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Regarding some of the time frames changing in stories - this does not bother me. I come from a dysfunctional family, I moved away, and I had limited contact with my father for about 5 years. I had regularly flown or driven home, though, over the last 20 years to be by my father's side through multiple health crises.Her interview today seems to be different in terms of amount/years of contact than her earlier interviews.
Now the one where I was told over the phone that he was permanently paralyzed and dying of cancer at one of the best hospitals in the nation, you would think I could remember the year that happened, especially considering all the snafus surrounding this trip. But earlier this year I realized that it was about 15 years ago, but I had been referring to it as 10 years ago. I am terrible about time. But I also know that all kinds of details get forgotten and mixed up when families are apart. When my siblings and I discuss past events, we do not agree, we routinely have moments where we go, OMG I forgot about that! And that's on reasonably recent events, and ones you would think are memorable.
Not only that, but sometimes it takes a while to realize that something that didn't stand out in your mind at the time was actually significantly linked to some greater situation.
I'm also not certain how much of what was going on should have registered with LT's siblings. We haven't talked about it, but it's DT's brother who actually went to Disneyland with the family. He's highly educated, president of a college, supposedly very Christian, married with two kids, and he spent actual time in the presence of these kids, yet apparently did nothing, and seems to be in hiding now, even taking a leave of absence from work.
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