Hey guys,
I was wondering if any of you happened to see my post a few pages back. I have to go find it now.
I just had a couple questions and i was wondering if anyone knew the answers? I'll go try to find my post again.
I just wanted to add that i hate the word "grooming". I've wrote about this before, but i was abused by stepfather for years. And our family were/are all "Christians". Pastors and everything. My abuse started when i was 11 until i was like 17. I only told one boyfriend when i was like 14 or 15 until i met my husband. He abused my younger cousin after for 2 years after me. Started around the same age w/ her.
We finally decided we had to do something and just this past year finally was able to put him in jail.
It was the hardest thing ever. He wasn't mean and stuff. He was my stepfather from the time i was little. We had the father/daughter relationship and i always still felt that "loyalty" to him and couldn't "tell" on him. I didn't want him to go to jail even though i was so messed up and hated everything about it. I told myself that i would live w/ it all my life. Until i had my own kids. Then something snapped. I realized that i wasn't doing telling on him cuz i hated him or out of revenge or anything, but i had to do something to protect any other kids from him.
I had so much guilt that i didn't speak up before he got to my cousin. I still live w/ that guilt everyday.
But yah....the word "grooming" makes me shiver. And feel disgusting.
Anyway...
I'm going to find my other post....sorry i went on and on.
I just hope that Adam isn't doing any of that to the girls.
I don't trust anyone...whether they "love" you like a father does or not.