This is from the last thread:
gitana1 said: "All I know is someone screwed up royally."
gitana -I read your lengthy response to what I posted vis-a-vis that collectively the system and everyone involved failed this boy. I agreed with (nearly) everything you said too...and then, you wrote the above statement.
http://www.websleuths.com/forums/showthread.php?t=154486&page=21
Huh? I certainly think that collectively everyone screwed up. But what do you mean with that? have my curious listening ears on.... Seems essentially we are on the same page. Sure, each person did what they could do given their role, and I fully understand the parameters in which they are required to operate...but collectively, they failed miserably.
Well, if all the players do their best but there is a tie and there are only a few seconds on the clock and one player misses the net, I would not say that collectively, the whole team, failed or that both teams and both coaches and the ref failed.
My point is that the dad and his lawyer, from my perspective as a family law attorney, did everything humanly possible to save those kids. The judge relied, it appears, on a child custody investigation/evaluation report. I have not read the report so I can't tell if the judge blew it or not, if there were red flags in the report that belied the recommendations, so I can't say for certain that the judge screwed up (by deciding the way he or she did based on that report), but it would appear that he or she did. And I can pretty much guarantee, with the benefit of hindsight, that the evaluator royally screwed up.
So I wouldn't say that there was a collective failure. I guess I am placing the blame on a few shoulders - but not all.