan. What an enabler. And I was NOT moved when I saw her on some tabloid show a couple of weeks ago, acting all concerned for Lindsay in rehab.

As much as I want to knock some sense into Britney, my heart does go out to her and hope that she can pull herself/life together before it's too late.

 

[southcitymom]

I'm not saying Lynn is an awful person or mother either. I think she just may have gotten her priorities mixed up along the way. She has had a cushy lifestyle for many years now, thanks to Britney and now JL. But I admit, she doesn't appear to be as flaky and superficial as Dina Lohan. What an enabler. And I was NOT moved when I saw her on some tabloid show a couple of weeks ago, acting all concerned for Lindsay in rehab.

As much as I want to knock some sense into Britney, my heart does go out to her and hope that she can pull herself/life together before it's too late.

I hear you - seems like we are on the same page. It's hard for me to imagine what it would be like to mother someone like Britney. Obviously, some stage parents/managers seem to do a better job than others. I'm sure Britney was at least as driven as Lynn and that in the beginning Lynn felt like she was supporting her daughter's dreams. Possibly, it's best to stay a parent and leave the managing to someone else - I don't know.

Lohan's Mom truly gets my ire up. I think Dinah's denial stems from the fact that she has been doing drugs with her daughter for years....again, just my opinion.

 

[JanetElaine]

"Why would anybody be deemed crazy just because 'western society' doesn't regard it as normal?"

Because it is so deemed, JanetElaine.

Yeah, but I'm a rebel and always have been, and I have a tendency to not go along with what is 'so deemed' until I have formed my own opinion about it. Now I'm not saying everyone here hasn't formed their own opinion about it.... I'm referring to the 'western society' of which I myself have been a part of since birth.

what more do you expect me to say?

Nothing really, I never expected you to say anything... Obviously you're feeling defensive about things I said... I wasn't talking to you personally and I apologize if I have offended you. If I did it was completely unintended since I never even had you in mind while replying here.

you, clearly, appear to believe her shaving her head isn't peculiar. i and many other do think it peculiar. end of, as far as i can tell?

You're wrong about my opinion, and sure 'end of'.... That wasn't my point and question anyway.

do you think Britney has cancer? is this why you're continuing, it would appear, to speak of cancer patients who lose their hair?

No, I was 'continuing' because I was accused of being offensive towards cancer patients, which hurt me really bad but that's my problem, and all I tried was explain myself further. And as I stated myself, I doubt I can explain exactly what I mean anyway, here and now.

do you believe others here would dream of saying something offensive about a cancer patient?

No, but obviously someone believes I would. I tend to not take anything being said on message boards personally, and I habitually do not attack people or get personal with anyone, it is not worth it. But this one hurt.

I can think of plenty of normal, healthy reasons a young woman might want to shave off her hair. This particular behavior of Britney's wouldn't concern me IF there weren't a host of other sad, "help me" behaviors present. I have a great deal of sympathy for her right now. It is obvious that she is struggling in major ways.

And this is, on topic, exactly what I tried to say.

 

[shopper]

I hear you - seems like we are on the same page. It's hard for me to imagine what it would be like to mother someone like Britney. Obviously, some stage parents/managers seem to do a better job than others. I'm sure Britney was at least as driven as Lynn and that in the beginning Lynn felt like she was supporting her daughter's dreams. Possibly, it's best to stay a parent and leave the managing to someone else - I don't know.

Lohan's Mom truly gets my ire up. I think Dinah's denial stems from the fact that she has been doing drugs with her daughter for years....again, just my opinion.

Dina gets my ire up too. Wasn't she partying it up with her daughter and Paris a year or so ago? That says everything you need to know about her IMO. I'd be doing the opposite, trying to get my daughter AWAY from Parasite Hilton.

I agree with you that Britney probably had the drive and desire to get into the biz, I don't think Lynn forced her from the beginning. I just think that she got used to the luxuries of fame and money and it has clouded her judgment. I'm sure it's hard to go from an average income to millions and keep your priorities/values, etc where they should be.

 

[southcitymom]

JanetElaine,

I agree with you 100% on this one. Didn't find a thing you said offensive...

SCM

 

[southcitymom]

Dina gets my ire up too. Wasn't she partying it up with her daughter and Paris a year or so ago? That says everything you need to know about her IMO. I'd be doing the opposite, trying to get my daughter AWAY from Parasite Hilton.

I agree with you that Britney probably had the drive and desire to get into the biz, I don't think Lynn forced her from the beginning. I just think that she got used to the luxuries of fame and money and it has clouded her judgment. I'm sure it's hard to go from an average income to millions and keep your priorities/values, etc where they should be.

Sometimes I wonder - is it the money that makes you go all fuzzy or it is all that bootlicking attention? - people constantly telling you how important you are, how special you are, people constantly treating you like a demigod. It would be very hard to keep your head about you in a situation like that unless you had a very strong, centered ego to begin with. And I don't think many of these young girls do have that.

 

[Perry]

Poke me with sharp sticks if you will but, I feel sorry for her. I realize she may or may not have brought this on herself but, to me that is irrelevant. She is 24 years old with two kids and a upcoming divorce that is bound to be nasty. I think she has slipped a few gears in the past months.

She looks haunted to me on these pics. I know that during my divorce I behaved in a manner that was very unlike "me". My marriage was so bad I seeked validation from anyone and everyone in mostly negative ways. Don't misunderstand I take full responsibilty for my actions but, I did have my reasons for them.

I just hope and pray that these two children are brought up in a loving household wherever that may be.

With all that said, I can't believe I am having a serious discusion regarding Britney Spears. Maybe I have slipped a few gears myself.:crazy:

 

[shopper]

Sometimes I wonder - is it the money that makes you go all fuzzy or it is all that bootlicking attention? - people constantly telling you how important you are, how special you are, people constantly treating you like a demigod. It would be very hard to keep your head about you in a situation like that unless you had a very strong, centered ego to begin with. And I don't think many of these young girls do have that.

IMO, it's both but with a heavier emphasis on the latter. Being surrounded by "yes men" for so long would be hard for any person to keep their head. Even their parents.

 

[southcitymom]

Poke me with sharp sticks if you will but, I feel sorry for her. I realize she may or may not have brought this on herself but, to me that is irrelevant. She is 24 years old with two kids and a upcoming divorce that is bound to be nasty. I think she has slipped a few gears in the past months.

She looks haunted to me on these pics. I know that during my divorce I behaved in a manner that was very unlike "me". My marriage was so bad I seeked validation from anyone and everyone in mostly negative ways. Don't misunderstand I take full responsibilty for my actions but, I did have my reasons for them.

I just hope and pray that these two children are brought up in a loving household wherever that may be.

With all that said, I can't believe I am having a serious discusion regarding Britney Spears. Maybe I have slipped a few gears myself.:crazy:

Great post - sums up lots of my feelings. I won't poke you with two sharp sticks! I'll send you big hugs for having an empathetic heart - the world needs more of that.....:blowkiss:

 

[BarnGoddess]

Originally Posted by JanetElaine
That is why I am asking if it is the shaving, or Britney... LOL. It isn't regarded as normal, but really, what's so bad about a shaven head? Why would anybody be deemed crazy just because 'western society' doesn't regard it as normal? KWIM? People hear Britney's bald and jump all over her, seems to me just because they are in the habit of jumping all over her anyway, so I'm trying to figure out what their 'problem' is - an unconventional hairstyle, or Britney's behaviour in general. I think shaving her head is the least bad thing she's pulled lately. Of course the 'why' could be cause for concern (see Melisinde's post), but that's another story.

I am very proud of my friend who refused to be a victim of cancer when she got this awful disease, who made the most of everything until the last possible moment, and who dared take a stand against what is deemed normal and what isn't - she did so while she was sick, and she did so while she was well. Our group of friends probably is so close because we know exactly what we mean by this, and I'm afraid I cannot fully convey it in words on an impersonal message board. I would never, ever dream of saying something offensive about a cancer patient.

Janet, I agree with you. There is a Rocky Mountain News columnist who is a cancer survivor. She has been gradually getting new pictures made for her byline. She appeared bald, now slowly with short hair coming in.

Scroll down and look at Penny Parker now.

http://www.rockymountainnews.com/drmn/news_columnists/

I admire Penny. But I think that Brittany is another story altogether. On the plus side, I also did hear that her hair was so damaged by over processing that she was frustrated. I can understand that, but I really think that she is on the downward spiral that other posters have mentioned is contributing to her behavior.

 

[concernedperson]

Poke me with sharp sticks if you will but, I feel sorry for her. I realize she may or may not have brought this on herself but, to me that is irrelevant. She is 24 years old with two kids and a upcoming divorce that is bound to be nasty. I think she has slipped a few gears in the past months.

She looks haunted to me on these pics. I know that during my divorce I behaved in a manner that was very unlike "me". My marriage was so bad I seeked validation from anyone and everyone in mostly negative ways. Don't misunderstand I take full responsibilty for my actions but, I did have my reasons for them.

I just hope and pray that these two children are brought up in a loving household wherever that may be.

With all that said, I can't believe I am having a serious discusion regarding Britney Spears. Maybe I have slipped a few gears myself.:crazy:

That is how I feel for even reading here. LOL! Must be bored or something.

 

[Melisinde]

Ugh, thank God. Britney's mother, Lynne, is finally out in LA and at her house. Yes, Britney might be 25, but I think mentally she's VERY much younger than that and she needs her mother there so badly right now. I think other than her two sons, she doesn't have anyone else; they're all back home in Louisiana.

:blowkiss: Please get better, Britney. You had your time to rebel and go against ANYTHING and EVERYTHING everyone wanted for you. It's time to chill out now though and realize that you can do what you want without going all the way out in left field.

 

[Carpe Pacem]

...that this young woman is in the manic phase of bipolar mood disorder, and desperately needs medical attention to become stable.

 

[philamena]

Too bad Britney wasn't photographed doing 'something' with her children. She really seems like a lost soul. That's how I see her anyway.

 

[AlwaysShocked]

Yes, I too have been thinking that perhaps we are witnessing the onset of a mental illness.

I know that the early to mid twenties is a common time for the onset of both schizophrenia and bi-polar disease. Plus that onset of these illnesses is often associated with a period of heavy use of alcohol and/or drugs.

Wonder what took place at the rehab center in Antigua that had her leaving within a day?

 

[txsvicki]

Shaving her hair in and of itself is not a big deal to me either. It's probably fried anyway, she changes it everyday with extensions and coloring it.

Her behavior at the salon is what's telling of some kind of psychotic breakdown. Along with the constant partying and drunken behavior for the last several months. I hope her kids are being watched by a competant and caring Nanny. Their mother is a wreck and I guess Lynn has moved on to greener pa$ture$ (Jamie Lynn).

I was also thinking that her hair might just be damaged from bleaching, having a bad hair day, and got sick of it. Maybe this is also a symbol to her own self that she is sick of publicity, wanted some different publicity, and through with partying. I don't think her kids need to be taken away, just that her mom needs to stay with her and make sure everything is okay or going to be okay.

 

[angarella]

I think the woman/child is just crying out for some love and positive attention. am not a huge fan, but do hope the Britney does get some help. For herself and her children. I think that she is just very sad and needs some real rest.


Can't help but feel for her.

IMO

Ang