Ariane
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No matter what she had written, there would be people who found fault with it somehow and never could have been satisfied by anything written by CA. But I think she did a lovely job in what had to have been very difficult to write. After acknowledging how so many strangers were captivated by what we saw of Caylee and feel saddened by the loss, she said that for those who actually knew her, the loss is even more painful and may never heal. As someone who didn't know Caylee, I do not feel hurt by what is simply the truth. We know her from some photographs and a few clips of video which reveal a vibrant, caring, lovely little girl. But they knew her every moment, they knew her hugs and kisses, the sparkle of her eyes, the smell of her skin, her first steps, her first words. I'm not addressing any individual here or elsewhere --and I may not be understanding what people mean--but IMO, if any strangers do have their feelings hurt by this, maybe they should consider whether they have become so emotionally involved in this case that they want to feel--to sort of pretend to themselves--that they really knew Caylee, and therefore resent anything that interrupts their fantasy. I don't think what she said was meant to discourage people who did not know her from attending, OR to discourage their caring, but to acknowledge the outpouring of affection from afar while expressing how great the grief of those who knew and loved her.
It is very common (and appropriate) for obituaries to ask that instead of buying flowers, people make donations to a charity. And it is wonderful that Caylee has inspired people to help so many other children who are less well known than she became posthumously. I think that must help them feel like she did not die in vain. It would have been nice if she had mentioned TES since they did get many donations in honor of Caylee and spent much time and money .... but I suppose Cindy is still having difficulty reconciling her feelings about those who she felt did not support her hope (her denial) and perhaps still does not see how unreasonable it was, because facing what the evidence points to is still so painful. I'm glad she did not say anything about Casey besides listing her.
ETA: just saw the comment by Valhall who did a great job at making the point of the task of writing an obituary for 2 groups.
It is very common (and appropriate) for obituaries to ask that instead of buying flowers, people make donations to a charity. And it is wonderful that Caylee has inspired people to help so many other children who are less well known than she became posthumously. I think that must help them feel like she did not die in vain. It would have been nice if she had mentioned TES since they did get many donations in honor of Caylee and spent much time and money .... but I suppose Cindy is still having difficulty reconciling her feelings about those who she felt did not support her hope (her denial) and perhaps still does not see how unreasonable it was, because facing what the evidence points to is still so painful. I'm glad she did not say anything about Casey besides listing her.
ETA: just saw the comment by Valhall who did a great job at making the point of the task of writing an obituary for 2 groups.