Abby Normal Again
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But it is not just a 'he said/she said' in the case of dad having sex outside in view of the family home. Because there were 'witnesses'---his sons.
Also, in the case where dad was arrested for menacing/assault/child abuse etc, it was a NEIGHBOR that called the cops, not mom. So it is not just a 'he said/she said situation. There were witnesses to Dad's volatility and temper tantrums.
Yes, I do think there is substance to the hot head/temper part. It's documented in other areas.
Regarding witnesses: I would still want to have an outside version of it. We know it was said that there were witnesses, but we don't see anyone else's account. I don't know what went down. I was raised around enough dysfunction to know that perspective get really messed up, *especially* when everyone is drinking. (which we don't know!!) I've watched as something went from a theoretical to joint belief that it actually happened. Alcohol is a strange thing when you add it in mass volume to a dysfunctional group.
I was raised around people who made claims like that, and there was always some truth- but if you were the sober one (as I always was) it looks way different than it did to everyone else. At the risk of exposing more about myself than I like to, I had a very similar situation with my step mom and a neighbor man. It went way out of control and eventually led to her trying to run him over in a car. Then she evaded police and wouldn't pull over for them. And she never faced charges for it, they let it go. They put her in a mental hospital instead for about a week, and I was charged with taking care of her kids in her house completely by myself. And that brings me to another thing- they were already separated, but basically lived on the same street. Yeah.
In my case, my step mom was by far the crazy one. She would lock herself in room in a RAGE until she looked like she'd been beat up. She would BEAT my dad with two fists and if he tried to hold her arms away she would immediately scream abuse and yell at me that I was her witness that he was abusive. And she went into abuse protection homes on way more than one occasion. She's still living a dysfunctional life, while my Dad remarried and has a normal, healthy, happy relationship. He tried way too long to make that one work.
I'm not applying this to ER, because this us someone else's baggage. I don't have ANY reason to believe ER is ANYTHING like this. NONE. My only point is that at Dylan's age I was around this kind of dysfunction, and IMO how drunk people tell the story the following day is not at all what really happened. So if there were multiple people drinking, it's really really hard to say what actually went down that night. JMO
