I have to disagree.To me it was CA in control of the whole situation.I don't think FCA was manipulating her mother,I think CA knew FCA was not working,knew all her lies just like she knew all GA's lies but wanted it that way.Because that's how she stayed in control and could play the victim at the same time.
I don't think FCA cared at all whether or not her parents were together or not.She just cared about herself and with Caylee around she would never have been able to break from CA's control.I don't think FCA has the ability to feel deep.It was not hard for her to murder her own precious baby and make believe it was all for the better
I think it's a little of both. Casey is a splitter. Black and white thinking, which is very typical of BPD. BPD folks tend to have people that they believe are "good" and ones that are "bad" in their lives. In my experience, that can even change rapidly. As an example, on Monday one particular person may be able to do no wrong, but another will be the whipping boy. On Tuesday, it's the other way around. I have also seen that BPD people have people in their lives that can do no right at all, ever. Sorry, a little off track here.
FCA probably thought she was in complete control. I think in a way she was manipulating CA. I believe that CA was aware of at least some of the lies FCA has told, but somehow wanted to deny them/sweep them under the rug/deal with them later. I think every so often CA's frustration with FCA would "build up" and that's when arguments happened. But for the most part, their relationship was one of those where FCA would get away with something and CA wouldn't call her out on it, so it kept going and going. Why change a pattern if it works, right? Also, I believe CA needed GA because he is easy to manipulate. He's CA's and FCA's life-long whipping boy. As for LA, that's a tough one. I think he was torn. Maybe he too shares some characteristics of the narcissism/controlling, etc., (because when your family is that way, it's "all you know", it's your "normal"), but perhaps was actually aware that this wasn't necessarily "normal". Dunno.
As for Caylee...she was a "whoops", so she was doomed from the beginning. IIRC, CA was willing to take full custody of Caylee after she was born. I believe that FCA felt that she would lose any control she believe she had if she allowed that to happen.
Regarding FCA's capability to have deep feelings...I believe she is capable of deep feelings of
resentment. Overall, her feelings are quite shallow otherwise. Since she had her new love interest, TonE. She saw him as "all good". No room in that soul/brain for anymore than one "all good" person. Her thoughts at that time were that she'd do just about anything to keep him. He didn't want Caylee staying overnight at his apartment like FCA had done at Ricardo's. Thus, she became resentful of Caylee. Perhaps she already had resentment towards her due to her power struggle with CA. She resented CA too. I think the compound of resentment toward both Caylee and CA came to a head in June 2008. It had always been there, but this was the straw that broke the camel's back, so to speak. I believe FCA had a lot in her head that justified killing her daughter (typing that makes me emotional). And she has no remorse.
This is based on my personal experience with my mother having BPD and is also
JMO.