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Yes I agree - but I would note that the court (Madam Justice Price) relied on the court appointed professional (Dr. Wendy Froberg) so the caution goes both ways. Can’t assume that because the mother’s family went to this extreme means “they must have had a good reason” and that therefore father is narcissistic and abusive. Anger and hatred in these disputes is common.
Here is a quote from the judge in the custody case:
“Furthermore, what is clear from the evidence is that Colin is trying to have parenting time with the Children and his time is being interfered with to the extreme as earlier outlined. The parties both admit that the Children have been traumatized by recent events that occurred while Colin was attempting to access his parenting time. However, I find that Jacqueline has significantly contributed to this trauma. I would even say she ignited it, and now it is aflame.
To ensure the greatest possible protection of the Children's physical, psychological and emotional safety and considering their needs and circumstances, they need to be reunified with their father, andtheir mother needs to stop her obstructive, intrusive poisonous behaviour.”
Absolutely reasonable to keep an open mind without having facts. My father is a textbook narcissist and he managed to convince a female therapist that both of his young children were lying about his behavior. I was 5 and will never forget it. He was calm and charming. My mother was a hysterical basket case because she knew how dangerous he was. Thankfully his charms didn’t have the same effect when a male judge heard us. Not saying that’s the case here, but that’s why I will keep an open mind. The judge’s words about the mother come across like a scorned lover for some reason. Just unprofessional using “poisonous” especially, unless there are some serious facts we don’t know about. Refusing to reschedule when the wife’s attorney couldn’t attend seems vindictive too. And what kind of good does it do to let a judge assess themself for a bias complaint?. Keeping my mind open for now. MOO...This is really such an unusual case. I think we have to be careful not to vilify the Mother (Jacqui) without knowing more. It is not unheard of in abusive situations that Narcissistic Fathers can appear to charm the courts while the mother who is trying to protect her children is called 'obstructive', 'hysterical' and blamed for 'parental alienation'. In fact for a simple separation agreement to go this far and even APPEAR before a Judge should raise eyebrows. I am not suggesting in any way that this is the situation in this case because we haven't heard a whisper of any abuse but it is strange that the mother, grandmother and Aunt seem to feel that there was a need to remove the children.
Good article on the topic
Why Divorces Involving Allegations of Abuse Still Confound Family Courts
Anger IS common but about 80% of cases are settled out of court and of those, the ones that become protracted typically do involve abuse. Abusers use the courts to continue to attempt to control their partners.
Anger IS common but about 80% of cases are settled out of court and of those, the ones that become protracted typically do involve abuse. Abusers use the courts to continue to control their partners.
Yes I agree - but I would note that the court (Madam Justice Price) relied on the court appointed professional (Dr. Wendy Froberg) so the caution goes both ways. Can’t assume that because the mother’s family went to this extreme means “they must have had a good reason” and that therefore father is narcissistic and abusive. Anger and hatred in these disputes is common.
Absolutely reasonable to keep an open mind without having facts. My father is a textbook narcissist and he managed to convince a female therapist that both of his young children were lying about his behavior. I was 5 and will never forget it. He was calm and charming. My mother was a hysterical basket case because she knew how dangerous he was. Thankfully his charms didn’t have the same effect when a male judge heard us. Not saying that’s the case here, but that’s why I will keep an open mind. The judge’s words about the mother come across like a scorned lover for some reason. Just unprofessional using “poisonous” especially, unless there are some serious facts we don’t know about. Refusing to reschedule when the wife’s attorney couldn’t attend seems vindictive too. And what kind of good does it do to let a judge assess themself for a bias complaint?. Keeping my mind open for now. MOO...
Abduction is not the answer; we do agree on that.The issue of rescheduling was mentioned in the Decision of Justice Price (linked in above posts) dated Jan 18th, because the mother wanted the judge removed. “The mother’s application to have me disqualified as case manager is dismissed.”
That’s not the hearing whereby the father was granted full custody, which reportedly occurred on the same day the children were allegedly abducted, on March 12th. However it does appear the mother refused to cooperate with a Court Ordered Reunification Plan. What’s contained within that March 12th Order we don’t know but assumably it contains information in support of the Judge’s decision.
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This appears to me to be an instance where the mother is determined to refuse the father any access to the children whatsoever and has also refused participation in the court ordered Family Reunification Plan. Abduction by her mother and sister is certainly not the solution.
Abduction is not the answer; we do agree on that.
They may think they have good reason but is abducting the children a solution? Surely not.
Even dad’s in prison are granted visitation - the reality is courts believe access to both parents is the best for the children, regardless of what one parent thinks. If the mother believes she can be successful in erasing their father from their lives, unfortunately the outcome is often adult children who require a lifetime of counselling to cope with abandonment issues or the parental stifle that surrounded them.
As for girlfriends or boyfriends of either spouse, yes that often adds fuel to the fire involving sudden “competition” on the scene - often a fear the children will become attached to another parental-type figure. Reality is the more adult role-models a child has, the better off they are, assuming they’re healthy ones.
This family feud seems like something requiring Dr Phil intervention. Its very sad those two sweet beautiful children are stuck in the centre.
JMO
I think the biggest unknown factor is why the mother and her family are going to such lengths to keep the children from him. I don’t get the sense this is just a hostile hatred toward each other. She must believe he is dangerous. Her family must believe the same. They are facing criminal prosecution for their actions and they would have been well aware of that going into this.
I think the biggest unknown factor is why the mother and her family are going to such lengths to keep the children from him. I don’t get the sense this is just a hostile hatred toward each other. She must believe he is dangerous. Her family must believe the same. They are facing criminal prosecution for their actions and they would have been well aware of that going into this.