I actually met him because he started dating my best friend. They later married.
She started dating him, not long before he went to jail for the car incident. I think both of us were pretty shocked when we found out he had to go to court, and was facing prison. Because he seemed like such a generally nice guy ... it was like "no way".
Yes, Sutton he was charming. If you met him you would tend to like him.
So I got to know him in the early stages of their relationship. And when he did go to jail, I would then travel with my friend to visit him (because it was 3 hours away).
We would sit around a picnic table and chat, but I would also try and give them some "alone time" where they could just chat to each other, and I would either stare off blankly into space, or suss out the other prisoners and their families lol.
However, on one of these trips, as we were leaving the jail, my friend suddenly told me that while they were chatting amongst themselves, he had told her that he had killed somebody in Sydney, and he was worried about them taking his DNA while he was in prison, in case it tied him to the crime.
Understandably, this freaked my friend out slightly. We kept going over and over, basically rehashing the same thoughts. Why would he say something like that? Obviously it couldn't be true ... could it? We simply could not comprehend how it could be true. He must be joking, but why on earth would you joke about something so awful?
The next day we went back to the jail, because she obviously needed to find out what the hell was going on. I left them to talk, and later she told me that he had told her that he had just made it up, as a "test". Supposedly to see if she was really committed to him while he was in prison.
This pissed both of us off. I mean she has supported him in court, they had already got engaged (yes, moved way too quick, but it happened), she was doing long trips to visit him in prison .... how many signs of committment did he want? So yes, we were pissed off, we thought it was a truly ****** thing for him to do, but we also both forgave him eventually, and I guess we just palmed it off as prison messing with his head a bit.
Anyway, life went on. I was meant to be a bridesmaid at their wedding (when he got out). I met my eventual hubby. My friend and I had a falling out, and we kind of didn't talk for a while. We eventually made up again, and my partner and I attended their wedding.
One of the examples of his charm was the speech he gave to toast her at their wedding. It was really lovely, and I remember thinking "Wow, what a sweet guy to speak so beautifully about his wife".
I had moved away to live with my partner, and we kind of drifted apart, as you sometimes do.
Anyway, the marriage did not last long. And when I eventually caught up with my friend, I found out that the marriage had ended, and he was behaving like a loony. He was threatening to kill himself. Threatening to kill her. Just generally harrassing, stalking etc. But his dark side had been revealed before they even split. He would lie ... about anything. Even stupid petty stuff that he had no reason to lie about. Like she would be driving to the shops and she would see him coming out of Subway with lunch, so she would say to him that night (after work) "Oh yeah, I seen you grabbing lunch at Subway". And he'd be like "No, I wasn't."
I mean absolutely no need to lie about something so trivial, but he would.
Or she would be in the kitchen, and he'd be in the next room, and he'd say "How was your day?" and she'd say "It was good. Had a coffee with mum" ... and he would then start muttering under his breath things like "Yeah, I know you were out ****ing around you stupid *advertiser censored*". And she would be standing there with her jaw hitting the floor thinking "You do realise you're saying that out loud?"
He would go out into the backyard at night, and she thought he was just going for a stretch or whatever after tea ... but later discovered he was actually Peeping Tom on her neighbour while the neighbour was in the shower. She also found out that he had been doing that kind of freaky **** when he was a teenager ... either peeping on people, or stealing women's underwear, but his parents tried to cover it up and keep him out of trouble with the police.
So, that explains why the marriage didn't last long. His creepy, lying, crazy, aggressive, manipulative personality came out, and it was nothing like the man she thought she married.
And, my fingers need a break after all that, but will conclude the story later lol
