Based on the remaining little bit of voice of Suzanne that Barry didn't silence, it's clear to me that Suzanne did not comingle her money. She agreed to loan it to Barry who said he would pay her back. His boasts of what he could earn in a summer. Was she supposed to grovel to get her money back?
Yes, at divorce, the law might be harsh. Comingled by choice and comingled by fraud may be treated the same in a court of law, but Suzanne didn't get a chance to fight that battle or learn that hard lesson.
What she had was a husband who, based on what we can gather, convinced her to front her inheritance for PP with the promise and expectation of having it returned in full.
What we don't know is what tactics he used to effect that arrangement.
We also have no proof that Suzanne picked that home. We only know that's what she told her sister. At a time when Suzanne was trying to take a bad marriage and lean into a fresh start. It's entirely possible and equally probable IMO that she wasn't ready to invite scrutiny into her marriage. That is not unique to her.
As for the house, if Suzanne did any choosing, we don't know what she had for actual choices. As simple as between two listings or as complex as between a house, any house and Barry threatening suicide.
Listen, Suzanne, you know I love you. You can trust me. When have I ever been untrustingworthy? We can get the house and I'll pay you back. You don't want the girls to grow up in a plain house. I'm going to pay it back, I can make a million dollars this summer. I pay people back. 100%. My whole life I pay people back.
Suzanne didn't divorce Barry in 2018 (from his own mouth, we know he wouldn't even discuss it. Which is CONTROL. Stonewalling is abusive.).
She moved to Colorado. Left family and friends and her support system behind.
She mothered her children, battled cancer, kept a home, made an impression locally, provided her security toward that fresh start with the declared stipulation it be returned -- she wasn't demanding a civil contract with Barry, she was trusting a moral one. He said he would...
What did Barry do, toward a fresh start?
I think it's safe to say one party in that marriage had no intention of changing, and when the other one realized it, she began to change, no longer willing to let another person subvert her free agency.
He didn't like it one bit.
Ballsy.
So he made good on his promise. Marriage is for life and he loved her to death.
Only it was never love of her.
JMO