I got on here to catch up. There were a few questions directed at me and I hope I can address them.
Someone asked if MR ever cried tears, yes he did.
Someone asked about whether or not he had friends, spent time with family, etc. - Well, I can't tell you what he does now, but way back when, yes he did have friends and spent time with his family.
Throughout all those comments, many wondered how I would know after so many years, what did it matter, what about the ex factor, etc.
Well, I don't know MR today and have never claimed to. It's been years. Yes, people change, some for the good and some for the bad. IMO the core of who you are stays with you forever and that doesn't change. Take it for what it's worth, I'm not bashing MR. I know how I was years ago and how he was. What I also know is that my life took one direction and his took another. People change or don't change based on the life they live. I give my grandson burritos and ice cream drumsticks for breakfast (he asks me for it) but I would never have done that with my kids.
As for the opinions that my children have about MR, they formed those opinions on the life they lived with him, without him and since him. I am sure that subconciously I had some influence on it. Keep in mind, these are the same children that met face to face with him at a young age to tell him directly that they didn't want him to be their father anymore.
The ex factor, absolutely is there. I would not have divorced him if I thought he was wonderful. Every man divorces a bi@#$ and every woman divorces a bas$@%#. Otherwise they would still be married. Time heals all wounds and personally I have had much better things to do with my time over twenty years than to carry a grudge, that takes too much valuable time and energy IMO.