TX - A 4 year old is accused of sexual misconduct??

[Samiya]

**insert sarcasm**

And I suppose we're going to have to stop breastfeeding so this king of 'thing' never happens again......

Man I'd like to put some whoopa$$ on that woman!

How uptight and prudish can one person be!

 

[mysteriew]

I don't think this was really any reason to be turning the child's parents into CPS and the school is the one abusing the child by punishing him, trying to label him, and causing the family all sorts of stress and worry. I was sitting outside the school today picking up kids and looking at teachers and had a thought. This child must be very tall or the aide was a really really short woman because 4 year olds are not big enough for their face to reach a woman's breasts when standing up getting into line for a bus.

In most cases the child usually will have contact with more people than parents. A referral to CPS would be more to the fact of the child behaving in a mannner they felt was age inappropriate, which could possibly indicate inappropriate contact with someone....not necessarily a parent.
Also, please make note that I said IF they felt the hug was sexual in nature The key word being IF. I am presuming the school had reason to believe there was something sexual in the nature of the hug, otherwise the issue of the suspension wouldn't have been necessary.
But even if after investigation it was determined no abuse, no problem, then suspension still would have been inappropriate. For a kid that age, I would expect the school to be more concerned with education- even if that means education on appropriate behavior.

 

[txsvicki]

In most cases the child usually will have contact with more people than parents. A referral to CPS would be more to the fact of the child behaving in a mannner they felt was age inappropriate, which could possibly indicate inappropriate contact with someone....not necessarily a parent.
Also, please make note that I said IF they felt the hug was sexual in nature The key word being IF. I am presuming the school had reason to believe there was something sexual in the nature of the hug, otherwise the issue of the suspension wouldn't have been necessary.
But even if after investigation it was determined no abuse, no problem, then suspension still would have been inappropriate. For a kid that age, I would expect the school to be more concerned with education- even if that means education on appropriate behavior.

I agree that education about how to hug, touch, or not touch others is appropriate but punishment of a toddler and labeling him as a sexual harasser who made sexual contact is not age appropriate. Parents should be consulted before resorting to such extremes with toddlers. A child who was being molested would be more likely to do something to another child or at least what I've been told. I still think the woman's were probably hanging down in the child's face as she leaned down to hug him or he has big relatives who he likes to snuggle up to. A four year old would only reach the chest of a midget even if he is a big tall boy. My grandson is very tall, but there is no way he came up to my chest when almost age 5, and I am only 5'4''.

 

[LionRun]

I feel for that little boy. I don't know if he needed counseling before this happened; but, he may really need it after the, "suspension". Gosh, it could have been nothing more than a snuggle, or he may have been imitating something he has seen or sadly been a part of (hopefully not). I wasn't there, and there wasn't enough in the article for me to speculate. Regardless of what happened and how it happened, the child needs not to be suspended or punished, and the incident should be further investigated to see where it leads--if anywhere.

 

[Bobbisangel]

My 4-year-old's preschool class at school recently did a little Christmas Craft. His teacher drew gingerbread men on pieces of construction paper and the kids decorated them according to their own desires. The teacher then cut the gingerbread men out to hang on the classroom door.

My son's desire was that his gingerbread man have a big swinging .....well, you have to look at it to get the full effect, but suffice it to say that, out of his class of 12, his gingerbread was the only one to turn out anatomically correct!

I laughed out loud (as did his teacher and other teachers and administrators) and took a picture of him proudly holding his creation and sent it as a Christmas card to my friends and family, but I also thought of this thread and wondered if anyone would think he was oversexualized!

Thank you so much for the laugh. That is just so funny. Your little guy is quite the artist!

 

[Bobbisangel]

I can't imagine anyone thinking that a 4 year old was getting fresh! That is just beyond belief. Kids do like to snuggle up against soft ...not to say that is what this little guy was doing but it is natural anyway.

If the teacher felt uncomfortable why couldn't she have just said " honey that makes me feel uncomfortable when you hug me with your face right there" or something like that...and then left it alone. There wasn't any reason to make a big thing out of it. We teach little kids about what to do/say if something makes them uncomfortable and so the little guy would have understood what she was saying. I doubt that it was sexual in the little guy's mind for pity sake....he is still a baby. I feel bad for the parents having to go through this. I would be livid if that were my little guy. He would be out of that room and into another school. And that crap wouldn't remain on his record. The whole thing is really disgusting.