Megnut
A piece of peace is peace enough.
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What give stepmoms bad connotations are INSECURE STEPMOMS. And I mean PATHOLOGICALLY INSECURE stepmoms. The same thing that might possess a woman to steal her friend's husband can likewise spur her to steal the friend's children. To feel superior. The better woman. The better mom.
If I do my math, there are very young ages involved at the time of affair/ courtship/remarriage. Speaking in generalities, a child that has a well-established and well-maintained relationship with his actual parent may resist cunning attempts to get him to betray or replace that. A much younger child has less capacity to discern which makes them easier, if you will, to manipulate. A younger child will "love" whoever gives them more cookies. IMO
So....if an ill-suited stepparent WERE to harbor favoritism and resentment, a less discerning child would garner the former and the more discerning child, the latter. IMO. Love the one that'll sit on your lap.
Based solely on the back-facing interview alone, I see someone who has a serious sense of entitlement-- "I don't care what people think" IMO means "oh, but I DO." "I need people to think I'm whatever I want them to think. "
A secure stepmom knows her stepchildren love their mothers first and foremost, and they support that. Other stepmoms are preposterously threatened by it. Perhaps it's a matter of degree, but greater degrees will have more painful results, greatest degrees might have deadly ones.
We'll see if this underlay what happened here.
JMO
If I do my math, there are very young ages involved at the time of affair/ courtship/remarriage. Speaking in generalities, a child that has a well-established and well-maintained relationship with his actual parent may resist cunning attempts to get him to betray or replace that. A much younger child has less capacity to discern which makes them easier, if you will, to manipulate. A younger child will "love" whoever gives them more cookies. IMO
So....if an ill-suited stepparent WERE to harbor favoritism and resentment, a less discerning child would garner the former and the more discerning child, the latter. IMO. Love the one that'll sit on your lap.
Based solely on the back-facing interview alone, I see someone who has a serious sense of entitlement-- "I don't care what people think" IMO means "oh, but I DO." "I need people to think I'm whatever I want them to think. "
A secure stepmom knows her stepchildren love their mothers first and foremost, and they support that. Other stepmoms are preposterously threatened by it. Perhaps it's a matter of degree, but greater degrees will have more painful results, greatest degrees might have deadly ones.
We'll see if this underlay what happened here.
JMO