Found Deceased TX - Leanne Bearden, 33, Garden Ridge, 17 Jan 2014 #11

[nursebeeme]

I agree with this. I am also new to this forum. I came here to post some suspicions specifically because I didn't want to hurt anyone by posting on the family's page (on FB).

While I don't want to hurt anyone in the family, my top priority here was to post thoughts that maybe, just maybe, someone hadn't thought about or noticed in case it would help, somehow, with the case.

Many of us as strangers felt close to Leanne through this case, and wanted to make sure there was nothing left out during the investigation.

I do think that at this point, we all need to let go of suspicions and let the case close. But I don't find any harm in posting our thoughts along the way, and as I understand it that is the point of this site. Mods, please let me know if I am misunderstanding--and thank you for helping us to understand the rules!

welcome! and yes as long as your posts do NOT include speculation about family members it is fine

 

[Elainera]

Leanne's parents continue to post on the 5k FB page. The latest post will break your heart as they say they do not think they will heal or have peace until they meet Leanne again (I'm paraphrasing).

Please keep Leanne's parents in your thoughts and prayers. No parent should ever have to bury a child.

https://www.facebook.com/LeanneBearden5k

I saw that. Heartbreaking I can literally feel their pain in my heart. I wanted to write something as a reply but I almost feel like I'm intruding and am worried that I say something inappropriate and hurt them more. Words don't help anyway, right?

 

[Lilibet]

I saw that. Heartbreaking I can literally feel their pain in my heart. I wanted to write something as a reply but I almost feel like I'm intruding and am worried that I say something inappropriate and hurt them more. Words don't help anyway, right?

You wouldn't be intruding. You would be showing you care, and the only way to do that from a distance is to use words. I'm sure they appreciate heartfelt comments, Elainera. Wrap them in love.

 

[5CentsWorth]

I have the movie UP sitting on my shelf but I have never watched it. I thought about getting it down, but in light of this, will it be really depressing for me to watch right now?

 

[Lilibet]

I have the movie UP sitting on my shelf but I have never watched it. I thought about getting it down, but in light of this, will it be really depressing for me to watch right now?

It's a neat movie. You'll probably just get caught up in it, but you could always turn it off if it's too hard. Or you could wait a bit. I'd like to see it again and think of Leanne and maybe have a good cry, if that happens. But that's just me.

 

[Mitch1]

I have the movie UP sitting on my shelf but I have never watched it. I thought about getting it down, but in light of this, will it be really depressing for me to watch right now?

For me, Up was a sad movie anyway-I think it will just make it that much more depressing

 

[SteveS]

"Up" was LB's favorite movie? Wasn't "Up" about the idea of a couple who loved each other, sacrificing and saving to take that trip to a faraway place they always wanted to visit, their whole life focusing on that once-in-a-lifetime trip, before they die? Hmm.

 

[ScarlettScarpetta]

"Up" was LB's favorite movie? Wasn't "Up" about the idea of a couple who loved each other, sacrificing and saving to take that trip to a faraway place they always wanted to visit, their whole life focusing on that once-in-a-lifetime trip, before they die? Hmm.

That is true. They love each other dearly but never get to go on their trip because they never have the money.. She gets sick and dies leaving him alone.. To then go on and take the trip alone.. and help Russell..

I don't think it is sad. I think it is about lifelong love.

 

[JenniferTx]

I am so shocked that they found her hanging. What a very sad ending but did LE confirm that she in fact died from hanging? I'm sorry I haven't read the entire thread but something just doesn't seem right about her death. My first husband killed himself by hanging so I kinda have some experience with suicide and suicide survivors. Hanging isn't usually the method that women choose for suicide.

 

[nursebeeme]

I am so shocked that they found her hanging. What a very sad ending but did LE confirm that she in fact died from hanging? I'm sorry I haven't read the entire thread but something just doesn't seem right about her death. My first husband killed himself by hanging so I kinda have some experience with suicide and suicide survivors. Hanging isn't usually the method that women choose for suicide.

yes.

(((((((I am sorry for your loss and experience as well, JenniferTx)))))))))))

 

[ami]

I saw that. Heartbreaking I can literally feel their pain in my heart. I wanted to write something as a reply but I almost feel like I'm intruding and am worried that I say something inappropriate and hurt them more. Words don't help anyway, right?

One of my students (college aged) died last year and I debated writing to his parents for a few days. I didn't know what to say, didn't think they'd be sitting around reading email, didn't think "I'm so sorry" would be any more than noise to them. Then one of my friends told me that when she lost her baby, it was horrible how people seemed to avoid her. She needed people to talk about her baby with her, let her talk about her. I kept that in mind and I emailed my student's parents and told them how sorry I was, how unfair it was, how much I cared for their son and respected the man I could see him becoming, and that if there was ever a memorial or something tangible I could to for them or his memory to please let me know. Immediately his father wrote back - like within hours. He was so eager to talk more about his son and express his own grief. I think his mother was leaning on family, but his father was gathering stories and input from others - just how they grieved differently.

I think a gentle note telling Leanne's parents that you care, that you're sorry, would like to pray (if that's your thing) or contribute to any future memorial (if that's your thing) or just that she impacted you and you feel the loss of her in the world - that would probably be comforting. The people who want input will look through the FB messages, the family members who want privacy won't read the FB messages. It seems like her father could use some, honestly. You won't say anything inappropriate, don't worry.

 

[Starry Night]

For Leanne: Journey through Eden

Sarah Brightman - One Night in Eden - YouTube

 

[JeannaT]

Leanne's parents continue to post on the 5k FB page. The latest post will break your heart as they say they do not think they will heal or have peace until they meet Leanne again (I'm paraphrasing).

Please keep Leanne's parents in your thoughts and prayers. No parent should ever have to bury a child.

https://www.facebook.com/LeanneBearden5k

I think if Leanne could have foreseen the damage she did with her suicide, she wouldn't have done it. And I agree with her parents - they never will be at peace ever again.

 

[Snoopy1]

One of the benefits of membership is the ability to view posts by member. Click on his nick, View All Posts By Member option will be there.

He stated his personal interest very early but I don't recall which thread it is. That post should be fairly easy to find for members.



And yes, that's a plug for Websleuths membership. Leanne will always be in my heart and I am a little bit wiser person on a few of the topics and points that were discussed in her missing case. I hope those that joined in Jan and Feb continue to contribute on the hundreds of other missing persons cases created each month on this forum.

I am and have been a member, but was unaware of that option. Thanks for being so helpful.

Eta: I have followed many other cases here in WS, but I tend to stick to the threads. Again, thanks.


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[Poppyflower]

For me, Up was a sad movie anyway-I think it will just make it that much more depressing

I agree. When I saw it I couldn't get past her dying. I didn't want to continue to watch, I was so sad that she had died.

 

[nursebeeme]

that movie was sad to me ("up") but at the same time refreshing.. like a rebirth for the older gentleman after a life long relationship and then he gets a chance to be young again (oh and don't forget that silly bird!)

 

[cluciano63]

My mom was ecstatic when she received letters or notes from my brother and sister's friends after they died. She kept them for the rest of her time and read them over and over.
JMO

 

[Isabelle]

I think if Leanne could have foreseen the damage she did with her suicide, she wouldn't have done it. And I agree with her parents - they never will be at peace ever again.

Agree and from my own experience having lost a 22 year old son, I will not be whole again until I am with him again. It has been 10 years, I have learned to step around my grief and it is the hardest thing I will do in my lifetime.

 

[Mygirlsadie]

It is impossible to not be sad about suicide. I think what makes it sadder than murder is the fact that the person suffered from a delusion that there was no hope for their life and failed to see how special they were to others. There were so many special things about Leanna that even strangers fell in love with her through reading her blogs and hearing her story. If only the depression, or other mental illness, had not blinded her and deceived her as to how special she was and how loved she was. IF ONLY SHE HAD KNOWN! That is part of what is so haunting! Suicide is the greatest self-deception.

Years ago, a high school girl hung herself in a bathroom stall at school. Her little brother was in my stepson's school so he was obviously upset. She was going through some of the normal things kids go through...parents splitting up, not making the cheerleading squad, boyfriend break-up, and gaining weight. A few days after the funeral, I took my stepson to her gravesite that was overrunning with flowers. I explained to him that death was forever. I told him that in 10 years he could come back here, and she was still going to be in the ground. She would never go to prom, get married, go to college or have children. I explained that she had thought nobody cared, but she was wrong. She was 16. In two years, she would have been able to make her own decisions and change the problems in her life. I told him that life was hard, but when it seemed unbearable to reach out to others and tell someone. Just find a way to make it through the hard times. I'm glad I had that talk with him and showed him that grave site that was overflowing with love and grief all around it, because he did have hard times and his mother and aunt both committed suicide several years after this happened.

To me, this is what touches us so deeply is that a special person who is loved is so overwhelmed by wrong functioning in their brain that they can't see how special they are, how loved they are and the hope of a future. It is such a horrible waste.

Your post brings up something that has hit close to home. My son is in the 8th grade and a classmate was just found dead from suicide in the bathroom at the middle school. They're not releasing how he killed himself but that no gun was involved so the rumor is that he hung himself. So sad. I don't know why an 8th grade little boy would feel like death was his only option.

 

[BeanieBod]

I have the movie UP sitting on my shelf but I have never watched it. I thought about getting it down, but in light of this, will it be really depressing for me to watch right now?

Although a part of it will tug at your heart strings, it will bring joy to you also. It helped me understand Leanne's love of balloons and of adventure. She was a joyous soul who left us way too soon. I have always loved to travel but I will see things with a new perspective now thanks to Leanne Mary Hecht Bearden.