agree the camping trip seemed like odd timing in retrospect. at the time it was nothing unusual at all.
we tried to read some plea or hidden message into Barb's last call to us... my fathers wife was the one who spoke to her.
that was quite a tense time for my family, in the hospital especially.
basically the doc had pulled us aside and said its either semi recovery in four days or we have to make some seriously difficult choices about how my fathers treatment would proceed... it was the first time doc had asked to speak to us outside of my father's presence... so talk of pushing barbs flights forward and of my family cancelling our anniversary trip to stay in hk were all in discussion and on the table.
my dad is stubborn on stubborn, and insisted no need to rush barb out to hk, and insisted no need for us to cancel our travel plans.
the reason i bring this up, even if barb wanted to reach out and tell us something, i feel she would have been the same kind of stubborn as my dad; the same way he didnt want barb to worry about him, or scare her with proposal to shift her to an earlier flight, i would think in those moments, barb would not have wanted my dad or his wife to have to worry about her.
even if she wanted to say something, i think she would have held her tongue out of fear she might add worry to our equation... just my opinion.