not_my_kids
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There is a chance that she also didn't do anything out of the ordinary when she did eat that called attention. After the first time that she wolfed it down and threw up from her stomach reacting to it, she would have slowed down.
(My ex controlled every bite I ate for 2.5 years. He was paying for it, so I didn't eat unless he said so.)
I agree the school should have known, but due to the fact that CPS is the Great American Weapon now, they are heavily overburdened. People see them as all powerful and call in reports on any old thing...maybe the school did report it and nothing was done.
Since it as at CPS discretion which one's are followed up on, they have to choose. A child who is a little thin is not going to be followed up on as well as a child with physical signs of molestation or abuse...sad as it is.
That said, I imagine the starving did come first, then the closet. I only say this because if I tried to starve my kids, I'd have to lock them in the closet to keep them out of the food. We already have to padlock everything. (My six year old is a chronic overeater, she has too much stomach acid being put out, so she always feels hungry, even immediately after she eats. In this case, it's to keep her safe.)
I wonder if all of their kids were abused, or if she was the "chosen one". I have seen it many times where one child is abused and the others in the home are not. I have no idea why, but it seems to happen quite a bit. Or maybe it was because she was the only girl, and her mother being overweight, it could have started with good intentions and then ended up in hell for the child.
Now, if they are smart, she won't be sent home, but unfortunately, if there are no lasting mental or physical effects, they may send her right back home. The great CPS mantra, counseling and parenting classes fix everything.
EDIT for clarity: I meant cognitive effects, obviously there will be mental effects, likely for the rest of her life.
(My ex controlled every bite I ate for 2.5 years. He was paying for it, so I didn't eat unless he said so.)
I agree the school should have known, but due to the fact that CPS is the Great American Weapon now, they are heavily overburdened. People see them as all powerful and call in reports on any old thing...maybe the school did report it and nothing was done.
Since it as at CPS discretion which one's are followed up on, they have to choose. A child who is a little thin is not going to be followed up on as well as a child with physical signs of molestation or abuse...sad as it is.
That said, I imagine the starving did come first, then the closet. I only say this because if I tried to starve my kids, I'd have to lock them in the closet to keep them out of the food. We already have to padlock everything. (My six year old is a chronic overeater, she has too much stomach acid being put out, so she always feels hungry, even immediately after she eats. In this case, it's to keep her safe.)
I wonder if all of their kids were abused, or if she was the "chosen one". I have seen it many times where one child is abused and the others in the home are not. I have no idea why, but it seems to happen quite a bit. Or maybe it was because she was the only girl, and her mother being overweight, it could have started with good intentions and then ended up in hell for the child.
Now, if they are smart, she won't be sent home, but unfortunately, if there are no lasting mental or physical effects, they may send her right back home. The great CPS mantra, counseling and parenting classes fix everything.
EDIT for clarity: I meant cognitive effects, obviously there will be mental effects, likely for the rest of her life.