Everyone's different. Whilst I don't know what I would do, I may decide to send them to school and play it all down with the kids as she could turn up at any time. (Of course presuming I know I didn't kill her!) That way I could do all I could to find my spouse with the kids otherwise occupied.
Agree alioop, everyone is different.
Please delete if this is not appropriate, I'm thinking it is as I'm trying to figure why GBC did not act in this way IMOO?
1.
If the spouse/partner was 'missing':
I would leave them with a
trusted relative while I searched as much as possible but I would not leave them for extended periods of time anywhere. GBC did not search for Allison.
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If the spouse/partner was found 'deceased':
For me, and I can't speak for anyone else, though to me most people would as it would be human nature to and we have primal instincts to defend/protect our offspring. Firstly, my primal instincts would kick in and if I knew I did nothing to cause my spouse/partner's demise, I would be fearful as to
who did and would not let my children out of my sight. I would seek psychologists/police advice and monitor their behaviour as well and then decide with the advice of professionals/police when they should go back into a school setting, most probably on staggered time frames, the timing of that I would go on Police advice again. I would go with them to the school for short periods of time, but I would still be around.
The Police psychologist/counsellor would help to explain to the children why this is occurring as well.
There can also be special instructions even through a Court that no one can pick up your children from school except yourself, though not foolproof.
Of course if I knew it was 'me' for argument's sake, who caused the spouses' demise, I would not be fearful of letting my children out of my sight because I would
know who the murderer is.
In relation to playing it down for the children, of course that's logical and good that you have mentioned it, I would do everything to try and play it down,I would show them strength explain to them why certain things have to occur, etc. Even if I was fearful (for them), I would not show them that fear, though I would still not allow them to be away from me. I would arrange Counselling immediately, through the school and then through Victims of Crime and be there with them. In the meantime I would be working with Police with my full co-operation, GBC has not done this, he has stayed silent, he has not given the QPS his full co-operation.
Interesting subject alioop, would be good if some verified poster who is a psychologist could elaborate on this sensitive matter? I guess in the long run it's up to the individual family, but I would go on Police advice.
P.S. He did not leave them out of his sight in the early days because imo he was afraid of what they would say. There are many things he did
not do to show he was worried for their safety.
All IMOO.
