Warning to Second Wives

[wallflower67]

I'm a second wife. I can't imagine my life without my step-children...three of them. I could only carry one pregnancy, my dear daughter. I love my step-kids as much. Differently then my birth child, but as much. They are all grown now, but I do miss the years where we ran too and fro from baseball games, to martial arts practices, to band competitions, to choir concerts, sometimes two different schools in the same nights! I guess I'm looking forward to being a grandmother...but only when they are ready

 

[zwiebel]

'..convinced they'd persuade him to leave me in our beautiful Oxfordshire home and move back to their seaside sussex town.'

Thought I'd point out this fine example of the subtle, nuanced but 'knife-in-the-back-nature' example of English snobbery at its finest, just in case any US readers missed it. There's some attention to detail there.

Combined with an almost pathological jealousy and insecurity and willingness to hawk her (presumably unwilling) stepdaughter's lives in the media for money, it presents a pretty picture indeed. I'll give them five more years max. She'll get to keep the Oxfordshire house when the split comes.

Oxfordshire = Ivory towers and education, upper class and intelligent. Attractive if you go for the Hapsburg jaw look.

Sussex (with the POINTED mention of 'seaside' )= Working class people with white legs, handkerchiefs on their heads and white stilletos, eating chips (fries) on a grimy, rainswept beach.

Hapsburg jaw:
http://hubpages.com/hub/The-Habsburg-Jaw-And-Other-Royal-Inbreeding-Deformities-and-Disorders

 

[zwiebel]

With the second name of Pasternak, I can't help wondering if there is a connection to the esteemed Russian author of Dr Zhivago and the post-impressionist painter.

Ah, I've answered my own question. Shame, but even the best education can't compensate when true greatness finally peters out in a family. Interesting article here about Anna, her treatment of her own daughter, various odds and ends of strange behaviour and something about Princess Diana's ex-boyfriend.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...The-ridiculed-writer-linked-Dianas-lover.html

ETA: Had to add this quote:

"Frankly, if someone had told me to fly to Arizona, stand on one leg and put a banana up my bottom while reciting a chunk of the Koran to make me feel normal and find the man of my dreams, I would have done it."

 

[Steely Dan]

With the second name of Pasternak, I can't help wondering if there is a connection to the esteemed Russian author of Dr Zhivago and the post-impressionist painter.

Ah, I've answered my own question. Shame, but even the best education can't compensate when true greatness finally peters out in a family. Interesting article here about Anna, her treatment of her own daughter, various odds and ends of strange behaviour and something about Princess Diana's ex-boyfriend.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/art...The-ridiculed-writer-linked-Dianas-lover.html

ETA: Had to add this quote:

"Frankly, if someone had told me to fly to Arizona, stand on one leg and put a banana up my bottom while reciting a chunk of the Koran to make me feel normal and find the man of my dreams, I would have done it."

That explains a lot. She's the strumpet who outed Diana's affair. "Possibly" sleeping with James Hewitt to get the story.

From the article;

...Then there was Pasternak’s disastrous 15-month marriage to fellow writer William Coles. ‘I did much that was mean-spirited, selfish and wrong,’ she admits.

Her catalogue of fiendish behaviour includes cutting up his ties, dumping some of his hideous shirts, upending his prized tomatoes on the patio and storming out of practically every restaurant in Kensington, exposing him to the pitying glances of other diners.

Mr Coles, however, took his revenge. In one particularly cruel moment, he conned her into believing she had won £5 million in the National Lottery.

When she telephoned her mother, screaming excitedly ‘I’ve won the Lottery!’ she turned around to see her husband dropping his trousers and ‘mooning’ at her....

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:laughcry: That wasn't cruel. It was funny as hell!!!



I didn't know her husband was a therapist that she had been seeing as a patient! These two people who have no idea of moral boundaries are hawking a "how to fix your relationship" book?

 

[Donjeta]

Pasternak’s latest marriage is just as fiery as her first. Shortly after she and Wallas, 56, met, Anna, a self-confessed elitist snob, tried to smarten up his wardrobe.

‘He took off his claret-coloured fleece and baggy, bright blue jeans and tried on closer-fitting, darker jeans and a jacket and instantly looked ten years younger,’ she recalls.

To her astonishment, he then spent thousands of pounds on clothes, not once looking at the price tags.

‘That night, I awoke at 2am and found Andrew lying on the kitchen floor, sobbing,’ says Pasternak.

‘Eventually he explained that buying those clothes had triggered a raging insecurity that I didn’t love him for who he was, but that I wanted someone who wouldn’t embarrass me in front of my friends. I told him I just wanted him to love and value himself as I loved and valued him.’

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A psychotherapist husband in his fifties, sobbing on the kitchen floor at night over some clothes.
They sure sound like they're have it together, don't they?
Just the people I need relationship advice from.

Nah, I'm just jealous because I'm too poor to make a relationship issue out of anything so expensive.

 

[zwiebel]

I could make my hubby sob on the kitchen floor too - if I threw away THAT sweatshirt. The twenty year old one, washed paper thin, with the big hole in the front. It had no sentimental attachment at all when he first bought it but the dang thing's like a security blanket now.

If it ever gets to be a major cause of contention, I think I'll choose a therapist with care. Possibly not Oxfordshire-based. In fact, I'd head to the English seaside instead for a big bag of hot, fat chips. Comfort food therapy. Can't beat it and it's a lot cheaper too.

*I'm stuck in Germany with thin fries. Wish I hadn't mentioned English chips now. I want some a lot, but I can only eat them, not cook them.

 

[zwiebel]

I know who that article reminded me of, Joyce McKinney! It's been bugging me. Anyone heard of her? It was Pasternak's mention of bananas that did it. Just as surreal as Joyce's:

"I loved him so much I would ski down Mount Everest naked with a carnation up my nose, for the love of that man."

Apparently she had her dog cloned. Don't know if she wrote any relationship guides, but I wouldn't be surprised.

http://scandalouswoman.blogspot.de/2012/06/joyce-mckinney-and-manacled-mormon.html

 

[Donjeta]

Never mind, it looks like he's not a psychotherapist after all, he's a wizard:

None of this would be remarkable – after all, people fall in love all the time – if it wasn’t for who they are. She’s the 45-year-old, supposedly hard-bitten, opinionated journalist. He’s the self-styled Modern Day Wizard, a man who spends his life counselling people using various methods, including past-life regression and tarot cards. His courses are entitled “Healing Heartbreak” or “Core Wounding”.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/wo...-Wizard-ina-yurt...-sobbing-my-heart-out.html

 

[zwiebel]

Wow, from that article she says she had a row with Andrew so stomped out to the pool, and decided she would leave him 'if he didn't join me'.......but plotted to leave him 15 YEARS later, so he wouldn't be expecting it.

That doesn't sound very healthy to me.

 

[Donjeta]

Wow, from that article she says she had a row with Andrew so stomped out to the pool, and decided she would leave him 'if he didn't join me'.......but plotted to leave him 15 YEARS later, so he wouldn't be expecting it.

That doesn't sound very healthy to me.

Well, you know what they say, well planned is halfway done...

 

[fruity]

I'm with the step daughters. I wouldn't want to meet her either. What a boor.

 

[Donjeta]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...age-Unlike-Gwynnie-hes-not-bonkers-think.html

If you want to take Gwyneth's advice and Consciously Uncouple (and have six hundred pounds to share), Andy's your man...

Andrew lives his philosophy too. He consciously uncoupled from his wife of 24 years - the mother of his three grown-up children - about five years ago, in the days when such a thing was just known as an amicable divorce.

'And I have never said a bad word about her since, nor has she about me,' he says.

This, he claims, is living proof that divorce doesn't have to be a war zone, but can be Zen-like and twinkly, if you have the right attitude.

(The article reads like a promotion piece.)


Too bad the second wife would have preferred his divorce slightly less twinkly.

 

[Steely Dan]

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/a...age-Unlike-Gwynnie-hes-not-bonkers-think.html

If you want to take Gwyneth's advice and Consciously Uncouple (and have six hundred pounds to share), Andy's your man...



(The article reads like a promotion piece.)


Too bad the second wife would have preferred his divorce slightly less twinkly.

I don't think I can read that, what I assume is, tripe. :banghead:

 

[Donjeta]

Yes but it's hilarious tripe. There are quotes from glossy brochures and from his promotional website and then just some perfectly matter-of-fact absurdity.

Mr Wallas, Britain's only practising Conscious Uncoupling guru, is a relationship expert who has embraced the idea that modern divorce doesn't have to be messy and embittered, but can be joyful and jubilant. That you can explore such ideas in a spa, as you wait for your nail polish to dry, is, frankly bizarre, but one feels sure that Gwynnie would approve.

On their first meeting she ended up in the foetal position on the floor of Andrew's yurt, sobbing about the lack of romance in her life. He called her a 'shallow, neurotic, materialistic, posh Russian *****' - he prides himself on plain-speaking - then married her.

On their honeymoon he went a bit Sting, and convinced her to do a tantric sex course. Yes, while on their actual honeymoon - it was more about intimacy than intercourse, apparently. On their arrival home, Pasternak and Wallas wrote a book about their experiences and she now bills herself as a relationship expert too.

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[Steely Dan]

Yes but it's hilarious tripe. There are quotes from glossy brochures and from his promotional website and then just some perfectly matter-of-fact absurdity.









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:laughcry:

 

[Linda7NJ]

That couple is a gift that just keeps giving!
Lmao!

I want to be a Wizard!!!


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