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I have been following this forum since the beginning but this is my first time posting. This is a such a heartbreaking case and it hits close to home for me. I lost my toddler daughter suddenly and unexpectedly last year, and also have a 5 year old daughter, so opposite of the O family. Although the circumstances are obviously different, my daughter was not the victim of a violent crime, the suddenness and shock and absolute devastation must be similar. I feel so badly for this family and what they are going through. It is a living nightmare that you can never wake up from. There will never be a normal for this family again, or for my own family. Therapists and other parents who have lost children speak of a "new normal" that happens. It sounds cliche but it is true. My husband, daughter and I are somehow living this new normal. It starts by simply getting up, caring for your living child, going to buy groceries, taking a walk to the park, just gradually resuming your daily activities. I hope the memorial service helps the family with their grieving process somehow. I think it's an important step. I think about these families all the time, particularly JO losing her precious little boy. It is unfathomable to me how someone can harm a child. Sorry my post is so long, it must be therapeutic for me.
From someone who knows the pain of losing both my children, my most sincere sympathy and understanding. My heart truly, truly goes out to you calgarymom. If there are times you need another shoulder, I'm here. :hug: