I'm an old grandma now but as a kid and later as an adult I never did drugs or drank, and yet the agony of my life is that my own daughter became a drug addict. I never even realized it until she stole my jewelry, including my engagement ring, and several thousand dollars.
So, I am one who is oblivious to the signs. She did well in school and was always home by curfew, was not stumbling around, and I truly didn't know.
Therefore my question is to the many of you who've described your youthful experiences with drugs and alcohol... Is it possible that Sami or any of the kids there are giving inconsistent stories, or not giving any info at all, because they have some blackouts in their memories?
I was also a kid who graduated at 16. All my friends were high-performing, none did drugs, our lives were focused on college, and our parties were sedate little affairs. Except for my own daughter, I've never been around drugged or drunk people. Not judging anyone here, it is just something that held no appeal for me.
But there's a lot that I'm ignorant about when it comes to signs unless it's extremely overt. Her mom knew Kiely had already gotten drunk at 15, because she couldn't drive her friend. I guess it's different in a rural area where kids do drive early. Here in NYC there are subways and buses and a plethora of things to do if you're not into substance abuse. It's a choice that some like my daughter chose to make.
I do think Kiely's in the water. It would be a Herculean task for stoned teenagers to bury a body and then dispose of a car. The treacherous roads we are talking about would have been just as treacherous for the other kids to drive while high, unless maybe some of the older kids had many years of driving experience there.
But every day my mind changes. I know they could've parked the car in some huge parking lot where it wouldn't be noticed. Look what happened just recently to Chrissy.
Hoping for Kiely's safe return, but the more time that goes by, the less likely that seems.
All jmo and (tragic) experience.
ETA: my daughter was a teen before cell phones were invented. If they'd been available, I would have 100% had her on location, and then maybe I would've figured it out. I'm a little taken aback by what is IMO a very laissez-faire attitude among all the parents. I was berserk when I found out about my daughter, and so was my ex-husband. I guess it's a different cultural mindset???????