I had a situation where I could not reach my husband on his cell or work phone. I had been on the phone with my brother when I realized how late it was. I hung up and tried to call both. Waited about 20 minutes and tried again in case he was in transit. When I didn't reach him that time, I called my brother back and told him. I would switch back and forth trying to call him, then calling my brother back. After a while, I called my husband's business partner to inquire about when he last saw him. Business partner ended up going up to their office and found him deceased from a GSW. He then called 911. I never called 911. Reason being- my husband would have been so annoyed with me if I had and it had been nothing. Not calling 911 first has always been a regret, but it was not my first choice. Often, we feel like we are over-reacting and it is going to turn out to be nothing. If he had a good relationship with his father, I feel it would be completely normal for him to call dad and ask what he thinks he should do. It is exactly what I did.