Alethea
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I agree with this. I also have to say I would have to see convincing evidence before I would believe any of my loved one committed murder even if I know they may have a temper, and I’m way past being a child. This seems completely normal in my eyes and even more so if we are talking about a parent who has taken care of me up until now. It’s human not wanting to believe something bad like this over somebody so close to us, unless the person did bad things to us too before this already. Later on with evidence presented my view could and would change.
I’m so sorry for M &M, this must be extremely difficult. My heart goes out to them.
I agree, you see this a lot. We hear about some offenders being difficult and abusive people but many can compartmentalize and are sweet to their own families. If you lived 20 years and every experience you had with your dad, day in and day out, was positive and loving - it is very hard to think that same person could be a monster. It is easy for us because we come in after the crime is committed and look with a critical lens. But when you have a genuine attachment, it is hard to sever that. In some people denial takes over as a defense mechanism - it is easier to believe the unbelievable than think your loved one is evil. As long as they do not interfere with the investigation or prosecution I try to ignore any family because there's no real good answer for them. Human emotions are too complicated.