I think I need to backtrack myself. Before a parent can accept that their child is dangerous they must first know the signs that this child has the potential to become dangerous. Most of us, IMO, are not educated enough to interpret the signs early enough to head off problems BEFORE our child becomes dangerous. How do we see them beyond our love for them? Do we have a child psychologist available to tell us what to watch for in our 1 year old, 5 year old, 10 year old?
that is why we need parenting classes as a requirement in school. There are simple things that make a difference for children
1. Answer their cries as an infant. Infants cannot be spoiled.
2. Do not leave your infant in containers--infant seats, car seats, etc for anything but necessity such as going to the bathroom . People with physical limitations can figure something out with a doctor.
3. Do not prop your baby on a pillow or something like that if you feed a bottle. Hold, hold, hold your baby.
4. Talk to your child. That does not mean giving commands, but actual conversation. There are many studies done on this very topic and the positive outcomes of talking with your child using lots of higher order vocabulary.
5. Read to your child. Even an infant. Lots and lots of studies on this.
6. If your child is having a meltdown, tell the child you are there for him/her. Use words to describe what is happening such as ,"You are angry that you cannot have that whatever." Let the child know that it is OK to be angry and offer suggestions when the child settles down. Trying to talk to a child when s/he is in the throes of a meltdown is unproductive Holding, cuddling are all good ways to show your support Even if the child is really young, you can give words to solutions if the child is not able to. I have used this approach for several years with high risk children and it works.