I don't see conflict, but crisis and this family is experiencing a horrific one. There will many statements/behaviors associated with this crisis and their grief such as disbelief, anger, confusion, shock, sadness, despair, guilt, humiliation, anxiety, fatigue, obsessional thoughts, and denial They may also begin to show physical symptoms that occur with acute grief. Eventually this crisis will affect all aspects of their lives including their personal finances, marriage, social support systems, the relationship with their previous spouse, and their long-term mental and physical health.
(Please, Lord, let Kyron be found. Send comfort and support to his family.)
Thank you, Pensfan. It's beyond me why people think that these grieving parents, and I mean real grieving parents, are expected to have full cognition and mental health, no wear and tear, and are supposed to think through everything they've said or done. Oh, and they were supposed to be psychic and know that something was going to happen to Kyron before hand and get him out of a bad situation. Desiree was supposed to rip Kyron out of his father's home that he had known for years just because of suspicion she couldn't prove. Kaine was supposed to be an anti - man, intuitive as a woman and know all the warning signs and get rid of Terri before this could happen.
Yes, they were supposed to be perfect parents with perfect attention to everything, and only say perfect words and phrases that didn't bash or paint poor Terri in in a bad light in any way - after all she hasn't done anything to make herself look bad, or acted in a way that has made herself look bad. She's just a poor victim of evil people bent on destroying her and should be left alone. It's the other parents that are evil, it's other parents that made Kyron disappear and she's just their fall guy in all of this.
And people seriously expect this when their world has been ripped apart, their beloved child taken from them? Who among us would be capable of rational thought, capable of watching ourselves at all times, of seeing all the signs beforehand and not looking back afterwards and seeing all of the signs, of considering the feelings of the one woman who has done nothing but act suspicious and bring down suspicion on herself? I wouldn't remember to take showers or have a thought that resembled something coherent if my child, yes, I'm talking about my stepchild, were taken. Yet here KH, DY, and TY are held to impossible standards. They are to be perfect and do and say no wrong in a most imperfect, horrid time in their lives. And if they're not praising Terri, not supporting her, not saying nice things about, then they're bad, evil people?
I know we don't know much. I know we don't know what the police have or how much of it. I know all we do know has come from interviews and Terri's actions and that's still not enough to have a good decision about anybody in this case. And yes, I do suspect Terri. But I also feel a lot more for the parents actually grieving for Kyron, the one's whose lives have really been ripped apart, the ones who actually act and talk like they GIVE A DAMN about Kyron. Because after following the Anthony case, where no one in that whole damn family acts like a murdered child ever meant anything to them, I am all for people who are actually grieving, who are actually still trying to come to terms with what happened and who did it, and who are not acting crazy and bringing suspicion down on themselves every step of the way while not appearing to care Kyron or the rest of her kids at all.
Those who expect perfection from loving parents who lost their children have obviously never been through a situation like this. I haven't either, but I know that they aren't themselves, they aren't fully capable of really being themselves or censoring themselves very much at this point, and to expect them to shower Terri with love and concern when she clearly doesn't deserve it and may have been involved with happened to Kyron is unbelievable.
I applaud them for stopping the press conferences because I think it was wearing on them, and tearing them up. Imagine having to directly confront the situation twice a week like that in front of national media. We don't know what they were like once the cameras were turned off. I think they held up long enough to get off camera and almost fall apart.
I know there's no solid of evidence of Terri's involvement, but I'm not willing to blindly say she has to be innocent and tear apart every word of the other parents to garner more sympathy for Terri. She hasn't given anyone one solid reason to have sympathy for her. She shows she cares, she shows she's more human than someone who's totally selfish and hiding something, then she'll get my sympathy.
And if for some reason it turns she didn't have anything to do with this, I will feel bad for suspecting her, but I still won't like her. She's still a messed up woman who never left high school and thinks she can go through life behaving they way she does. That is not a person I would ever trust or want to know. And sooner or later, if she didn't hurt Kyron, she'll hurt someone else, I'm sure of it. All IMO, of course.