Nora Charles
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Obviously, what I'm about to say would only apply to someone in IM's situation. For anyone in NL's situation, I would certainly understand and expect a lack of concern about EC's fate - whether she was guilty of anything or not. She is the injured party and has a right to some callous disregard, in my view.
Call me old fashioned, but I believe in honor and I deeply disapprove of infidelity, period. But, if I were in IM's shoes, I think whether the missing person is a friend/acquaintance or a stranger would make a big difference in how I would react. Either way, I would obviously feel outraged that my friend had been cheated on. But how does one genuinely not care that someone you know is missing and/or dead? I just can't understand that. And, based on her actions and words, IM does not seem to care.
Being frank, I would probably feel that my missing friend/acquaintance contributed to whatever befell her through her dishonorable actions. The unnecessary tragedy of it would make me angry and sad for everyone involved. And, after what we see on here, I would also probably be a little worried that my friend was involved in her disappearance. But, I certainly hope and believe that I value life enough to genuinely hope that a person I know is found - no matter what. And that I could find more to say about her than "she was gentle with her horse".
This is the situation IM finds herself in. She is obviously not a cold or unfeeling person. She is fond of the Lees and she loves the horses. And she "loved" the stupid ceramic donkey enough to post about it's "killing". So, regardless of the affair, I find her obvious lack of concern about EC to be odd. Very odd indeed.
BBM
Exactly!!! I have a distant connection to a well-known unsolved case (missing, then found murdered), and have met a main suspect and some other key people a few times (someone I'm close to used to be extremely close to this suspect) and I'm still in shock...though I never even met the murdered!! Without saying more about the details - other than I'm about 95% convinced this suspect is innocent - I find the case shocking and disturbing because of the remote "connection" and my heart breaks for the loss of life. It's more than just an unsolved crime; it's an unsolved crime that affects my psyche somehow because I feel a connection.
It's different than people I have known who have died naturally or in accidents, or even the high school acquaintance who was later murdered by her stepfather. I don't know how else to describe it, but it's a far cry from "not caring." I can't understand that either...ESPECIALLY if it were someone I saw on a regular basis!