During testimony today, I had to not cry FOR him and I am a friend of the Bosma's. I truly feel that his animosity towards DM and MS is shown by his willingness to be so vulnerable on the stand, telling the emotional truth and showing his family as well, that he made many epic mistakes. I actually can't imagine what he loves with every day and am not shocked he couldn't look to anyone in court that would truly make him emotionally fold.
First allow me to express to you my sincere condolences for your loss of your friend, Tim. As a member of the public, I am merely an observer and while not directly affected by Tim's murder, I do believe the nature of the brutal crime and its randomness has impacted everyone who knows about what happened to Tim because it clearly could have happened to anyone.
I can only imagine the many emotions you and all Tim's friends and family feel and grapple with now, and will forever no doubt, and I feel endless compassion for you all. It is beyond my comprehension how you all cope daily and especially having to endure this painful trial experience on top of the immense grief that is ongoing. ((((HUGS))))
Thank you for taking the time to reply to my post. It's helpful to hear your perspective. My perspective is that MH, while a sympathetic character, was involved in preventing evidence from reaching LE that could have made a big difference in the outcome of this trial. I agree that MH seems genuinely sorry for his past actions, but I do also get the sense that he is holding back on some of the details. JPC mentioned upthread that MH could have been charged with obstruction, and I agree. He is very fortunate that he too is not currently locked up and I think he now realizes it.
My comments this afternoon were about TD and his cross of MH which, in context of him representing MS's best interests in the trial, seemed to me to be a reasonable attempt on TD's part to show holes in MH's testimony or call him out on lies he had told to LE.
I can only think of this analogy in the moment, but if a husband is unfaithful to his wife and when caught expresses remorse, is it truly remorse if his wife feels justifiably angry and doesn't let him off the hook and yet the husband then feels unfairly punished by her anger and lack of forgiveness? IMO, the husband should accept that he broke his wife's heart and robbed her of trust. If he is truly remorseful he would expect that her forgiveness would come on her time-table and not merely because he said he's sorry, IMO. It takes time to believe someone after they admit to letting you down, IMO and in the meantime the perpetrator has to endure the victim's uncomfortable wrath until the victim has the chance to fully express it. I guess it's called taking one's lumps. IMO, one has to believe that remorse is genuine when expressed until finally it can be fully accepted and trust rebuilt.
In context of MH, I think he should expect that he has disappointed himself, his family and LE (initially) and TB's loved ones in this important investigation, and if I am to completely accept that his remorse is authentic, I would find it easier if he showed that he expects to be given a hard time to prove it. He should know that good people might still doubt his words and intentions, and therefore they may be suspicious of his words now in light of his previous actions.
I've probably not explained it all well, but I do hope that helps you and others see where I'm coming from.
Throughout, and until the end of this trial, verdict and sentencing, I am with you, as are we all, hoping for only one thing, to hear the whole truth that will deliver justice for TB, his family, his friends and the wider community.
God bless. You have a special angel watching over you all. :angel:
All MOO