They are dysfunctional not mentally handicapped or void of understanding right from wrong or having common sense! Cindy certainly attended and graduated college just fine- held a job just fine.. she also has no police record from her supposed inability to control her actions. Their dysfunction only negativly effected their parenting abilities? Naw, sorry but such dysfunction does not work that way. Every relationship they formed (including employers, c0-workers, friends, lovers) would have been as "misguided" and troublesome if that were the case.
So I'm sorry, I disagree.. they very well DO have the ability to know what they were doing wrong... They knew enough to hide and lie to "outsiders" about not only their own behaviors but Casey's as well.
Understanding right from wrong does not translate to knowing how to be good parents or having common sense when it comes to their loved ones. This is a dysfunctional family. They do not know how to function as a family or relate to one another in a healthy way. That includes in their parenting. They see things in an impaired way. For example, if you told them about a situation with another family similar to the one they are in now, before casey killed Caylee, they would say:"My God, how horrible!" And have tons of things to say about how the family should have parented differently. They would never see themselves in that family. They see themselves as normal, functioning and healthy.
By the way, I know a few people with personality disorders and/or dysfunctional families that present a pretty good front to the public. It is quite possible to be a delusional mess about how wonderful one's hideous child is and how great they are parenting that child, and at the same time function normally at work or when dealing with others with whom they lack a close, family tie.
But, most people with personality disorders and families as dysfucntional as I think the Anthonys are, cannot keep it together well in general. And I acutally do not think that Anthonys have kept it together. I don't think they function well at all in life in general. Evidence to support that?: 1. GA and CA do not appear to have any real friends. 2. GA does not have a job. 3. It appears there have been marital problems, talk of divorce, gambling issues, etc., in that family. 4. It appears there may be a history of family estrangements in that family (Uncle Rick who disowned his son, possibly for good cause).
We do not know how CA is thought of at work. She may be thought of as a real nut. But, as I stated above, she could be impaired emotionally in her personal life and still hold it together professionally. The two do not always relate.
For example, I know a few nutty nurses who are capable of hiding who they are at work. One I know was a mother, the opposing side in a case I litigated, who abandoned her 9 year old son at her new boyfriend's house (she had been seeing the man for 3 months). She told the man to take the boy to a baseball game but did not return later that night as planned. She then showed up around midnight, where she confronted her frantic and crying child and worried boyfriend with a bag of the child's clothes, threw them at the boy and as he wailed, told him: "I don't want you anymore!" She told the man: "You keep him." The man eventually tracked down my client, the father, who had weekend visitation at that time. After over a year of litigation, including emergency hearings, psych evals, etc., it was discovered that the mom was an alcoholic with bi-polar disorder on Depakote. She kept fighting for her kid, all the while torturing him with bizarre ploys to make him hysterical so she could tape him and show how sad he was at Dad's house, until finally she told the Court to f%&* off, that she would no longer participate in evals or attend hearings and she lost custody. Dad has had the child for several years now and the mother simply stopped calling. Her younger son from a different marriage went into the system. But she always kept her job as a nurse at a very well-known hospital. No one there knew anything about her "problems". She is one example I have of several. So, I disagree that the Anthonys cannot be so impaired in their relationships and parenting that they do not know how to raise their kids properly, if they work, etc.
Finally, even if they knew exactly what they were doing by spoiling and enabling casey in the way they did, you did not address my other points that despite this, it would be a stretch to say that they could or should have predicted that casey would actually kill Caylee. Again, no one saw actual neglect, abuse, etc. They were just two grandparents who were tired of their errant, lying daughter leaving them the bulk of the responsibility for Caylee and did not quite know what to do about it.
P.S., It appears CA did acutally belatedly try, if what many of us feel happened on June 15 actually happened. Too little, too late. But the sad thing is that this confrontation may have been the catalyst for casey's eventual murder of her precious daughter.
The Anthonys screwed up but I still maintain that they never could have known how bad until now and that their delusions continue to prevent them from seeing what everyone else does.